To think wash my clothes too!

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Just that really. I’m a full time working mum and my partner is the SAHP. When he puts a wash on, he only ever puts in his and our DS’ clothes so that I have to then do a wash later after finding out there’s nothing clean for me myself. I’ve asked him multiple times if he can please put my clothes in too but he never does - frustrating because this morning I needed certain clothes that I’d put at the top of the washing basket but they were still there this morning despite DP doing the washing yesterday. When I put a wash on, I make sure to do everybody’s clothes. I’m probably BU and I don’t mean to sound lazy but it’s frustrating me!!

Have you actually said to him 'Why do you not wash my clothes?' And not taken 'Oh, I'll do it in future' for an answer?
It's really bizarre.

Surely the bigger issue is his a ) refusal to acknowledge to the OP that he is doing it deliberately - when his actions clearly say he is and b) refusal to speak to the OP about whatever the issue is that is making him deliberately set aside her clothes specifically.

If he said - I hate washing your stuff because of xyz or I'm fucked off doing all the laundry and you not.... at least then you'd be able to address it.

But his - "oh I'll do it next time" - would really piss me off. If you have a problem - say it.

I don't know if anyone has suggested this as a possibility yet but do you have five times as many clothes as he does?
I'm a SAHM and sometimes I prioritise my washing over DH's because he has LOADS more clothes than I do so if I don't wash my own I have literally nothing else to wear because I only own 5 tshirts to his 25 tshirts.

I'm a sahm and do all dh and dc washing...I wouldn't leave his out. I divide the clothes up by colour not person. It would be more of a faff to individually pick his items of clothes out and leave them. I just bung everyone's in together. I think doing otherwise is petty and mean

I'm a SAHM and sometimes I prioritise my washing over DH's

But surely the person leaving the house to work is the one that really needs to be properly dressed? Particularly depending on the professional and judging by the OP, she is working in a professional environment where she needs to be "turned out".

@Comedycook

I'm a sahm and do all dh and dc washing...I wouldn't leave his out. I divide the clothes up by colour not person. It would be more of a faff to individually pick his items of clothes out and leave them. I just bung everyone's in together. I think doing otherwise is petty and mean

Yes, this too. We do a 30 wash and a 40 wash; whoever's doing the wash obviously does all the clothes that go in at that temperature.

I've been home on mat leave and doing all the laundry... clothes get sorted by colour and my daughter's stuff is washed separately with non-bio. Would be extra work to sift out my partner's clothes and purposely not wash them! Absolutely bizarre and feels passive aggressive to always exclude you like that. 2 adults and 1 kid here as well... there isn't excessive amounts of washing like some here suggested! I only do laundry 2-3 days a week at most and bunging stuff into the washer then dryer is hardly a chore for me.