Are kids really different when they're your own?

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Just that really.

I'd like to hear from people who don't enjoy kids except their own.

I have decided to have kids but really generally don't find them interesting at all and quite like to escape from others to be honest unless they're quiet and well behaved.

So I'm wandering if others have felt like this had their own and been fine with them because they're 'your own'?

@SarahAndQuack you've summed up exactly my thoughts!!

To be honest though as I mature I am getting much kore comfortable I'm not faking that I want to play with the kids etc and just say no!! I didn't have the confidence to do that when I was younger.

[quote youtown]@SarahAndQuack you've summed up exactly my thoughts!!

To be honest though as I mature I am getting much kore comfortable I'm not faking that I want to play with the kids etc and just say no!! I didn't have the confidence to do that when I was younger. [/quote]
Glad to be of use!

It's funny, isn't it - people do tend to assume all young women love babies and it'll be such a treat for you to get to cuddle theirs/play with their toddlers. I remember secretly wondering if I was weird. Now, of course, because I have my own I am perfectly well aware any meeting of parents of babies/toddlers is full of women saying how bloody boring it is playing with them, and I realise it's entirely normal.

(They are lovely, btw, and I'm not judging anyone who genuinely enjoys endless games of pretend, it's just I'd rather pull my own hair out, personally.)

Weirdly, I’m the other way. I never minded other people’s children before I had them. I’d always cuddle the babies, rush to see them, play with other children etc.

Now I have my own, I can’t stand other people’s children. I feel like I have enough to do minding my own, I have no heed in doing it or anything even vaguely like it, now!

I wasn't very keen to have children as I found them a bit boring, especially babies, I remember being so not interested in my brothers kids when they were babies, would avoid them actually, although I did enjoy the odd game with them as toddlers but for as short a time as possible.

I now have two DC and while they can be a bit boring at times in all honesty (I mean do I enjoy playing Minecraft or Barbies ?- no I don't at all) I do find watching them grow and experience new things fascinating. Especially now both are in school - how quickly they learn and the amazing discussions you can have with them.

Also I love them, the bond between a parent and child is (for most parents anyway) something that cannot be put into words. I would kill for them, I would die for them. I would suffer pain a million times over to stop them feeling it once. This is something that you cannot understand until you have your own.

yes it really is different
I'd only held a couple of babies briefly before having my own. Other babies are kind of gross and wierdly squishy and have a funny smell to them... mine however is lovely and snuggly and smells like milk and love!
Now she's nearly toddling and other babies/toddlers the same age are just simply not as good haha (not that I'd tell them that)! Somehow your own is beautiful and clever and the gross stuff like wiping mixed porridge/snot out of their eyes because they rubbed it in there is only a bit icky, not fully disgusting!

Yes it's different.

When someone elses kid rolls over, its like well of course they've learned to roll over, they're a baby, that's what they do.

When your own kid has rolled over it's absolutely amazing that this little tiny creature who couldn't lift their head a few months ago has spent every day trying and trying and learning and getting stronger and finally managed to completely surprise themselves and do it. It's just fascinating seeing the process of them learning how to do it.

And that's just one tiny element, everything else is much the same

I don’t enjoy other people’s small children at all. So much so that I’m pregnant currently and will still engineer moving tables restaurants/cafes to avoid being near one.

However I’m really looking forward to having my own, so much so that we spent a house deposit size figure on IVF. I really can’t wait to meet him/her and feel very maternal towards them.

I am not a kiddie sort of person. Friends' children grate on my nerves and I have a visceral reaction to some of them.

My DD? Why, she's an utter fragrant angel.