To help me make some friends (Absolutely desperate here…)

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I’ve never been good at making friends. I had a best friend in primary school and one best friend in secondary. I’ve moved abroad after high school and worked my way up on the ladder, so I never went to uni/collage.

I’ve made some friends but nothing solid and all of the frizzled out. I have a boyfriend we’ve been together for quite some time (8 years). Since I met him I really didn’t make an effort to find or make friends. I’m now 30 and have absolutely no friends whatsoever. It doesn’t help that I’m not a very social person. I’m more of a homie and get lost in my thoughts a lot. But I’m lonely… and feel extremely jealous when I walk pass a restaurant and see some girlfriends having dinner and all. I feel extremely stuck and really don’t know what to do. Please help. I’m feeling so lonely!

I totally get you. It is tricky. I’ve found since lockdown my friendships have really dwindled. I need to pluck up the courage to go to a local club and try to make new friends I’m pretty shy so struggle to put myself out there. I’m in cornwall so not much help to you.

@Chill09 me too! The middle of the county if any good to you? Feel exactly the same, got in a lockdown rut and am trying to take some positive action to meet new people. It's scary though when you haven't done it for a while.

If you're near me, I'd be happy to share ideas or meet for coffee.

Not read all the replies so sorry if I'm repeating things that have already been suggested....

Sport clubs - running groups, team sports, even something like bowls if you're not particularly active. There are often associated social events.

Pretty sure there are dating style apps to make friends. On my local fb group there are always posts about people having moved into the area and asking if anyone wants to meet up.

Local book clubs - some bars around here run them so you can have a glass of wine and relax into it!

Evening course?

Could you do some double dates with your partner's couple friends?

I'm in my 30s and have two young kids. They're how I've made most of my recent friends. I went to a lot of baby groups. These women are now a huge support in my life.