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To think you take a killed cat to the vets, not dump it on a grass verge

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CoastalWave · 07/01/2022 13:43

Post on FB says 'Found' a dead cat in the middle of the road. Couldn't do anything other than move it to the side as I was busy. " Posted the FB update five hours after doing this.

Cat had been moved about 4m from the road so quite a distance and was hidden from site (not quite sure even how they'd moved him the state he was in)

Poor thing was in a really bad way. I had to put my big girl pants on and take a lot of deep breaths before I dealt with him. I took clean towels and gave him a dignified trip to the vets.

No, I don't like picking up dead cats - particularly after losing one myself to an RTA. But AIBU to think that if you've got time to shift the cat, you've got time to take it to the vets to be scanned?? Or did they move it because they were the ones who killed it?!

Would you stop to take a deceased cat to the vets?

OP posts:
MaybeHeIsMyCat · 07/01/2022 20:17

@Horst

I think if owners want notification about it really they should wear tags like dogs. My cats do.

“Name
I have a home
Street name
My phone number”

Mine has one that says "have your people call my people" Grin He doesn't wear it now as he doesn't go anywhere except my neighbours garden
Sparklingbrook · 07/01/2022 20:18

[quote worriedatthemoment]@Sparklingbrook well rescues chip yes, but in my experience around us many are not chipped
Glad they are making it a requirement but if people don't chip no one will be fined etc as they won't know who owns it when its roaming free[/quote]
All the cat owners I know have chipped their cats because they would want to have the best chance of being reunited. It might be regional I suppose but around here it's the norm.

Don't know when it's coming in legally I don't think it said.

Escapetothecatshome · 07/01/2022 20:18

I think you did the right thing, On my walk just before christmas there was a dead cat on the side of the road just outside the village, I knocked on a few doors before finding the owner who was heartbroken when I told her and yes I did (pull on my big girl panties) pick up the dead cat and wrap it in a blanket so she could say goodbye properly.
I'm glad I did it, it would have been worse for her to have wondered all day why the cats not come home. And then gone looking for it.
It was awful x

Salome61 · 07/01/2022 20:19

You've reminded me of a dead cat I saw on the road about thirty years ago, it was a beautiful siamese. I couldn't get the piece of paper out of the little cylinder and went into the local shop to ask for a pair of tweezers or something to get it out, the woman's eyes nearly fell out of her head. Turned out to be the people upstairs, they were so sad but glad I'd bothered.

Outlyingtrout · 07/01/2022 20:20

Looks like 90% of the general public just think it's someone else's job.

I really can't believe you think it's anybody's responsibility to take a dead cat that doesn't belong to them to the vets. It's not my job and I certainly feel no obligation to do it, regardless of your staggering entitlement in believing otherwise.

As to your comment above, I wouldn't give any thought whatsoever to whose job it was if I saw a dead cat. Reading this thread and giving it some consideration, I think it is the responsibility of the cat's owner to find it and deal with it, having been the ones to allow it to roam and get run over. In reality I imagine it's probably left to the council a lot of the time and we all pay for that service through our taxes on the cat owner's behalf. Like we have to clean their pet's shit up on its owner's behalf before we let our kids play in their own garden every day.

PurpleDaisies
People don’t need to give an excuse for not doing something that isn’t their responsibility.

Sparklingbrook
And yet here people are on the thread doing just that...

People are feeling the need to elaborate, despite being perfectly justified in not dealing with someone else's dead animal, because we are being told how awful it is that we refuse to do so.

Sparklingbrook · 07/01/2022 20:21

People are feeling the need to elaborate, despite being perfectly justified in not dealing with someone else's dead animal, because we are being told how awful it is that we refuse to do so

Yes all very defensive, if they don't want to bother then they don't want to bother. No need to go into huge detail as to why.

thenewduchessoflapland · 07/01/2022 20:27

As someone who's lost 3 cats to being ran over then no I'd prefer if my cats were left where I could find them.

I found 2;in one case my neighbour knocked.In another someone moved her to the verge and in the 3rd case we never found her;I'm 99.99% sure she was ran over and taken off to a vets,she was the only cat I stupidly didn't have chipped yet;I was going to get it done but could only afford to have her spayed or chipped at the time so chose to spay her first.

VikingOnTheFridge · 07/01/2022 20:27

I agree. Bizarre entitlement is better met with derision than explanations.

Weeble09 · 07/01/2022 20:28

@Holeyscarf

I picked up a cat that has been reported as dead in one of my local roads. I went to get it and it was still alive, heartbreaking that it had been left for hours. The vet put him to sleep, I still am haunted by him crying in the back of my car. People just don’t want to get involved- the number of social media accounts it has been posted on and everyone assumed that someone else would deal with it.
@Holeyscarf that's awful, poor cat but well done for taking him. You're right, so many people just assume someone else will deal with it. I usually have a carrier in my car now, having had a similar experience a few years ago.

I will always take a dead (or injured of course) cat to the vet. No exceptions, and yes I've made myself late for work on occasion to do so including when I worked as a care assistant so was on a tight schedule. I loathe seeing posts like "my kids would be upset" or "I've put it in a ditch". To those who post things like that, do you think the person who then gets a call/tag asking if they can pick up the cat won't be upset? Do you think that person - who goes out voluntarily to perform a really horrible task - wants to be digging around in a ditch? What about the owner who might be frantically searching for their cat, who won't know to look in a ditch?

Of course I know not everyone has a car, and of course there are genuinely times when someone hasn't got the time but so many people just can't be arsed - and having collected two dead cats today, in between meetings, I'm feeling quite uncharitable to people who can't take a bit of time out of their day. I'm bloody busy too but still make time to go out of my way. You don't need to go to the vet immediately, just wrap the cat in a shopping bag or something until you can either get to a vet or get hold of someone who can take it.

Vets don't charge to check chips, and will hold onto a dead cat for a week or two. My vets are the ones I usually go to with one and they are always brilliant, I often just turn up although will always call first if it is out of hours.

I have collected and scanned dozens of cats, reunited a few live ones with very grateful owners, reunited many dead ones with their owners too. I cry over every single one of them, soft touch that I am. I don't do it for any other reason than knowing what it's like to not know what has happened to a missing cat, and making sure the animal gets treated with respect.

@Horst I dont know where you get the idea that most roaming cats aren't neutered, most of the ones I've picked up have been and well over half have been chipped. Collars come off, or get stuck which is why many owners don't like them.

@CoastalWave I'll probably join you in getting abuse now but it's good to know there are other people who care.

Outlyingtrout · 07/01/2022 20:34

@Sparklingbrook

People are feeling the need to elaborate, despite being perfectly justified in not dealing with someone else's dead animal, because we are being told how awful it is that we refuse to do so

Yes all very defensive, if they don't want to bother then they don't want to bother. No need to go into huge detail as to why.

People get defensive. It's human nature. The issue is the way that OP and others are heaping judgement and guilt trips on people.
Sparklingbrook · 07/01/2022 20:36

People get defensive. It's human nature

On a thread about cats on MN? Who would have thought it? Grin

PurpleDaisies · 07/01/2022 20:37

To those who post things like that, do you think the person who then gets a call/tag asking if they can pick up the cat won't be upset?

Those people are either choosing to do that (like you), paid to do that (council workers) or the cat’s owners. It’s perfectly reasonable for random people with no connection to the dead cat other than having spotted it by the roadside to do anything about it.

I think it’s really wrong for a care assistant to turn up late for work sorting out a random dead cat. That really ought to be passed on to someone else with the time to help out. People needing care are some of the most vulnerable in society.

Horst · 07/01/2022 20:40

Well the amount of Tom cats I get picked up down our street for fighting by a local charity. All end up on their rehoming pages. None neutered not chipped and all with various issues. Gooey eyes, fiv, chunks of fur missing.

The chipped and neutered cats here all have collars or harnesses on. We all know exactly what cat belongs to what house. Rather easy to spot the new strays.

MarloweMax · 07/01/2022 20:40

A friend of mine got a call from the vet as someone had handed their dead cat in and they were billed £100!

Your friend was the cat's owner, they would have been offered the option to take their pet home for burial (and would not have been charged anything) or charged for cremation as per any other pet owner choosing that option. The person who took it to the vet's would not have been charged anything.

Zwellers · 07/01/2022 20:41

Weee09. Good job you have an understanding boss and any idea were a vets is. If I was waiting for care from you and you were late due to taking random corpses of cats to a vets I would be officially complaining. Maybe think of your job responsibilities for which you are paid for. are you also seriously suggesting
people should wrap up a dead cat and keep it until I work out were the nearest vet is. Deluded.

2bazookas · 07/01/2022 20:47

Leaving it on the roadside was the correct thing to do IMO; gives the owner (or someone who knows it) chance to spot it and at least know what happened to their pet. Then the owner could be spared wondering if it's lost, been stolen, or is lying injured. They can collect and bury it .

What on earth do you imagine the vets will do with a random cat corpse?

tigger1001 · 07/01/2022 20:48

@MarloweMax

A friend of mine got a call from the vet as someone had handed their dead cat in and they were billed £100!

Your friend was the cat's owner, they would have been offered the option to take their pet home for burial (and would not have been charged anything) or charged for cremation as per any other pet owner choosing that option. The person who took it to the vet's would not have been charged anything.

They did take it home to be buried. It was effectively a call out charge to deal with a clearly dead cat. Not the actions of a caring vet.
ElephantCup · 07/01/2022 20:49

You did the right thing OP, Ignore all the other cat hating twats

Sparklingbrook · 07/01/2022 20:49

@2bazookas

Leaving it on the roadside was the correct thing to do IMO; gives the owner (or someone who knows it) chance to spot it and at least know what happened to their pet. Then the owner could be spared wondering if it's lost, been stolen, or is lying injured. They can collect and bury it .

What on earth do you imagine the vets will do with a random cat corpse?

Scan it for a chip and notify the owners.
ElephantCup · 07/01/2022 20:51

@2bazookas

Leaving it on the roadside was the correct thing to do IMO; gives the owner (or someone who knows it) chance to spot it and at least know what happened to their pet. Then the owner could be spared wondering if it's lost, been stolen, or is lying injured. They can collect and bury it .

What on earth do you imagine the vets will do with a random cat corpse?

They would scan it for a chip, and contact the owner. My local vet puts posts on their Facebook if an animal is handed in.
skybluee · 07/01/2022 20:54

I don't think the vet would accept it here unless you paid the £40 cremation fee. Too many people would say their cat isn't theirs.

daimbarsatemydogsbone · 07/01/2022 20:57

@Ohthebloodyjoys

You're being completely unreasonable suggesting people don't like cats simply because they don't stop to scrape dead ones off the road and drive them round looking for a vet. That's completely and utterly deluded.
^this
XenoBitch · 07/01/2022 21:00

@ElephantCup

You did the right thing OP, Ignore all the other cat hating twats
Why is someone cat hating for not taking a dead cat to the vets?
Whatinthelord · 07/01/2022 21:07

I personally wouldn’t take a dead cat to the vet. I don’t like animals so would struggle to pick up a dead one. I’d try to post on SM and let local houses know if I had time. I would try to seek help for an alive injured cat.

The thing is not everyone thinks of cats as any different to any other animal. Someone earlier ask if people value cats so little they’d let them rot at the side of the road….we’ll yes actually I don’t value cats more than any other animal. In fact I value them less than wild animals such as hedgehogs, deer etc. I get a lot of people love cats but you can’t expect everyone to act the way you do based on your emotional feelings.

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