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Original poster

To not want dogs

29 replies

needmorecoffee · 23/12/2007 15:33

My mum and sister are coming over Boxing Day and my mum has just announced she'll bring all 5 dogs with her! Last time she came over she bought 3 and they piddled everywhere but at least they were the 3 small ones. She wants to bring the other 2, large dogs.
I got 3 cats and dd2 who lies on the floor as she's seriously physically impaired.
AIBU?

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Desiderata · 23/12/2007 15:35

Not at all. I know how important it is that C has a clean carpet to lie on.

Are they completely mad?

nutcracker · 23/12/2007 15:38

YANBU

I'm afraid I would tell her she can't bring any.

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needmorecoffee · 23/12/2007 15:38

My mum prefers dogs to people. you wouldn't believe the problems her blasted animals have caused ( including trying to find somewhere for her to live cos she's being made homeless and no rental will take her but the cheapest bungalow only has tiddly garden which she says isn't suitable for her rabbit run, guinea-pig run and fecking chipmunks plus 5 blardy dogs)
And she thinks dogs linking your face is them 'kissing'. They lick their bums FFS.

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Original poster
needmorecoffee · 23/12/2007 15:39

She's says they will pine. Had to clamp hand over mouth to stop me blurting, maybe they'll pine to death....

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Elasticwoman · 23/12/2007 15:41

Well if you are, so am I. My sil recently acquired one small puppy but I have resolutely denied said adorable pup access to my house. I don't do dogs in the house. Quite happy to see them in other people's houses or running for sticks in the park, but in my house I make the rules. Am afraid you have set a precedent now, allowing dogs before, but you can explain that you've changed your mind, if you want to disallow them in future.

No doubt you will think through the implications - what will she do with them if they don't come; will she refuse to come at all, etc but you are not being unreasonable in refusing them entry to your house.

Elasticwoman · 23/12/2007 15:42

Your mum's dogs pining is not your problem. She must choose to be with your family OR with her dogs. Both at once is not an option. At least, that's the attitude I'd take.

MeMySonAndI · 23/12/2007 15:45

I know that you don't want to offend her or cause trouble, particularly at this time of the year.

But bringing 5 misbehaved dogs for a visit? please...

I would rather tell her not to bring the dogs because you don't want them in the space your child craws on, than spending hours washing floors and carpets and worrying if the floor is clean enough for my baby.

Then send her home with a nice doggy bag. Dogs are not religious, they won't mind, honest!

Original poster
needmorecoffee · 23/12/2007 15:46

DH said if we fall out over this we wont have to bankrupt ourselves trying to buy her somewhere to live.
I really am sick of her dogs.

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MeMySonAndI · 23/12/2007 15:50

such a simple step to be free of worries, no pee in the carpet, no house to buy...

Take the chance, it will annoy her but it may save you much heartache in the future. Especially if the dogs end up not being patient enough with being fussed over by a toddler

Desiderata · 23/12/2007 15:52

NMC's lovely child has CF and is quite severely disabled. She spends a lot of time lying on the floor ... which needs to be as clean as possible.

Jeez NMC, sorry, but your mother sounds like a piece of work

hercules1 · 23/12/2007 15:56

You are being completely reasonable. How odd that she should even suggest bringing the dogs. We have 3 dogs and have never and will never take them to someone elses house.

MerryAnnSinglemas · 23/12/2007 15:59

I love dogs but your mum is being very thoughtless, so YANBU in the least.

MeMySonAndI · 23/12/2007 16:01

Apologies, I got mixed up from another thread, I though we were talking about a baby, if your child needs to lay on the floor, more so the problem. Your mum needs to get some boundaries.

IsawKIMIkissingsantaclaus · 23/12/2007 16:02

I would say NO dogs NO WAY.

OhLITTLEFISHofBethlehem · 23/12/2007 16:05

We have friends to stay every New Year. They have one, extremely well behaved dog. I don't really like dogs (sorry!) so until recently I asked them not to bring it and they kindly made alternative arrangements.

Now dd's a bit older, and absolutely loves dogs, they bring the dog, but it stays in the utility room.

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all.

throckenholt · 23/12/2007 16:08

nope - not at all. Anyone who has dogs should appreciate that not everyone else wants to be surrounded by them and plan accordingly. % dogs is a lot in anybody's books.

MeMySonAndI · 23/12/2007 16:19

YEs, I LOVE dogs, I have dogs, but I am as sure as I can possibly be that I don't want other dogs visiting my house.

Original poster
needmorecoffee · 23/12/2007 16:20

Thankyou ladies. Now, who would like to tell my mother?

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MeMySonAndI · 23/12/2007 16:22

If you tell my mother not to come to visit in Easter I will ring yours!

For more details about my stance and contact details visit this thread

MeMySonAndI · 23/12/2007 16:23

Actually I can ring her and prettend I'm the spirit of Christmas, with my dodgy accent she won't be able to trace it back to you!

TenLordsaLapin · 23/12/2007 16:26

How can people be so mindblowingly selfish?

Tell her she can't bring them. How can she not be more concerned about her grandchild than her dogs?!

How long is she supposed to be visiting for?

TooTickyDoves · 23/12/2007 16:26

Good luck NeedMoreCoffee. She has to be told - she is not being fair to you.

Desiderata · 23/12/2007 16:27

Just give me the address, gringo

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needmorecoffee · 23/12/2007 16:27

just for about 5 hours. Sister will drive her up. Have dinner and bugger off about 6ish. I don't drink but am considering taking it up.

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TenLordsaLapin · 23/12/2007 16:28

She can't leave them for FIVE HOURS?!!

She is off her nut.