Boss asked if my pregnancy was a mistake

[HoneyBlahBlah]

Just that really. Told my Line Manager that I'm pregnant, and he congratulated me, to which I thanked him. He then asked me if it was planned or not.

I felt super weird but politely answered as I didn't know what else to say. I've since told my colleague (who is also pregnant), and she said he asked her the same thing when she told him.

My boss and I have a strictly professional relationship, we're not friends and don't go into detail about our private lives with eachother.

Am I bring ridiculous to think this inappropriate?

@colourfulpuddles

How is it inappropriate? It’s just a question.

Except it's asking some women 'did you mean to get raped?' or 'couldn't you get out of the house for a termination appointment?', not just 'is this the beat thing that could have happened after planning it for so long?', 'so how surprised were you that you didn't miscarry this time?' and any number of other circumstances that are absolutely fuck all to do with the person asking.

I would never ask this, it's really rude and nosey. Unless it was someone in a position to offer appropriate, relevant support, I'd find it rude to be asked, too!

Well, he didn't ask if it was a mistake. He asked if it was planned - the end of that sentence could just as easily have been "or a happy accident"

He needs a refresher course on what to say in such circumstances, how to offer unconditional support, not his balls handed to him on a plate.