AIBU or is DH being a sadistic arsehole?

[Praguemum]

So, middle of the summer hols here in the southern hemisphere. DH tell DS 9 this morning that he has munted his Nintendo Switch because he failed to take it out of his togs bag after a last minute trip to the neighbours yesterday evening when the kids were told ro bring swimming gear so they could go in the spa. DH says "Oh it won't turn on and it has water dripping out of it!". Blatant lie!! DS in tears saying, "But I put my togs in a plastic bag!" Now, I know they need to take care of their stuff but this seems f*cking malicious to me... Or am I being soft??

What does munted mean?

What are togs? Need a translation.

Munted- stuffed, won’t work
Togs- swimmers, bathers, swimming outfit, budgie smugglers

Swimming togs

Sounds like a horrible thing to do especially when it sounds like your Ds took care to put his wet stuff in a plastic bag. Does Dh have form for behaving like this?

Munted is broken and togs are clothes

OP yes he's being cruel. DS has taken care of his Switch off its working fine.

Making your child cry like that is really mean.

So kid put device into swimming bag with wet gear, albeit in a plastic bag, and dh is telling him it's broken as a teachable moment?

Depends how long he keeps it up for.

Yes, very mean.

Munted is a great word!

That is mean, why would.your husband say that? Did he not want him taking it in the first place?

He DID take care of it, he kept wet things in a plastic bag. I think that’s pretty good actually!

A gentle “unpack your switch, just to make sure it doesn’t get damp” would do surely?

DH is being unnecessarily cruel.

Unnecessarily mean thing to say!
I’m all about natural consequences- so if your DS had actually got it soaking wet and it didn’t work anymore then, well, that’s up to him and he deals with the disappointment. However, that’s not what happened here - why did your DH feel the need to lie!

I’m with you. Keep things clear and simple, you arsehole. Embellishing things to cause fear and upset is childish and cruel.
He’s not ‘making a point’ (if that’s what he thinks) he’s playing with his son’s emotions for his own entertainment.
It’s not nice.

I am constantly bellowing at my dh for his lack of a sense of proportion. This is the sort of thing he would say.

It has been easier to train dc to recognise his problem and roll with it.

Nope, your DH is an arsehole.
Your poor son. I have a son slightly older and would probably kick my bogan (while we’re getting the Aussie translations in) husband out if he made our kid cry just for fun.

Chucking your wet budgie smugglers in a bag beside a Switch is pretty irresponsible, your son is lucky it hadn’t carked it after all. Still it’s a little mean of your DH, did your son spit the dummy when he sussed out his dad wasn’t being fair dinkum?

So, it is broken or not?

My partner would do similar - but he is a control freak and emotionally abusive.

How would your dh like it if someone who had power or authority over him played with his head like that? He wouldn’t. Not at all.

Some people forget that children are the same species as adults. They are people too, only smaller.

Husband is defo a arsehole.
I use the word togs, I'm half Irish , brought up between England and Ireland. Lost my accent but still use the lexicon

I cannot understand

Have you told your DS the truth?

Togs is used in the UK too...dates back to 14c

@Looubylou

My partner would do similar - but he is a control freak and emotionally abusive.

so why is he still your partner?

Your DH is an abusive dick, your poor son. Grow a backbone and stand up to him, and protect your son from this bullshit.