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AIBU or is DH being a sadistic arsehole?

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Praguemum · 05/01/2022 07:08

So, middle of the summer hols here in the southern hemisphere. DH tell DS 9 this morning that he has munted his Nintendo Switch because he failed to take it out of his togs bag after a last minute trip to the neighbours yesterday evening when the kids were told ro bring swimming gear so they could go in the spa. DH says "Oh it won't turn on and it has water dripping out of it!". Blatant lie!! DS in tears saying, "But I put my togs in a plastic bag!" Now, I know they need to take care of their stuff but this seems f*cking malicious to me... Or am I being soft??

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BurbageBrook · 05/01/2022 07:45

Sorry OP that was a bit strong, I misread part of your OP. It’s still abusive and horrible behaviour but I was wrong to assume you weren’t standing up against it.

Laiste · 05/01/2022 07:49

So has DH actually dunked it in water himself and broken it? Or he's winding son up?

How long is DH keeping this up?

Bluebluemoon · 05/01/2022 07:57

What?

Ds has unintentionally broken his Nintendo by getting it wet and your dh has pointed this out to him?

What's so bad about that? I'd be annoyed too if my dc had broken a £300 gadget. I wouldn't shout or punish them but I'd be miffed.

Abusive fgs!

Shoxfordian · 05/01/2022 07:59

Is it not actually broken?

DropYourSword · 05/01/2022 08:00

@Bluebluemoon

What?

Ds has unintentionally broken his Nintendo by getting it wet and your dh has pointed this out to him?

What's so bad about that? I'd be annoyed too if my dc had broken a £300 gadget. I wouldn't shout or punish them but I'd be miffed.

Abusive fgs!

The fact that she’s said it’s a blatant lie led me to believe there’s nothing wrong with the switch.
pictish · 05/01/2022 08:06

I read it that the Switch is fine. He put the wet stuff in a plastic bag, then shoved both the plastic bag and the switch into a bigger bag. I think.

doitwithlove · 05/01/2022 08:06

Is DH jealous that DS was having a fun time !!!

I am wondering who is the child in this situation

pictish · 05/01/2022 08:09

And then didn’t unpack the bigger bag.
Switch is fine, dh wnbu to point out the bag should have been unpacked as it’s careless not to. He is bvu to present a disaster scenario to frighten and upset him teach him a lesson. That’s a dick for you.

thepeopleversuswork · 05/01/2022 08:17

It would be one thing if he had actually broken it. But if I've read this correctly the son hasn't broken it and has in fact done everything right? So your DH has no point to make and is just doing it for shits and giggles? In which case yes he's a nasty piece of work.

OnTheBoardwalk · 05/01/2022 08:23

Is your 'D'H the father of your DS?

His behaviour sounds very mean and controlling

peridito · 05/01/2022 08:28

Awful behaviour on the part of your husband .And I think this type of behaviour shows his true colours ,I'd be v v v surprised if this is out of character/balanced by lots of good points .

And why do people post (and presumably vote) when they haven't bothered to read the OP's one post !

wineandsprite · 05/01/2022 08:29

Your husband is a cunt.

FrancescaContini · 05/01/2022 08:30

Very nasty, to make a child cry. Bullying Sad

Soubriquet · 05/01/2022 08:31

Dh is an arsehole as it sounds like your ds did take care of his switch

minipie · 05/01/2022 08:35

Well apart from being mean it’s pretty stupid as Ds will find out the switch isn’t broken and then a) any “teaching” is lost and b) he won’t believe what his dad says any more.

YourenutsmiLord · 05/01/2022 08:37

If it is working still you can accuse DH of teaching DS to lie - as he is lying to punish DS.

AlwaysLatte · 05/01/2022 08:39

Munted? Togs? I genuinely don't understand this post!

AlwaysLatte · 05/01/2022 08:41

Munted- stuffed, won’t work Togs- swimmers, bathers, swimming outfit, budgie smugglers
Thank you!
Now I need to know what a budgie smuggler is. Think I need more coffee Grin

KittyKattyFosterMummy · 05/01/2022 08:48

@AlwaysLatte

Munted- stuffed, won’t work Togs- swimmers, bathers, swimming outfit, budgie smugglers Thank you! Now I need to know what a budgie smuggler is. Think I need more coffee Grin
Budgie smugglers are really tight swimming trunks for men, like Speedos... Think of the image... Wink
Maray1967 · 05/01/2022 08:57

I am English and Scottish and I’ve always called swimming outfits swimming togs. Munted I didn’t know!
Your DH has gone way too far with this. It would be enough to tell him that just putting wet swimming gear in a plastic bag might not be enough from getting the switch damp - any safety holes in the bag? Does he have a rucksack where the switch could go in a separate pocket?
That’s all that was needed. I would have called my DH out if he had done this.

Dolphinnoises · 05/01/2022 09:00

Is it actually broken? Or is your DH just pretending it is?

peridito · 05/01/2022 09:03

For everyone asking if it is actually broken -

DH says "Oh it won't turn on and it has water dripping out of it!". Blatant lie!!

MaitlandGirl · 05/01/2022 09:03

Your husband is a gaslighting arsehole.

Lalliella · 05/01/2022 09:07

Has DH broken it? If so he’s a prick.

Or has he told DS it’s broken to get him to take more care of it? If so it depends on context. If your DS doesn’t look after it very well and DH is constantly telling him to treat it better then I think he’s more justified tbh. Provided he tells him the truth quickly. It’s just showing DS how he’d feel if he doesn’t take care of his things. Not a great idea to put a valuable item in a swimming bag really.

thetinsoldier · 05/01/2022 09:10

@Pieminster

I cannot understand
Oh, ffs, if you've taken the time to post here, how much longer would it have taken to search up the two words you may not know?? God.