AIBU or is DH being a sadistic arsehole?

[Praguemum]

So, middle of the summer hols here in the southern hemisphere. DH tell DS 9 this morning that he has munted his Nintendo Switch because he failed to take it out of his togs bag after a last minute trip to the neighbours yesterday evening when the kids were told ro bring swimming gear so they could go in the spa. DH says "Oh it won't turn on and it has water dripping out of it!". Blatant lie!! DS in tears saying, "But I put my togs in a plastic bag!" Now, I know they need to take care of their stuff but this seems f*cking malicious to me... Or am I being soft??

So it's not broken? Is it damp?

Leaving a Switch in a damp bag overnight probably isn't great, but your h could have told your dc that in a kind way without being an arse - and without lying. How will dc trust him if he lies to them?

You're not too soft. I hate stuff like this

I get "togged up" when I have to wear something specific for an occasion or for a sport. not necessarily swimming (SE England).

Your DH is being mean OP.
I would find him deeply unattractive for treating a child like this.

So he’s pretending to your child that it’s broken?
What is he annoyed about? The fact your child didn’t unpack his bag when he got home?
Just trying to understand the lesson he is being taught.

DH is dramatising the situation in order to entertain himself by seeing another person upset. And to exert control over the other person. It's a power trip. It's bullying.

So, while we await more info ... The togs confusion.

OP said:
'' ... bla bla ... togs bag after a last minute trip to the neighbours when the kids were told to bring swimming gear ... DS in tears saying, "But I put my togs in a plastic bag!"

It's fairly obvs. what togs are isn't it?

Are posters just being deliberately obtuse?

Well ,many of them are able to miss the OP saying that her husbands remark that the thing was broken WAS A BLATANT LIE .

So who knows, stupid ,lazy ,obtuse ,distracted .

OP, I hope you've spoilt Daddy's fun by telling your son he is lying? And had a conversation with your husband about how he's just totally failed at parenting?

YABVU to use the word togs. Guessing you also have potato cakes rather than scallops and a funny term for a bubbler .

I can't stand adults who tease children, and especially malicious stuff like this.

So, yes, he s a sadistic arsehole.

You’re husband is being horribly cruel

I’d burst his bubble immediately- no Ds it isn’t broken, dad just wants to point out that it could be another time

I also think adults shouldn’t ever tease children

@HoppingPavlova

YABVU to use the word togs. Guessing you also have potato cakes rather than scallops and a funny term for a bubbler .

They’re potato scallops actually but I think it depends where you are in Australia exactly what they’re called.

The only bubblers I know are the covid spreading water fountain things commonly found in schools and parks, not sure what else they’d be?

The only lesson your ds is learning here is that his dad is a liar.
Kids remember thing like that .

“Are posters just being deliberately obtuse?”
Yes.

Munted means drunk here! As in 'He was absolutely munted'

And what was his reaction to seeing his son cry because of a lie he'd just told him?

PLEASE stop saying munted. Cos it makes me think of munting and

Yep your DH is an arse. How can he be okay with watching your sons distress.

Time for a serious talk about parenting. I would flip at that sort of cruelty. Your DS had his switch protected in a plastic bag so its okay. I would, however, make him wash his swimming gear as it's been sodden in a plastic bag overnight. At 9 having to be reminded to unpack stuff isn't unusual.

Give us a list of all the other ways in which he treats you and the children badly.

Should he have had the switch in his swim bag?

@FilledSoda

The only lesson your ds is learning here is that his dad is a liar. Kids remember thing like that .

Yes, but an important lesson to learn. Sometimes, kids need to realise their parent is an arsehole. I suspect this is't an isolated incident.

So the switch isn't actually broken...

Your DH has just lied to your DS in order to upset him and teach him a lesson.

He sounds like a horrible bully.

I bet this isn't the first time he's pulled shit like this either.

@Soubriquet

PLEASE stop saying munted. Cos it makes me think of munting and

....... am i going to have to google it?

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