What has your boss said or done that has made you want to quit your job

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Just been reading an article about this and it inspired me to start a a thread. What has your boss said or done that has made you want to quit on the spot.

Mine was to a colleague of mine, his apartment complex was on fire and it was spreading along to his row, he was evacuated and came into work to grab some things, we all knew what had happened and was all sad for him as he had children, my manager asked him to sort out her computer as he was our IT guy, he basically told her not right now he had bigger things to worry about and she stormed back into our office threw a stop, saying can you believe him, he is too busy to help and I bet he says it's because his flat is on fire. We all sat there like
Safe to say we didn't expect any compassion from her in regards to our personal life.

Mine doesn't seem so bad after reading these, but my (ex) boss told me that he was taking a male colleague to a corporate junket day out at the races rather than me (female) and my female colleague because, as we would obviously understand, his wife wouldn't have been happy if he took one of us. WTF.

Once I'd got over the shock I did tell him the next day that was sex discrimination. He's a lawyer.

I am heavily managed so above me are 12 managers run by an area manager. One of the 12 is a nasty, gaslighting, micromanaging, misogynist tosser of the highest order. He bases all my career decisions on my ability to do the job "as a woman". The job isn't hard, it's repetitive and safety critical but day to day it's not difficult to make decisions or plan out my day. This w*nker questions every decision made and will go over everything I've done, then insist he does the "hard work" because he thinks "as a woman" I'd be more useful doing stuff more suited to my sex. I am supposed to have autonomy in ny job, I'm responsible for everything day to day going on in my shift. One day he insisted on overruling every tiny thing so I gave him the keys etc and left to sign in somewhere else. I also put in a transfer to another location. And life got better.

@AdmiralCain

I'm working my notice period!!! Boss calls people Gay, Scum, says they wouldn't get a job anywhere else. Asked me why my sales figures were down after my Dad died, Spoke to me like shit after my Mum died. After a loosing a baby situation, pulled me to the side and had a proper go at me for having a day off. Comes into the office and says 'I'm in a bad mood and I'm going to take it out on you' If someone's off having Chemo, demanded to see every hospital letter. You get the idea... Our work place has no HR department. I've bought my house outright, I have no money on my overdraft or credit card, no personal loans and I've saved up a massive fuck you fund. The money was good so I stayed but now it's paid dividends I'm not staying any longer. I'll need a couple of years off just to get over this.

Good for you @AdmiralCain!! Just make sure you don't do a minute's more work past your hours or responsibilities than you need to do before you depart on your last day. 🌹

Oh, there have been so many shit bosses, where does one begin?! One that sticks out: my DH had a heart attack in the middle of the night and was taken to hospital. I called my manager first thing in the morning to explain I was waiting at the hospital for my husband to get out of surgery and I wouldn't be in. My manager's boss rang me an hour later, knowing what had happened and, without even asking me how I or my DH were, said, "I know you're at the hospital but can you go on a client conference call in 30 mins?"

My old boss told me I was a slut for greeting my DH with a kiss when he came to pick me up. Not a snog. A quick peck on the lips outside the workplace.

He actually pulled me into a meeting about my 'inappropriate' behaviour.

This is the same man who tried to give me a disciplinary for leaving work 30 minutes after I had finished in different clothes to my uniform. Apparently I was dressed inappropriately (thick jumper, jeans and flat boots as was going to watch an outdoor rugby match in Autumn) and was 'rubbing my early finish' in people's faces. He said I should have left the building at an appropriate time and changed elsewhere.

Fortunately I had the company's CCTV on my side that it was after my shift and I wasn't dressed like a 'slut'.

@Sausagesausagesausage

"I love you and I'm leaving my wife"

We weren't having an affair, barely any contact outside of work. I was already looking for a new role but it definitely have me the final push to move. Didn't particularly enjoy being the source of gossip for months on end.

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This one is just so creepy! Hope things are better now and you’ve never heard from him since!

Boss 1) placed his hands on me and jiggled my breasts.

Boss 2) Put trackers on our cars and would make us justify our time - eg - ask what we were doing if he saw that we arrived 10mins early for a client meeting (hated that it meant he could also see where I spent my evenings and weekends). Same boss would 'mark' reports I'd written in red pen, complete with ticks and "well done" written on it. (I was higher qualified than him both in qualifications and experience).

Jesus some of these are crazy.
In my 20’s I got a job in an accountants office. I should have known it would end badly, in the interview rather than actually interview me, the boss told me about how his wife so desperately wanted a second baby she’d gone through 13 miscarriages & finally when they got their baby, she was very poorly & had heart issues. He spoke very unkindly about his wife & how this new sick baby was her fault.
Anyway I got the job and was there a few weeks just getting to know the place & learn the ropes. One day I had done all my work I’d been assigned & was at a loose end so I popped my head into the boss’s office to see if he had anything he needed doing. He proceeded to scream incoherently at me for a solid 7 or 8 mins. The other staff could hear everything. I let him scream and then walked to my desk, got my coat & bag & left without saying a word. Never to return. He tried phoning me but I didn’t answer.

In January this year I had a MC and then my dad died suddenly of covid in aguust. Both times I've taken (unpaid leave) as a MC isn't sick leave apparently. This ment I had to go back asap as I couldn't afford to take time off. They did give a week as compassionate leave when my dad was ill but the two further weeks I took off were annual leave/unpaid.
I have been told multiple times how lucky I am to have had so much time off this year and how lucky I was to have work as a distraction. Even before Xmas when I said I was looking forward to having a break I was told how lucky I was to have time off over the summer. If I wasn't pregnant and needed maternity leave (which is only statutory as it is) I would have quit.
They also told me how crap my work was after my dad had died and used it in my most recent review to berate me even though they admitted there were no current issue with my work.

When my boss moved forward the marking date to accommodate a colleague who didn’t even teach that year group but wanted to attend the moderation meeting. At this point I would be teaching every hour until the meeting and had a parents evening. I said no, I wouldn’t do it and applied for new jobs that weekend. I got one and handed in my notice two weeks later.

Had her favourites, particularly unpleasant in a small office. Would come out to find a small group drinking coffees someone had bought on their way in. I was never asked.

Said she wasn't happy for me to accept an award in an industry publication as it would put me too much in the spotlight at the expense of the rest of the team. The award would have been for me personally connected to previous work.

I was a consultant. I found a new role and left ASAP.

I was having a really hard time managing a team of people who had been given to me because other managers could not handle them. Previously had a really lovely team I had recruited and who were the best performing team in the group. Got told that because I was such a good manager they were going to use my skills with the lowest performing staff. People who had been known problems for years, multiple disciplinary issues, complaint etc. And they were being moved to 'give the other managers a break'. After getting repeatedly over the coals when any of them complained about something (despite the fact they all had form for this with many other managers) I told my manager that I was having a difficult week when she called for a check in. She proceeded to tell me how much better one of the other managers was than me. And that I could not manage my stress. I agreed I could not manage the stress of having difficult people to work with without back up and resigned as a manager. Best decision ever. Been asked to go back many times since (that manager is now gone). Never doing a management job again.

When good friend’s of ours lost their daughter I said I would need time off for the funeral at some point she said ‘well let’s just hope it’s on your day off’. That was it, nothing else. She couldn’t have given a shit.

I was working with 'at risk kids' and EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. my boss would make patronising comments about how 'privileged' my upbringing had been and I needed to be careful not to compare and contrast my 'wonderful upbringing' to those 'less fortunate'.
She had no idea about me or my childhood or that I had been abused. She had no idea that because of the traumas I had suffered as a child I chose to go into work where I helped children in similar circumstances.
I started to avoid her as much as possible but eventually I got so fed up of her constantly telling me how privileged my abusive childhood was that I ended up quitting a job that I loved and had worked very hard to become qualified to do.

Said that a colleagues mental health was "the last thing I give a fuck about right now"

So many of these stories are just terrible!

My worst one is probably a boss who invited multiple (irrelevant) people to my back to work meeting after I'd taken sick leave. I'd had my appendix out during pregnancy and could easily have been signed off for another week if I'd requested it. The year before, I'd had sick leave for a horrendous eye infection that made my look like I'd been punched in both eyes and rendered me unable to drive, use a screen, read etc. Again, I went back at the earliest opportunity (and with a slightly terrifying face). Apart from these two occasions I've barely had a day off work in my entire adult life.

He said staff were questioning my commitment and work ethic due to my excessive sick leave over the past 2 years. I know this wasn't true, as people knew why I'd been off and that I was lucky not to have miscarried. Everyone was just relieved I was ok and my close colleagues had covered for me without any issue, as I would for them. He was just a knob who liked belittling people.

The line manager who eventually made me so sick I was off work for 7 months. She wanted to know what I was doing if I asked for leave, that I could only take leave if all the work was done (it was never all done), whatever I did was never good enough, whatever I did was never fast enough and on and on.

I used to dream of just shouting my resignation and walking out. Mad narcissist.

I've a few, probably why I spent decades self employed.

1. I was recruited to a new company ran by people I knew via work in general. All went swimmingly for a couple of years & I even recruited in staff I knew to be brilliant & who came because they trusted me. Another company folded & one of the partners decided that the company lead there needed a job due to being part of their own religious community & gave her a senior role equal to mine, but I was to oversee her. They then sacked the main woman id recruited & I realised from the row I had with them over this, that her skin colour was an issue too & made her more expendable.

I walked out there & then. The company folded some 8 months or so later. Serves them bloody right

1. I'm white British, but my industry meant that companies I worked for, where more frequently owned by certain other nationalities. Most were wonderful non prejudice people, but every so often they'd be a bigoted prick. One such boss was very hard on any white British, Irish or black staff, all were lazy according to him (via his daughter who was lovely) & needed watching. He'd pop up from nowhere demanding a full step by step run down of the work you'd done all day... in an industry that switches priority by the second & often required a lot of time speaking with clients & persuasion required to get a workable end result. I ended up writing lists as I finished a task as he clearly had it in for me & 2 others.

Finally straw came when he started following staff to the loo & timing them. I was aware he'd followed me, I was raging, so bundled up a handful of loo roll, whipped it on the floor to look used & shoved it in his hands as I left the toilets & said, you can stick your job up your arse, & walked out

There's more, but that will do

Worked in telesales in my late teens and she used to make us stand up until we got an order,sometimes for hours at a time

The interview for promotion is this week, we could possibly do next week. I had given birth less than 24 hrs previously . It was an ELCS, so he knew the date. Tried to backtrack, role offered to a man, who is now my boss (who is OK) old boss since left.

I had one who accused me of faking my disability. Apparently I did something to 'hoodwink' multiple doctors, nurses and my consultant to get my diagnosis. I also somehow faked blood test results and my ultrasound results. He said this in front of HR.

They refused to implement some reasonable adjustments my doctor recommended they make following some changes to my work environment. The doctor recommended the adjustments as without them my condition risked flaring up. My condition flared to the point I could barely walk and I was signed off.

They went ballistic and accused me again of faking it and threatened to sack me. They basically said if I was well enough to see a doctor, I was well enough to come into the office. My GP surgery was a 3 minute walk from my flat and the office was over an hour away by tube.

They accused me of taking drugs in the office to make myself appear unwell. The 'drugs' were prescription medications prescribed by my GP and consultant to manage my condition.

It was amazing how quickly my condition improved after I left!

I was working for a charity and was promoted to a management role along with another woman. We were told after six months we would swap part of the job roles. The Director announced after six months he would be doing our staff appraisals. During mine I was told he couldn't swap the job roles as I was common and the Trustees of the charity wouldn't like me doing that part of the job. He denied saying it the following day and refused to include the comment in the written notes of the appraisal. I told him I would not be able to sign the appraisal account if that was the case as it was inaccurate.

A few weeks later it was discovered the charity had been doing something dodgy that could potentially cause problems with the Charity Commission. A staff meeting was called and the Director bawled everyone out and said if the shit hit the fan he would drag us all down with him.

My final afternoon there he called another meeting during which I had a panic attack. I went home that evening, was signed off by GP the following week and put my notice in a month later. The letter I received acknowledging my resignation had my name spelled wrongly which said it all to me about his incompetence.

My boss decided to give me a verbal warning for doing what had always been part of my job role - organising an important annual exhibition on a fixed date. He'd asked someone else to do it that year, but that person was then off sick with "stress" for weeks on end. So having left it until the last moment to see if she would return to work in time (no chance) I just did one vital thing to ensure it wasn't a complete failure - i.e. email the exhibitors to ask them to "save the date". Pulled into the office for a telling-off and an official warning. (I'd worked there for over 20 years, and been promoted numerous times.) Handed in my notice the next day.