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Smoking in pubs, free speech, having a laugh

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Wannalivewithcommonpeople · 31/12/2021 13:32

Aibu to miss all this? The relaxed, laid back FUN of the 90’s to maybe maybe late 2010
ish?
I don’t smoke or take drugs anymore, hell I haven’t been able to drink in 21 months, due to long covid, but sat here watching 90’s & 2000’s music videos whilst Dh takes toddler out and thinking of the past.
Aibu to just bloody miss the simplicity and fun and to hate these times?

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Wannalivewithcommonpeople · 31/12/2021 14:25

@Mumdiva99 Loved that show too, I should watch it again

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DeepaBeesKit · 31/12/2021 14:25

Yabu smoking in pubs was so awful. I worked in them as an 18/19 year old and ar the end of a shift your hair and clothes just stank.

Davros · 31/12/2021 14:26

That's just YOUR personal nostalgia. We all know the 70s and 80s were better 🍺 🚬

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Wannalivewithcommonpeople · 31/12/2021 14:27

@bonetiredwithtwins Yes yes yes..all that

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Gregsprinkles · 31/12/2021 14:27

In my many years of going to night clubs, I have not once seen anyone have their clothes set on fire by a cigarette.

My friends wedding dress was burnt by a drunken guest dancing with a cigarette!

DeepaBeesKit · 31/12/2021 14:27

The thing is not everyone loves being "carefree".

dreamingbohemian · 31/12/2021 14:29

Your version of freedom seems to be very much about freedom for you to do the stuff you like and for other people to put up with the consequences.

Bingo

I'm also curious what people liked to say back then that they couldn't say now.

Littlecaf · 31/12/2021 14:29

Mid December we went out for just drinks with friends. In a proper pub. With proper beer.

There was no kids playground, no table service only, no substantial meal just friends and beer.

And it was great.

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Wannalivewithcommonpeople · 31/12/2021 14:29

@JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil I’ve never called people offensive names in my life

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CounsellorTroi · 31/12/2021 14:29

Must admit I do miss the days when going to the pub at lunchtime wasn’t seen as a disciplinary offence. Happy memories of working out of town and summer lunchtimes spent in pub gardens.

Narutocrazyfox · 31/12/2021 14:29

@Wannalivewithcommonpeople the mid 90s was a brilliant time. I genuinely loved it, the music was incredible, there was no wokery or any such nonsense, you were free to speak your mind!
BUT that does not mean my friends or I would have entertained any racist/homophobic talk, and we were all proper 90s uni radical feminists (makes me chuckle now) so wouldn't have entertained any sexism either.

I've not smoked for about 15 years but god I miss it. The smell of old smoke and beer, that old pub smell.

BusterGonad · 31/12/2021 14:30

To be fair wedding dresses are not really the thing to be wearing in a packed nightclub, I'd say that's not your normal Friday night out.

NoNameHere12 · 31/12/2021 14:31

That’s not free speech Whoare, that’s just someone being a dick.

Free speech is not an opinion, it’s a fact you can’t say due to lack of free speech.

HappyGreen · 31/12/2021 14:31

I now we have a thread that people are offended by...

Yip. Wrong audience OP. MN is firmly a fun free zone these days. See below

Dancing with a cigarette is dangerous and selfish. You could set someone’s clothes on fire.
I mean, really ? Spent many years dancing in clubs surrounded by smokers, yet to see someone set on fire. 😂

BusterGonad · 31/12/2021 14:31

@bonetiredwithtwins

I never smoked and miss smoking in pubs - proper pubs - not the wanky gastro pubs they are now where you just go to eat. The standing room only - 10 deep at the bar - dancing on the tables at the end of the night - cheap vodka and red bull for £1 nights

I miss the banter - you can't take the good old British piss now for fear of upsetting someone

I miss the pub crawls and sticky carpets in a dingy nightclub - falling out at 3am and walking home without fear of something awful happening to you

I miss that getting dressed up to go out was nice jeans and top and a bit of eyeliner not the 2 hour total face transformation and contouring it is now

Yeah I miss the 90s and 00s

Yes. This. The old British piss is the best.
CounsellorTroi · 31/12/2021 14:32

@BusterGonad

To be fair wedding dresses are not really the thing to be wearing in a packed nightclub, I'd say that's not your normal Friday night out.
I imagine it was the evening wedding party, but it’s the same principle.
BusterGonad · 31/12/2021 14:34

No not at all. A night club is completely different to a evening wedding do.

Sonex · 31/12/2021 14:34

The second hand smoke was disgusting. I hated it. hated coming home stinking ofnfags and having to was my clothes every day. Even when I was young and partying I hated that.

BusterGonad · 31/12/2021 14:35

@Sonex

The second hand smoke was disgusting. I hated it. hated coming home stinking ofnfags and having to was my clothes every day. Even when I was young and partying I hated that.
I just put mine back on, lit up a cigarette and carried on with my day. 😂
MrPickles73 · 31/12/2021 14:35

I agree with OP. Life is dull and controlled now. The fun police are in full force

HappyGreen · 31/12/2021 14:36

Given the amount of hairspray we used to use it’s amazing we didn’t go up in flames grin

Actually I stand corrected. You reminded me that I did indeed once set myself on fire, well my hairspray covered dressing gown, with a lit match match though, not a fag. And I was in my bedroom not a club.

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Wannalivewithcommonpeople · 31/12/2021 14:36

@Narutocrazyfox Exactly the same regarding speech

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Omicrone · 31/12/2021 14:39

Can you give us an example of what it is you used to say that you don’t feel you can say now? I never have a problem with saying what I feel and can do it without offending people quite effortlessly.

One thing that springs to mind is Malala Yousafzai getting shit on Twitter because it turned out that, having gone to Oxbridge, some of her friends were Shock Tories.

I remember being at uni and there being a big Left/Right split down the middle of our house - it was great and the drunken debates were epic. One of my very lefty friends even went out with a proper Tory boy, and no one banished her for failing the purity test!

Another very obvious example of something that has become heresy now is to say men can't become women - no further comment needed on that one!

BusterGonad · 31/12/2021 14:39

@HappyGreen

Given the amount of hairspray we used to use it’s amazing we didn’t go up in flames grin

Actually I stand corrected. You reminded me that I did indeed once set myself on fire, well my hairspray covered dressing gown, with a lit match match though, not a fag. And I was in my bedroom not a club.

I did too, stood cooking porridge on a gas stove in my dressing gown, somehow my dressing gown caught a light. I had to strip naked and run to the bathroom to shower it down!
dreamingbohemian · 31/12/2021 14:39

[quote Wannalivewithcommonpeople]@JackieWeaverHandforthCouncil I’ve never called people offensive names in my life[/quote]
Then why did you literally say in your OP that you miss the days when:

I wasn’t watching what I said in case I offend someone