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AIBU?

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Are we a grumpy family regarding NYE?

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RainforestLizard · 31/12/2021 12:12

DH and I are in our forties. Two dc. We have no plans for tonight. Haven't invited anyone around and we haven't been invited anywhere either.

We've been away for a few nights visiting extended family over Christmas.

I guess we're both weary and tired after a busy year but I'm now wondering if we're old and miserable before our time.

Anyone else have no plans? AIBU for feeling old and miserable?

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Lovemusic33 · 31/12/2021 15:16

I’m staying home with my two teens, we will watch crap tv, eat food and probably fall asleep before midnight.

I’m not a huge fan of new year, rarely go out. I would love to host a party though but my house is tiny and I have one dc with ASD who has to stick to her bed time routine 🤣. I don’t really see what the fuss is about with new year.

BoredZelda · 31/12/2021 15:31

I hate the forced jollity of new year. I cringe when people wish me a happy new year at the bells. In Scotland it is almost sacrilege to hate Hogmanay but even as a young thing I wasn’t a fan.

We’ll stay up because my daughter wants to, but that’s about it.

HereticFanjo · 31/12/2021 15:33

I love NYE specifically for staying home eating nice food and drinking wine 😁

godmum56 · 31/12/2021 15:34

The only time I ever went out on NYE I hated it. Much happier at home and always have been.

OldTinHat · 31/12/2021 15:37

I'm staying at my parents who are mid 70s and they're very excited about watching Jools Holland. I shall be retreating to my childhood bedroom about 8pm with Netflix!

Rosebel · 31/12/2021 15:41

We are in our early 40s. We have some nice food in and will probably have a drink and watch a film. We will stay up until midnight, only because the teens want to but no real plans.

Fl0w3ry · 31/12/2021 15:45

My plans are the same as yours. We will probably put some party songs on later for the DC to dance and singalong to. I like to see the New year in in the way I intend to spend the rest of the year ahead. I like it this way.
I liked the parties and drinking when I was in my 20s. I’m not interested in it anymore. I feel like I’m in a different chapter of my life. I want to enjoy NYEs with my DC until they get to age where they don’t want to anymore.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 31/12/2021 15:49

Home alone here DH and DS are skiing Dd couldn't go as not double jabbed yet, but is out with her 15yold mates as is right and proper.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 31/12/2021 15:50

Plans involve macaroni cheese, Netflix and a bath, then a long run on New Year's morning.😀

Hankunamatata · 31/12/2021 15:53

We are the same. Kids stay up little later, buffet tea and a movie. Usually head to bed just after midnight. Just want peace after manic Christmas

Ragwort · 31/12/2021 15:54

My excitement for the evening is a new jigsaw

99victoria · 31/12/2021 15:59

We're early 60s. We've driven 10 hours to a Scottish castle Hotel for a 3 day Hogmanay celebration - having a ball 😀

runningfromtheoutlaws · 31/12/2021 16:01

Going for dinner then home for an early bed.

elliejjtiny · 31/12/2021 16:06

Fish and chips while watching home alone for us. I will probably be up at midnight but only because my youngest doesn't sleep very well.

CaptainChannel · 31/12/2021 16:08

We have no plans and are in our late 30s and early 40s! DCs will go to bed at a normalish time and DH and I are having a M&S dine in for two with some excellent wine! We never have done much for new year - always feels high pressure and pricey. I don't feel old and miserable, it's just who we are 😊

etulosba · 31/12/2021 16:13

I didn’t realise anybody celebrated New Year until I was about 18. My parents just went to bed as usual on NYE and so did we.

I think I have been trying to make up for it ever since. I will be going out even if I have to sit outside.

OwMyToe · 31/12/2021 16:32

I guess I was born old and miserable. I've only ever spent one NYE away from my own home, and that one was spent visiting at my parents' house several years ago!

We'll be staying in, as usual. We'll probably eat something nice, watch something or play a game. All done in comfortable clothes and without the need to make our way home afterwards. It's a much more enjoyable experience than going out, imo!

PinkSyCo · 31/12/2021 16:32

New Year’s Eve is overrated. Forced to be jolly and celebrate what? That another year is gone? You’re one year nearer your deathbed? What’s so great about that? 🤷🏻‍♀️

onedayoranother · 31/12/2021 16:36

I don't know anyone who does have plans! Even my 18 year old son, who was contemplating going to a concert, is opting to stay in and have a mate around. He doesn't want to drink, has been working all week, and is a bit cautious due to covid. Me and my daughter will have our usual fish Friday dinner and watch a film.

megletthesecond · 31/12/2021 16:36

You're not miserable. NYE is overrated.
We never do anything. And the handful I did go out for in my youth weren't that great.

GladysTheOstrich · 31/12/2021 16:37

I'm having a bath and doing my teeth whitening strips so basically best-lifing.

CrimbleCrumble1 · 31/12/2021 16:41

I always plan something nice as I didn’t do much during my 30’s when my DC were young. I couldn’t be bothered then. Now I either go away and have a posh hotel meal and watch the fireworks , have friends over or go out for dinner.
I’m the same with my birthday too, I got to mid 40’s and suddenly my priorities changed and I really wanted to celebrate special events. I feel like a get a lot more out of life now.

Runwayqueen · 31/12/2021 16:57

Late 30s, No plans here, take away had just been ordered. Not expecting a good nights sleep though as our neighbours are away and have left their teens behind, the music is already on and more young teens arriving. If it's gets too silly next door we may have a walk up the hill to watch fireworks over town as midnight occurs.

cobblers123 · 31/12/2021 17:32

My friend has just text me to see if I'm out rocking and rolling tonight as if not she will give me a ring. I said definitely not and would probably be asleep by 11pm. She said they're not either, they're going to have bangers and mash and stay in, they like living on the edge!! It's great being old at times.

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RainforestLizard · 31/12/2021 17:51

@CrimbleCrumble1

I always plan something nice as I didn’t do much during my 30’s when my DC were young. I couldn’t be bothered then. Now I either go away and have a posh hotel meal and watch the fireworks , have friends over or go out for dinner. I’m the same with my birthday too, I got to mid 40’s and suddenly my priorities changed and I really wanted to celebrate special events. I feel like a get a lot more out of life now.

This has struck a chord with me Crimble. This sounds lovely. We normally do things (nothing fancy but we try and give the kids experiences) and I try and mark occasions. Maybe that's why I feel a bit, not quite sure what the word is, flat....

We're young(ish), healthy, covid free (touchwood!) so maybe we should have sorted something - nothing major just "something". Night in a crowded pub does not appeal at all. But, I am letting my 9yo stay up so he's excited about that. And we've got a cake.

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