Are we a grumpy family regarding NYE?

[RainforestLizard]

DH and I are in our forties. Two dc. We have no plans for tonight. Haven't invited anyone around and we haven't been invited anywhere either.

We've been away for a few nights visiting extended family over Christmas.

I guess we're both weary and tired after a busy year but I'm now wondering if we're old and miserable before our time.

Anyone else have no plans? AIBU for feeling old and miserable?

I've never liked NYE, I'm quite happy at home in front of the fire with DH and DD.

I was meant to be going for a meal and drinks but my friend not well. Was planning a bottle of fizz and film but my neighbour invited me to their party. Hogmanany is a bit deal in Scotland and lots of parties going on despite what Nicola says.

We’re in the middle of a pandemic — what on earth could be considered ‘miserable’ about deciding not to go out or host other people?

We went out every New Years until we had kids!
This year we are having a “Christmas dinner” with the kids around 5.30pm then maybe a game or two . Kids will hopefully be asleep by 9pm and we will have a few drinks in front of a film with a cheese board .
We are busy over Christmas with family ( not so much this year with cv🙄) so we love this chance to relax !

DS has friends over so we will be hiding in our room and keeping well out of the way!

We will try and make midnight as it's likely the last one we will spend with DS for a few years, but will be far from hammered as will also be responsible for feeding a hoard of hungover teenage boys in the morning

Another in their early 30s with no plans.

Might order a takeout. Dh got a nandos gift card and I got a wagamamas, so might use one of them. We'll both be in bed asleep before 11, unless ds has plans to not sleep...

No plans here either, late thirties. When we were in our teens and twenties, we used to go out every NYE without fail. Slowly, my friends and I realised that paying silly money for entry, queuing for an hour at the bar, and having the worry that somebody else would steal the taxi you'd booked at the end of the night, was all ridiculous. Even restaurants over charge on NYE now.
We'd stopped going out on NYE long before having kids. Occasionally somebody will have a party, but usually, most people I know stay home.
It's just another day to me now. I'm usually in bed before midnight but woken by fireworks not long after.

No plans but it’s hassle to arrange transport / taxi someone has to drive etc . I’ve a dc that need to arrange sitter for too , older dc could do it and has on occasion but this year she was undecided of plans and now she’s staying home but can’t be bothered last minute any how . I too am in my 40s I just think New Years a bit blah anyway .

Nope, we are in this evening (and have been every NYE since having kids, so that's been 9 years)

We'll order a takeaway have a bit of a party with the kids before they go to bed and then toast in the NY!

YANBU!!

I have always disliked NYE! It always makes me depressed, not sure why I'm a generally optimistic person. There's something so forced about the jollity and I can't stand the stupid countdown.

Me and DH will be watching a non-NYE themed tv show or movie, make some Irish coffee and off to bed.

New Year is shit imo. I always thought so but even more now considering everything is so uncertain. It doesn't feel worth celebrating a new year when you can't be sure anything you're looking forward to will even go ahead.

So nah, not grumpy. It's just another midnight like any other.

We are almost same ages and have also spent a few days away with friends over Xmas. We are having our own little party with just dh, dc and I. We are looking forward to that so much. You are not grumpy at all.

Thanks everyone - seems I've found my people.

A pp has mentioned the pandemic and that was my dh rationale - rates are sky-high where we are so why open ourselves up to more risk by seeing people later (I suggested we invite people around last minute - just two friends and their dc) . I do tend to agree with him though...

I'm 41 and stayed in with just dh for the last 8years....which now sounds quite sad. But before that I'd been out every NYE since I was about 13. Firstly at houseparties as a young teenager (some amazing memories!) then pubs /nightclubs from 16 to 21 - utterly overrated. Think I only remember one decent night. Then from around 22 to 32 we either went to houseparties or hosted our own. Lovely chilled nights with friends playing boardgames and drinking.

I guess I feel like I should make more of an effort - but I'm worn out. I guess there is an expectation to be sociable. It's good to know other people feel the same.

Would like to stay in ! Usually do, teens massively bored with yet more Netflix. Me to, actually!

We don’t bother either. Measuring times a man made construct, just because we say it’s a new year tomorrow it doesn’t actually make it a new year.

Not been out on NYE for years, although even now in my mid 50's I still have fomo from not going out. Even when I was going out to a good party I was always a bit down & never quite in the mood for it. I used to love it when I first started going out 40 years ago!

We stay up to comfort out elderly firework fearing pooch :-(

DC has mock GCSEs as soon as schools go back next week, so they'll be in revising up until near midnight I suspect. DH and I are going to bed!

We’re at home - planning a Harry Potter marathon with the kids….

Also in our 40s with two DC and we won’t even stay up till midnight. I would, DH is miserable.

No plans here either. Might Skype some friends but that's it, we'll be in bed before midnight. I'm 39 and DH is 37. We've two young kids 3 & 1 so will probably be up anywhere from 6am.

No plans, yehhhhh!

Our best friends are abroad this year and they always persuade us to join them in NYE but we are very reluctant. Always have, and always will, dislike all the cheering and kissing at midnight.

We absolutely cannot wait to be miserable and home alone the two of us this year.

Honestly I cannot wait for it to be over this year. I'm not usually a misery but I just want to get the Christmas decorations down (promised the kids they could stay up until the 1st). I'm cooking a nice meal tonight but my heart isn't really in it. Roll on next week

Stopped going out late 90s, have done the occasional party since then but am not a fan. I will probably be in bed by 10.30 and if I think I will fall asleep before midnight, will put ear plugs in, the fireworks are usually pretty noisy going on past years and I'd rather sleep through them.

Who cares - do what works for you, and no need to label yourself grumpy about it! We have friends coming over to stay tonight, but often we don't do anything. Never thought of myself as a NYE grump the years we don't do anything - my best advice would be stop comparing yourself to other people, or what you think you should be doing!