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Are we a grumpy family regarding NYE?

144 replies

RainforestLizard · 31/12/2021 12:12

DH and I are in our forties. Two dc. We have no plans for tonight. Haven't invited anyone around and we haven't been invited anywhere either.

We've been away for a few nights visiting extended family over Christmas.

I guess we're both weary and tired after a busy year but I'm now wondering if we're old and miserable before our time.

Anyone else have no plans? AIBU for feeling old and miserable?

OP posts:
HappySonHappyMum · 31/12/2021 13:37

We always have mid winter barbeque on New Years Eve - got some rump steak and sausages that I can't wait to cook on it later. Reminds us of the summer evenings that will soon be here. Can't wait!

edwinbear · 31/12/2021 13:41

I'm also mid 40's, 2 DC, DH is working, DC and I are going to eat sushi, watch a film and go to bed. Which is my idea of a perfect NYE. I won't even drink so will wake up fresh tomorrow, with a completely clear head. If that makes me grumpy, so be it!

Bigboysmademedoit · 31/12/2021 13:53

I’ve never really liked NYE - another year gone, very melancholy. Sitting in with DH and kids.

ImustLearn2Cook · 31/12/2021 13:57

@kittensinthekitchen Thankyou Smile Happy Hogmanay and New year for you and all on Mumsnet too.

USaYwHatNow · 31/12/2021 14:00

We're 29 and 30. Will probably be in bed just after 12 😂🥳

Bluebluemoon · 31/12/2021 14:00

I hate this time of year - it's like being in limbo waiting for everyone to go back to school/work. I'm also dreading tonight as I know dh will be pressuring me to drink and stay up late as he feels we should "bring in the new year". He always makes me feel like a boring cow if I just want to go to bed at a normal time.

There aren't even any celebrations to watch on tv this year are there? Hasn't everything been cancelled?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 31/12/2021 14:05

Nope. I"m self-isolating, but even if I wasn't; the last place I"d want to be at the moment is with loads of other people who may/may not be vaccinated; and who may/may not have COVID.

Stay home and cosy.

IggyAce · 31/12/2021 14:14

Did have plans for an early sitting (5pm) at a restaurant but had to cancel as 3 out of 4 of the household tested positive for covid. This would have been the first time in around 5-6 years we planned to go out. Back to our usual plan of takeaway and games.

scaredsadandstuck · 31/12/2021 14:14

I am jealous OP. I've got to go to a friend's for a dinner party. I'm usually in bed by 10 and asleep by 11. Our cab is booked for 1am 😭😭

Freelady · 31/12/2021 14:20

Its totally up to you what you do on new years eve. Whatever makes you happy!
Some years have stayed in and been in bed before 11.
This year, am going out dancing and drinking as have been invited and I want to!!!!
Whatever you fancy .Its just a night.

concernedalot · 31/12/2021 14:29

We'll be staying in, some party food and nibbles, plenty of wine, bath and pj's on for early evening, play some board games, music on, chill out, no hassle of taxis or having to socialise or get dressed up, perfect!

dementedma · 31/12/2021 14:31

Same here. Doing absolutely nothing and will be in bed with a book as usual by 10

CurlyhairedAssassin · 31/12/2021 14:37

DH and I are basically a couple of introverts. I would have a few people round on NYE (close family) but don't think he's too keen. He's usually working so looks forward to just coming home and chilling for the evening. We usually do a particular food on NYE (family tradition) plus some party nibbles, have some champagne and that does us. The kids are pretty much the same as us at 18 and 14. Not wild party animals themselves but we'll probably play a couple of games.

I feel pretty glum at the moment. I just want to go back in time to before the pandemic. It feels like it's dragging on and on so there doesn't seem a lot to celebrate other than that no-one in our extended family has died from COVID or got seriously ill from it despite some people being CEV or CV.

Before COVID normally if you'd had a shit year, on NYE you'd think "well, thank fuck that's over with, it can only be up from here!" and you can start planning etc. Now we're all thinking back to last NYE and how optimistic we felt that we were getting through it fine, vaccines were starting etc etc. We naiively thought that normality (proper normality) was on the horizon. And then look what happened - new variants, cases rising, still having to isolate, travel still restricted, businesses going bust, cost of things going up.

It's really really hard to stay positive when you've had a year of being optimstic and had your hopes dashed for some proper PERMANENT normality. It's hard not to look back at better times (especially when you're rapidly approaching 50 like me) and wonder if we'll ever get them back!

CurlyhairedAssassin · 31/12/2021 14:39

I did used to love going out clubbing on NYE in my early 20s though. Even if we couldn't get a taxi it was just a long walk home, feeling full of youthful exuberance, having had a great time, and wondering what the new year ahead would be bringing. I remember doing it in the snow once, it was bloody freezing but I remember not minding cos we'd had such a good time.

HerRoyalNotness · 31/12/2021 14:43

I r never done anything much for NYE and when I did it was always a letdown. I don’t even care if I stay up to usher it in. We’re sick now so I’ll just slope off to bed early I think

SpookyScarySkeletons · 31/12/2021 14:51

Cannot be arsed with going out on NYE for the following reasons:
Have to pay just to get into your local
Inflated prices
Queue for the bar usually 5 deep
Queue for the loo usually 10 deep
Strange men wanting a midnight kiss

I like to stay in, in my pyjamas and a soft fluffy dressing gown, cats on my knee, party food, bottle of champagne and no queuing for the loo!

I would much rather spend NYE with my DH and teens than out in a pub.

Rainbunny · 31/12/2021 14:54

The funny thing is, I don't think those of us posting on this thread are unusual. Almost everyone I have ever known has mentioned their dislike of NYE at some point. Even in my single party years it always felt like everyone was forcing themselves to be have fun on NYE.

I've done the parties, sometimes big extravaganza type celebrations and can only really say I've absolutely loved one NYE (the turn of the century NYE was an epic, never to be forgotten night in Tokyo) but honestly before and since... nope.

So as I posted earlier, random non-serious tv, pyjamas and some Irish coffee are our plans. And no bloody countdown!

dottiedodah · 31/12/2021 14:55

None at all here! V.tired after seeing family at Christmas ,late nights and so on .All very enjoyable.Just going to do some party snacks about 10.30 ,and see New year in with a few glasses of something sparkly and nice.

BornOnTwelfthNight · 31/12/2021 14:56

Haven’t been out or celebrated new year since 2006. I’m mid 40s.

Had a whale of a time in my 20s but but was completely over it by the age of about 31. That coincided with having to give up alcohol (intolerant) So I don’t miss it!
We used to get a takeaway let dcs stay up for fireworks then bed. Now dcs are all adults out doing their own thing. So happy enough just curling up in front of the tv, May or may not get a takeaway!

Wotrewelookinat · 31/12/2021 14:58

The only one of us who had any plans was my 17yr old DD, but she’s 7 days post positive PCR so now we’re all at home thank goodness and I don’t have to pick her up in the early hours. Planning tv and an early night!

user1471538283 · 31/12/2021 14:59

I've never liked NYE. It was always too expensive and exhausting. My plans are a nice dinner, bath and bed.

etulosba · 31/12/2021 15:03

I guess we're both weary and tired after a busy year but I'm now wondering if we're old and miserable before our time

You are. I have 20 years on you and I will be out making the best of it despite Mr Drakeford’s best efforts.

vickyc90 · 31/12/2021 15:04

Nope we are 31 in nursing last night hangover. I'm on a 12 hour day shift on new years day and the husband doesn't finish work until 20:30 tonight, so staying home this year. Got to admit I'm jealous of those going out wish we were joining them

tigger1001 · 31/12/2021 15:06

Im not a New Years fan, would quite happily be in bed before the bells, but both kids want to stay up.

Will be a few drinks and some nice food and maybe a film or some music.

I used to work in nightclubs over new year and really wondered what enjoyment people got from it. We were lucky though - was good pay to work Hogmanay

Thatsplentyjack · 31/12/2021 15:07

We were going g to have a party here until we got fucking covid. Last year I was heavily pregnant, really ill and dp was working. I used to have amazing new years eves. Bloody boring now.