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babble123 · 2021-12-30T20:13:24+00:00

Ok so this is a long one and like something out of a soap drama. I have been with my partner 10 years. In feb 2020 I slept with a coworker and ended up pregnant. I was in 2 minds as to keep it, I bled and had 3 emergency scans in the first trimester and once I saw the heartbeat I couldn't not keep him. Fast forward I have a healthy boy. My partner is completely unaware that he isn't the father. A few weeks back I told coworker he was the dad. Baring in mind he is with his partner and they have a 8 year old son. Co worker doesn't want to be involved but I needed to tell him. He says he can't deal with this now he's on antidepressants in a bad place etc. Fast forward to today I have found out his partner is pregnant again and due any time. And that a HR girl is also pregnant by him! Now I know what I have done is completely wrong and I live by the fact I know what I've done. However do I owe it to his pregnant girlfriend to tell her the truth? Open a huge can of worms. Or do I leave it? AIBU to tell his partner?

maddy68 · 31/12/2021 09:27

Leave them alone.
Get on with your own life and don't interfere with theirs.
Why destroy a family?

PurplePinecone · 31/12/2021 09:32

So you don't think it's fair that his gf doesn't know about his cheating but at the same time you're happy not telling your partner that this baby isn't his own?....

Aside from this, perhaps consider that if you tell his partner, she might want to return the favour and tell your partner....

Tirediam · 31/12/2021 10:07

This isn’t real… no way

tillytoodles1 · 31/12/2021 11:24

All we need now is you making a secret phone call to the "real" dad and your partner. hearing it over the baby monitor.

Stormyinacoffeemug · 31/12/2021 11:50

Fast forward to today I have found out his partner is pregnant again and due any time. And that a HR girl is also pregnant by him!

I strongly suspect that the only reason you want to tell his partner is because you want revenge on him after finding out you're not his only affair.

blablablablablablablabla · 31/12/2021 11:55

@XelaM

I have only known one baby to be the spitting image of a father to such an extent that paternity could never be in doubt and that's Boris Becker daughter.

You should do a DNA test.

Brillant! Bravo !

BatshitBanshee · 31/12/2021 12:17

Sigh. OP, the only reason you're now in a rush to tell his partner is because he's whoring himself around and now you're not the only mistress with a kid. And his partner is also pregnant so they're clearly still very much together.

If you want to tell anybody anything, start with your own partner who is bringing up a child that isn't his, completely unbeknownst to him. You're duplicitous and a child; you only want to destroy another woman's family because you're not the only one.

Notimeforaname · 31/12/2021 12:21

do I owe it to his pregnant girlfriend to tell her the truth?

Only if you're going to tell your own partner.

katieg03 · 31/12/2021 21:36

Well one thing's for sure... The maintenance will be minimal with the amount of kids that have to share the pot!

JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome · 01/01/2022 06:35

OP do you intend to tell your own partner at the same time you tell co-workers girlfriend? I’d be getting your own house in order first. There is a risk the true parentage could come out in long term (blood type, other medical issues) . Is your partner aware you were unfaithful? I would stay out of co-workers family that is for them to deal with.

ikeptgoing · 01/01/2022 08:00

You tell the gf that he's the father of your son she will tell your partner

You either keep this a secret or you tell you partner soon. He believed this is his son. Can you imagine how he'll feel when he finds out DD isn't? The grief sense of loss and confusion your DP will feel? And how your Ds will feel if this comes out in the future? That his dad isn't his actual dad?

I think you should find a counsellor to talk to. As this is a huge secret for your DS snd your DP. The gf is minor in this story.

I can't tell you what to do. But a secret like that is a tough one to keep and not really a fair one to DS and to DP who believes DS is his biological son.

MusicTeacherSussex · 01/01/2022 08:17

Do you work at 10 downing street?

Lightswitch123 · 01/01/2022 08:36

@100problems

1. WTF why the hell didn't you let sleeping dogs lie

WTF would you tell this man something so secret yet your partner is kept in ignorance by you

Really, WTF

No, don't go round telling everyone to offload your own rejection and behaviour.

This

rocky1914 · 01/01/2022 09:12

I refuse to believe this is real. This is trolling at its finest.

Singlebutmarried · 01/01/2022 09:28

Wasn’t this a story line on Holly?

MissNothing1991 · 01/01/2022 09:32

I don't know how you sleep at night to be honest. What's even worse is you've not had the decency to tell your own partner, but you're happily asking for advice on whether or not to start drama with the father's partner?

badspella · 01/01/2022 09:50

First of all, you need to tell the HR girl who is pregnant with her kid. Arrange a secret meeting in a sleazy coffee house. Then, the HR girl and you need to hatch a plan to really get back at the cheating office rat. I suggest taking a cue from another thread, and shit in his office desk drawer (in a bin bag if necessary).

Whatever you do, don't tell your partner. Even if baby has saucy wink and a naughty beard, just like his daddy, don't let your man know. He has to find out when HR girl's kid and your child fall in love and want to make babies.

Happy New Year!

rocky1914 · 01/01/2022 10:00

@badspella

First of all, you need to tell the HR girl who is pregnant with her kid. Arrange a secret meeting in a sleazy coffee house. Then, the HR girl and you need to hatch a plan to really get back at the cheating office rat. I suggest taking a cue from another thread, and shit in his office desk drawer (in a bin bag if necessary).

Whatever you do, don't tell your partner. Even if baby has saucy wink and a naughty beard, just like his daddy, don't let your man know. He has to find out when HR girl's kid and your child fall in love and want to make babies.

Happy New Year!

🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭

JustJustWhy · 01/01/2022 10:07

That was quite a short story tbh.

KloppsTeeth · 02/01/2022 02:02

@JustJustWhy

That was quite a short story tbh.

It’s a ‘story’ alright.

CailleachGranda · 02/01/2022 02:56

@badspella

First of all, you need to tell the HR girl who is pregnant with her kid. Arrange a secret meeting in a sleazy coffee house. Then, the HR girl and you need to hatch a plan to really get back at the cheating office rat. I suggest taking a cue from another thread, and shit in his office desk drawer (in a bin bag if necessary).

Whatever you do, don't tell your partner. Even if baby has saucy wink and a naughty beard, just like his daddy, don't let your man know. He has to find out when HR girl's kid and your child fall in love and want to make babies.

Happy New Year!

Bravo