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Anyone else bored of having to do endless prompting and reminding?

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NorthSouthcatlady · 29/12/2021 20:59

I feel that l have to constantly prompt and remind my fiancé about most things. The latest one was him going to work this morning and leaving the back door unlocked and not bolted. I ask politely this evening if he could not do that. I was asleep in bed still feeling drained after having COVID twice this year and thought it was unsafe. His answer was he doesn’t see why he should have to do that and it doesn’t impact on him?! Which l thought was totally obnoxious and thoughtless

We argue ALL the time about him having to be reminded about stuff and he knows lm sick of it. For example we are meant to be having a fertility clinic appointment a week today, he has had to be prompted numerous times to not book work appointments at that time. His compliance with the recommended supplements has been poor and he hasn’t bothered to research our different options. I’m not saying lm perfect but l have done the necessary research etc. But he claims he wants to do more IVF; increasingly l can’t be bothered and that’s partly because of his attitude

Lately l have been taking a step back and letting him feel the consequences of things more. Yesterday the MIL had invited herself round. I’m unenthused as it was the last day before we go back to work and lm not 100% well. He claimed he’d host. But didn’t bother to discuss timings or expectations so his parents roll up at 2pm, no food has been bought or prepared. I’m in my gym gear and had gone out to buy juice. They then stay for 7 hours, he’s pulling random stuff out of the fridge and chucking it in the oven or microwave. Then is launching random food on top of the kitchen table which he hasn’t bothered to clear (random bill, cat grass etc anyone?!). No cutlery etc etc as he can’t be bothered setting it

OP posts:
JohnSmithDrive · 30/12/2021 14:52

You're going into IVF on the basic that everything will be OK because it probably won't work? Shock

Why would you do that to yourself?

FinallyHere · 30/12/2021 16:24

It’s like at home he wants to chill out and stare out the window all the time, whilst l do the hard graft and drive the bus. I push back on this, he gets annoyed and we argue

Why? Why do you put up with this? Especially why are you putting yourself through IVF with him as your partner?

Why?

As an explanation, your point that IVF is more likely to fail than to succeed really raises more questions than it answers.

Waftypants · 30/12/2021 16:28

Man child. I agree with PP, he won't be a useful life partner for you.

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