For some reason my husband has decided that over the Christmas holidays he wants to get the children out and doing fun things as much as possible.
Christmas Eve we did stay at home most of the day, but went for an afternoon walk and to the park and then to some local shops and an early evening church service.
Christmas Day we stayed home. I cooked the entire day, made them all 3 meals, tidied in between and basically didn't sit down until Christmas dinner at 6pm.
Boxing Day we went to a national trust property about 45 mins away. The children bickered and fought and squabbled in the back of the car the entire way there and back. I was constantly having to tell them to stop, pass them snacks, tell them to be quiet Etc.
The 27th we drove for nearly 2hrs (should have taken us an hour) to go to a new fast food restaurant they all wanted to go in and queued up for 25 mins before we could get in. Then went to some shops where the crowds were insane, then a winter wonderland fun fair thing, then to dinner (tried 4 restaurants before one had space for us). The whole day was terrible, service was awful. Didn't leave until nearly 9pm for an hours drive back home. I was so overwhelmed by the noise and business and bickering between everything and the children I flipped out at my son to stop pestering my daughter in the car and I paid him £5 to be quiet the entire journey home 😩
Yesterday we went swimming and then to Tesco. Again a 30 min car ride with both children is a nightmare.
Husband has been asking me what we're going to do today (he asked this last night and today) and I said I really just want a quiet day at home so I can tidy up some of the Christmas mess, and get some laundry done and some food prepped to take to a friends house tomorrow. He keeps getting so annoyed that I'm not on board with his constant entertainment of the children and is adamant we do fun things to make the holidays memorable for them. He really wants to drive 30 mins to an indoor trampoline park today or a play centre but this makes me very anxious with covid and the noise and the fact I'll have to be chasing our daughter around watching her.
He can tell I'm not keen on this as I don't really say anything when he mentions it. He asked me again what we're doing this morning and I said I would really just like a day at home. He got all stroppy and started into his usual tirade of put downs for me saying I was being selfish and how I never want to do anything. I told him he could take one or both children (10 & 3) to the trampoline. Park but I didn't want to go. He said I was running the holidays and I'm incredibly selfish.
AIBU for just wanting a quiet day in and not putting the children's fun first? Are we doing enough? We have things planned for next week too.
For context - I had undiagnosed ADHD and am an introvert. Sounds like bickering and whining and crying with my sons sounds on top put me over the edge. I suspect my son has ADHD / ASD / Tourette's. Daughter is just a normal 3yr old so can't rationalise things all that well