Wedding money

[danyL31]

My best friend is getting married in March
They are not asking for a wedding gift but instead are asking for a contribution towards their honeymoon!
I was discussing with my DH and suggested we give £100 towards their honeymoon. He thinks It's too little and we should give more perhaps around £200-£250!
I think that's too much in my opinion.
Am I wrong? How much do people give these days? For our wedding we got £30/£50 per person who attended and we were very grateful.

I find it bizarre that people expect their guests to pay for their honeymoon. Can't afford it, don't have one.

I'd think £50 is very generous and if I gave that to a friend they'd probably feel really awkward about it, so personally I'd give an actual gift. What you're suggesting sounds like plenty.

@PinkWednesdays wow! How rude!

shouldistop True, maybe OP would know what special gift to buy the bride.

@AdmiralCain

It was a few years ago, I gave some friends £250-500 in a card. I can't remember the amount, They were divorced less than a year later. Never making that mistake again.

Same here. I was bridesmaid for my best friends (very small) wedding. I gave them £500 which looking back seems crazy as I was certainly less financially stable then as I am now.

My thinking was it was very small, so much so that very few people knew they were getting married so they would have few gifts, she didn’t have a hen so didn’t have to pay for that and she paid for the entire weekend which was two nights away with accommodation and food and drink, the dress, shoes etc

They split up a year or so later….

@Flippydip

I find it bizarre that people expect their guests to pay for their honeymoon. Can't afford it, don't have one.

I'd think £50 is very generous and if I gave that to a friend they'd probably feel really awkward about it, so personally I'd give an actual gift. What you're suggesting sounds like plenty.

I find it bizarre that people are willing to buy household items for people but won't give them the purchase price in money towards something they want instead.

Here's a photo frame you don't want or need and probably won't use that I'm giving to you to show you that I think I'm morally superior to you.

I agree Barbara

I pay based on the wedding.
If it’s a cheap wedding I pay about £50-£80
If it’s an expensive one I pay £100-£200.
If they have spent a lot per head for food and entertainment they deserve a large gift amount

That ^ is completely illogical to my mind. I mean, I give, based on the closeness of the couple to me / the relationship we have, and my financial situation at the time, but if I were measuring up what the couple were spending on one day of celebrations, and adjusting my present accordingly, then I would be much more likely to be more generous to folk where my gift would have a real impact. If someone can spend £30K on one day, then I would have far less concern about not giving them anything - they have clearly got enough money to throw that kind of money at one day of partying - than I would about people who have had to make their choices on a much, much smaller budget.
As I say, not the way I decide to give, but if you were, then that would be my logic.

I was also going to ask if he is Irish. Generous wedding gifts are standard there.

£100 sounds about right for an English wedding.

Surely it depends entirely on how much spare money you have. ?

£100 if I know them really well. Otherwise £50.