She's dumped it in the porch.

[WeasilyPleased]

My sister told me she hated coming to ours for Christmas so I told her that as an adult, she could do what she liked. Dh suggested as this is last Christmas without baby, we would book at a local pub for Christmas lunch and his brother asked to come which was fine as he'd have been on his own otherwise.
We all went to sisters later. Her partner and his mum was there. First time we'd met her in 14 years! Presents opened an sister made a face at the clothes I'd bought her (which she had asked for)
After we got home, she rang, ranting that I'd bought wrong sizes and that I'd tried to make her look stupid in front of partners mum. She wasn't drunk just totally lost it and was saying ridiculous things about prefering dhs brother to her then slammed the phone down. After several abusive texts I blocked her.
Today we visited a friend. When I got back she'd left the clothes in a box in the porch and has been harassing dh's brother all day.
AIBU to not unblock her for a long time?

The very beginning of this post you say she hates coming to yours for Christmas, what a bitch!! Has she always been like this ???

Sounds like some serious mental health issues going on and possibly something going on in the relationship that you don't know about.
However, that does not excuse her awful behaviour. There are plenty of people dealing with mental health problems who still manage to beahve in a reasonable manner.
I'd leave her blocked for quite a while and get BIL to block her too so that she can't be abusing him with messages.
Take whatever clothes you can back.
And don't buy her anything in the future.

@WeasilyPleased

My sister is between a 12 and a 14. The clothes I bought were 12, 14 or M. She specified longsleeved tops,leggings and T shirts after her birthday in June as suitable presents for further gifts (I know) Her side is that we don't care about her or her feelings. That we gang up on her. That I prefer bil because it makes me feel important to help. I do prefer him tbh. He's funny and sweet. My parents live 200 miles from us. We all went down with presents etc the Saturday before Christmas. Trying to answer as many qs as poss.

Just cut her out of your life, you don't have to be the poor sod who puts up with it.

"MN gives you permission", if it's too much to make decision yourself. You are allowed to!

She's never going to change, she makes you unhappy, she's unpleasant and mean. Any nice personality traits she has are more than cancelled out by her being mean and spiteful to someone with LD.

Get shot, and be happy (and spend the money on yourself!).

Thank you all. Still shell-shocked tbh. She's gone far too far this time and I'm also annoyed with her partner for enabling her. They can both carry on their weirdness together without involving us. Thank you. It really isnt me is it?

Nope, it's not.

You can choose not to deal with the drama.

@WeasilyPleased

We're on a fairly low income so I start buying things in the summer to spread the cost. A lot of it cant go back but thats not the point.

This may already have been suggested (I've mainly just read your posts) but is there any way you can sell what you can't return? Eg: Vinted, eBay, Facebook Marketplace? You definitely shouldn't have to have this worry and bother, especially as you have higher priorities, but maybe you could recover some of the outlay?

What your sister did was calculated and mean - no need to feel you need to maintain any kind of future relationship with her. You have better things to consider in your life. 🌹

I have two people in the family with borderline personality disorder and are always dramatic,falling in/out with people on the regular and just human land mines waiting to be stepped on and that's exactly what I thought reading your description of your sister. I know I can't diagnose based solely on that alone but it sure sounds familiar. I don't invest in their drama and keep a distance physically and emotionally with them. She's despicable to be abusive to your BIL and I'd lose my shit with her

She's very jealous of you and your life and is immature or disturbed enough to pursue making you unhappy go low contact, essential contact only.

So did she specify an exact brand of 'tops' or just say 'tops'? If the latter, she might have been expecting £££brand and feels grumpy that she got £highstreet instead. Which is not fair on you, but that could be why she is making a fuss.

She is still very rude and entitled - do ignore her & concentrate on your own family.

@Fluffycloudland77

You don’t have to rsvp to her dramas.

This comment has made my day 🙌