Mil coughing and full of cold

[greenanorak]

They tested negative on LFTs last night but, aibu in being slightly bloody annoyed?

I'm 33 weeks pregnant. To be honest, after a shit winter of illness anyway, regardless of covid, I don't want to catch a cold!

@5foot5

It's way too awkward to leave Well I am not sure what you expect to happen then. She is in her own home and she didn't get ill (cold, covid, whatever it is) just to spite you. I am sure she would rather be completely Well. If you don't want to be near her then the onus is on you to do something about it, like go home.

She could have said yesterday, before we got here.

I had a positive PCR result yesterday (tested Thursday) and am still testing negative on LFTs and have tested every day for a week now.

At the rate that I am hearing of cases (and the common symptoms now) they almost certainly have covid so go home is my advice, unless you actively want covid at 33 weeks pregnant.

Hope you’re vaccinated and boosted . She should be doing a PCR - quite frankly I wouldn’t be there .

@bengalcat

Hope you’re vaccinated and boosted . She should be doing a PCR - quite frankly I wouldn’t be there .

I'm boosted, nine days ago.

@greenanorak

It's way too awkward to leave.

You’d rather feel awkward than feel ill?

I'd go home. You can't take anything for a cold if you're pregnant and it's shit when you get one.

My DH tested positive on a LFT 12 hours after a negative.. he’s now got cold symptoms. I don’t think you can be too careful at the moment..

Don't rely on the lateral flow. My DH tested positive on PCR on Monday and has never had a positive lateral flow at all.

If she has symptoms she needs a PCR. Incredibly selfish.

I have covid. My only symptoms are cold symptoms - cough (not continuous), sneezing, sore throat and runny nose.

I tested negative on lateral flow on Thursday and I felt so crap I got a PCR - positive.
It was super awkward to cancel plans but sometimes you just have to be tough and so the right thing. Especially if no one else around you is being sensible about it.
By the way my symptoms are the same as a rotten stinking cold. But for the first two days it was really nasty, so best avoided as you're pregnant.

It will be thirty minutes of awkwardness compared to a week of you being ill.

She might even be secretly relieved you're all leaving if she is feeling awful.

@drspouse

LFTs are only if you are asymptomatic.

Not true - they work when symptomatic too

How can she not know a cough means isolate and pcr? Lft isn’t good enough.

You should leave. As soon as I was in the house with someone with a cough and no test I’d be out of these.

Not true - they work when symptomatic too

LFTs are less accura

LFTs are less accurate so you should do a PCR if you have symptoms, not rely on a negative LFT.

Not true - they work when symptomatic too
Yes but they should not be used to rule out covid if you’ve got symptoms.

You should leave OP even if it is just a cold and cough it can be quite nasty and if you are pregnant you don't want to risk getting sick.

Christ, be awkward. Don't risk a cold or possible covid at this stage in your pregnancy.

FYI lateral flows can show up negative if tester has symptoms, they're not that accurate or reliable.

They should have warned you and let you decide. It's the polite thing to do.

I'd leave. Seriously. If its covid the less you can take in the better.

Very selfish of them not to tell you. And as others have said, LFTs are only for people with no symptoms. Cough requires her to get a PCR regardless of whatever the lft says. I'm sorry you're in this position OP, I'm in a similar one with my in-laws and I take your point that it feels too awkward to leave. (But definitely do if you feel able to). What does your DH think about it?

Take your DH to one side, say the last thing you need at this stage of pregnancy is a cold and you want to leave 1st thing in the morning.

Make an excuse if he's not comfortable, you can always say you're uncomfortable or got an upset tummy and want to be in your own home.

🤷‍♀️ you have to decide whether you want to deal with the awkwardness of leaving or the awkwardness of having a rotten cold while heavily pregnant. If you choose to risk the cold/potential covid its entirely up to you.
She made her decision not to consider others. You make your decision.

LFT tests are only if you have no symptoms. If you have symptoms it needs to be a PCR.

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7

34 weeks here and with a high risk pregnancy where I might be induced in the next two to three weeks. Despite this, my sister and her husband showed up to my mums (where we are all staying for a few days) with virus or flu like symptoms, and not a word of prior warning to us. Shes feeling so bad she's had to go lay down, but they've been really coughing and sneezing non stop. We tried to leave late last night but it was so awkward, we agreed to stay for today, and will hopefully be able to leave early tonight. But think it's very selfish of her, and your mother in law, not to say anything in advance so we could choose not to go and stay home instead.

That is shocking behaviour. I’m sorry you’re having the worry of it and hope you stay well.

OP you’ve been put in a really awkward position. Some posters almost seem to be blaming you for not having left already! However I think feigning loss of taste/smell is a good idea if you can manage it. Make it squarely about not wanting to expose mil to germs rather than about you feeling ill and then it has the added bonus of shaming her (I’m a bit of a bitch).

Hope you stay well.

Get out!!! It took my 6 days to show as positive when I though it was a cold. 21 weeks pregnant! I've been really sick. Why are people being so selfish