It's totally rubbish. Exchanged gifts Xmas Eve over dinner with our two daughters as they are off to their in-laws tomorrow, as it's the in-laws turn for xmas day. No problem with that. In fact it's good because it lets me off the hook and we can be a bit quiet and peaceful Xmas day which suits us both nicely.
Everyone's present was well thought out, and well received.
Mine was {I hope} well received but fuck me it's hideous. Keerist knows what he was thinking!
He knows I like handbags. Not necessarily very expensive bags. Just bags I see, that I like. Mid-range priced bags that are either unusual or fit into my colour palette, if you like:}
He's bought me a black plastic monstrosity!! Very cheap but not even cheerful!! He is convinced now {because of my acting skills} that he's pulled it off in getting something totally impressive. I mean, how misguided can he be!!??
That's not the problem though. He's done this many times in our 30+ years of marriage. What is worrying me is a recent thread that somebody asked, and I paraphrase "Does your husband have to ask what you want for xmas?" Well, yes, because otherwise he won't have a fucking clue. I wish he 'would' ask because then I might get a present that I actually want. The premise of the post was that if your husband loves you enough he'll be on your case 24/7 round the shops to make sure he knows what you want and he won't have to ask. That he is so in tune with your needs and wants and persona that he'll do these lovely things for you and can anticipate your every whim. And you will always get the most perfect gift! This can only happen if he loves you very very much.
If that's what makes a marriage, then me and dh are entirely finished and fucked and our marriage is worthless. Sod all the times he looked after the kids while I went away for weekends with my mates. Bugger the nightime feeds we always shared, even though he was working the next day.
Nope. t's the really crap presents that will finish us off. This ugly black plastic handbag is the end of us.