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Anyone else's Christmas cancelled?

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nosleepgang4life · 23/12/2021 19:45

To be really bloody upset and pissed off about the fact that my husband has come home from work ready for two weeks off and has just tested positive for covid when doing a LFT.

Anyone else's Christmas cancelled?

Our tiny baby is also poorly with bronchiolitis and I'm scared that he will catch it now too.

Honestly i am so sad for all the memories we are going to miss making this Christmas.

I am so done with this crap.

Sad
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rc22 · 23/12/2021 22:13

My brother was coming to us for Christmas. He's just tested positive and is single and will now be alone for the day.

farfallarocks · 23/12/2021 22:15

If I had symptoms and tested then it would
Be up to them. I’m not testing asymptomatic kids for example. We are all triple vaccinated. As I said my father died or something unrelated to
Covid last year suddenly. Life
Is short and unexpected. Statistically you’re more
Likely to die driving to see your family than from
Covid. So would I leave elderly parents with a terminal diagnosis alone this Xmas. No! Would I test asymptomatically just in case. No. With their consent.

Dindundundundeeer · 23/12/2021 22:16

Yep. In the spare room. On my own with family downstairs. Feels crap.

Feelingoktoday · 23/12/2021 22:17

@farfallarocks

If I had symptoms and tested then it would Be up to them. I’m not testing asymptomatic kids for example. We are all triple vaccinated. As I said my father died or something unrelated to Covid last year suddenly. Life Is short and unexpected. Statistically you’re more Likely to die driving to see your family than from Covid. So would I leave elderly parents with a terminal diagnosis alone this Xmas. No! Would I test asymptomatically just in case. No. With their consent.
Exactly this.
farfallarocks · 23/12/2021 22:18

The death rate is nowhere near 1.5%. You do you. I’m not judging. I’m saying I would
Make a different choice for my family because of my experience this year. You can die of a million things you’re not even worrying about. This could be your last Xmas with your family members.

Waterfallgirl · 23/12/2021 22:21

[quote Lucifersleeps]@Waterfallgirl I had a positive lft and subsequent negative pcr… also got the results in about 36 hours (Scotland though)[/quote]
Thanks @Lucifersleeps I’m keeping my fingers crossed. A few other posters have said not to get my hopes up - I’m trying not to and my dad has said tonight ‘ it’s just one day’ and we can do it another time!

esloquehay · 23/12/2021 22:23

I'm so sorry to hear so many of you are adversely affected by CoVid this Christmas.
My daughters and I are on our own again. We haven't seen any biological family in 2/3 years and it does feel like we are pretty isolated. But, we have our health and each other.
Hope everyone finds pockets of happiness and peace over the festive period.

wishingitwasspring · 23/12/2021 22:31

Yep. For the second year. We have very few family left and covid has once again made it no different to any other day.

Frankly I could just get lashed now and stay that way 😢

ChiefStockingStuffer · 23/12/2021 22:37

@farfallarocks

Well you’ve only got Covid if you test! Honestly life is short, Covid is not a problem for 99.9% of the population. Just see your family:
Such an irresponsible attitude.

Our family is in their mid to late 80s ... do you really think people with similar relatives should just risk it so glibly?!

GoodPrincessWenceslas · 23/12/2021 22:38

It's a shame, but don't worry about missed memories. It really won't make a jot of difference in the long run.

Waterfallgirl · 23/12/2021 22:38

@nosleepgang4life I hope your baby gets well soon. He is so small he won’t remember this and you can make fab memories next year ( when he’s toddling about).
Thanks @Powerpotpie and @Jacaranda75 - I’m hoping - but if he cannot get here DDad won’t be on his own as he has super neighbours and close friends nearby fortunately.
@DirtyDancing I know in my heart of hearts you are probably right. I’m ok with that - it is what it is and I just have to wait!

If I have learned anything over the past couple of years it is expect the unexpected!

Bagadverts · 23/12/2021 22:41

@farfallarocks

If I had symptoms and tested then it would Be up to them. I’m not testing asymptomatic kids for example. We are all triple vaccinated. As I said my father died or something unrelated to Covid last year suddenly. Life Is short and unexpected. Statistically you’re more Likely to die driving to see your family than from Covid. So would I leave elderly parents with a terminal diagnosis alone this Xmas. No! Would I test asymptomatically just in case. No. With their consent.
So you test positive, agree with family they want to ahead. You die after a car crash. And presumably the emergency services who tried to revive you are at high risk of Covid, which is a shame. Apart from the individual consequences they won’t be there for others in need in the weeks after.

So sorry for everyone whose Christmas plansFlowers are not what they hoped

farfallarocks · 23/12/2021 22:46

Wow that really is some series of events @Bagadverts
You’re sounding a bit unhinged.

I’m not judging anyone who decides to isolate from family who are elderly. I’m just giving my point of view. I’m not and this is why: you could
Die of something else tomorrow . Life is short
, Covid is not serious for most. Over and out happy xmas!

tarasmalatarocks · 23/12/2021 23:01

I feel very sorry indeed for people whose arrangements are ruined- my FIL had positive test on 18th and is planning on negative testing on 28th to meet up with us — however I did overhear a couple of conversations today with people using positive tests (and clearly lying by the conversation I heard) to get out of either hosting to or going to relatives/friends because they can’t be arsed and one conversation where they were using it to get out of work as needed to clean their house prior to relatives. Call me a cynic , but as always there are some people out there using it to suit themselves rather than being upfront which is incredibly sad .

Hippee · 23/12/2021 23:01

Just been contacted by test and trace to say I have to isolate for 5 days. PCR booked for tomorrow morning. Does anyone know if I still have to isolate if it's negative? Can't imagine that the results will be back quickly, which means that DH and DC will have to miss Christmas with family too.

NeedAHoliday2021 · 23/12/2021 23:22

@Hippee are you unvaccinated? If you’re vaccinated you have to do daily lft if pcr is negative so I don’t understand that advice.

DancyNancy · 23/12/2021 23:23

Yup. Hubby positive antigen today. Waiting for pcr. Mild cough and a bit achy.
Me and 3 kids neg on antigen so far.

SameToo · 23/12/2021 23:37

How long after someone you’re in close contact with tests positive did you test positive? I’ll be on day 6 tomorrow having kissed and shared a bed with DH up to him testing positive and was hoping if I make it to then still negative I’m out of the woods?? Had a negative pcr on weds and negative lateral flows for 5 days testing every day.

IncorrigibleTitmouse · 23/12/2021 23:37

Yep. Spending it thousands of miles from family and DS who is with his Dad. DH has to work every day except Saturday and Sunday. We're in the US and very few people get much time off. It doesn't even feel like Christmas.

Passthecake30 · 23/12/2021 23:38

Dh positive Lft yesterday and all the symptoms so Xmas is cancelled. Pretty sure one of the rest of us will catch it at some point. It’s similar to last year - except dh is having waitress service to the main bedroom!

Meadowblossom · 23/12/2021 23:41

Yes. Mine is cancelled as my beloved dad has just died.

IncorrigibleTitmouse · 23/12/2021 23:41

So sorry for your loss @Meadowblossom

motheroflions · 23/12/2021 23:47

Yep mine. Supposed to be in Dubai now.

DancyNancy · 23/12/2021 23:56

So Sorry for your loss Meadow Flowers its my DH's first Xmas without his dad so I think that's what really is getting him down now we can't be with extended family. It was already looming over him a bit.

Take care of yourself xx

Mamanyt · 24/12/2021 00:02

Not mine. But then, I've spent the last 14 Christmases right by myself, except for my little cat. My boys ONLY get Christmas Day off of work, and I'm 450 miles from one, and 800 miles from the other. Too far to travel for a single day. There are facetimes with them and their wives, but otherwise, just me. And I always have a joyous day...being alone does not change that. LOL, that said, it took me a couple of years to get to that point.