My parents are elderly and my mum is clinically vulnerable. They spent most of the pandemic in a village in Italy feeling safe. They came back to U.K. 1 month ago to sell their house and move to Italy permanently. My mum told me a few days ago she was scared of catching covid as she would die if she did.
We live in different areas of the U.K. I was going to drive 4 hours on Xmas eve to spend a few days with them. My brother would fly up on 27th with my nephew for a few days.
All was feeling fine early this week. But my 2 friends and their extended family who I spent time with at the weekend has tested positive. Total of 10 people. I have stayed mostly isolated for past week except contact with 2 people. We all laterally flowed beforehand. They became positive next day. I have done a PCR and daily lateral flow all negative.
My brother and I had a chat last night and due to the rising cases., my contact and him being in a flight we were nervous about going home. We thought it was risky to my vulnerable mum. We had a family conversation and it didn’t go well.
We started about the risks and asks how my parents feel? My mum flew off the handle and told us to F off, and many more swear words. It’s as if the red mist descended. She couldn’t understand our concerns and wouldn’t stop swearing, saying we were treating her as a child and her risks are low. Stopping treating her like an employee when we asked her to talk about it.
My dad said we broke his heart and it was unforgivable we were cancelling. We again said we feely it was risky but they needed to understand it and if ok we would come up. Again swearing, telling us to piss off etc.
My brother and I just stared at each other surprised with the outburst. It was like a toddler tantrum. My mum does explode but this was epic. She kept shouting we needed to apologise to her. I did say what about our apology with her behaviour. She didn’t respond.
So we never actually cancelled, but I don’t want to go as will be an atmosphere. My brother has cancelled as he doesn’t want to sit in a plane full of people.
My PCR is now negative, but track and trace have contacted me to daily lateral flow. I am worried that I may turn positive at my parents.
How do I get her to understand. It’s not that I don’t want to spend Xmas with them, it’s just risky and I am actually going to spend it alone.
If this was a friends outburst I would be done. But my mum I can’t be