To not give free stuff to people who can’t even say please

[Iwasintoyou]

Giving away some free items brand new but thought as it was near christmas I would help people out. Woman commented is this available. I said yes she then said I can pick up tonight. Aibu to not want to give it to her dh thinks I am personally think please doesn’t cost anything and makes a difference.

Basic manners do make a difference.

I was selling something on marketplace and replied it was still available, no response for 3 days, then I got asked how much it was - on the listing but I replied with the price, then got 'address' after 2 hours, 20 minutes later - what's the address, message got deleted.

Sounds petty, but you don't ignore the reply for 3 daysand then start being demanding with no manners - would rather give the item to the charity shop than deal with people with zero manners.

@NandorTheRelentless They were rude tbh. 'Ye' isn't really a polite answer is it really?

[quote StarfishDish]@NandorTheRelentless They were rude tbh. 'Ye' isn't really a polite answer is it really?[/quote]
They answered, in the positive
What more did you want?

I wouldn't take time taken over replies as being rude. Checking with partner whether to commit or when can pick up, being at work, plain missing the message. Plenty of reasons for a later reply.
Seeing rudeness where there is none.

There are a lot of rude people about and for me it saps the pleasure out of giving away something of value to a stranger.

It's usually a lot easier to put something in the bin than to go to the bother of rehoming it to someone who wants it.

I use the Olio app to rehome things and find most people there to be polite and fewer time wasters than on FB.

You are not giving it away for free, are you OP? The price you have attached is a certain amount of gratitude. Perhaps some difference and an acknowledgement that you are a good person. You should work in the charities sector, you'd fit right in.

Surely gratitude is a wholly appropriate expectation????

Or as a minimum common politeness and not to be messed around?

Well I think you shouldn't call it free. And you should make clear that you'll only give your stuff to people who you feel have the right attitude.

@Flakeymcwakey

You are not giving it away for free, are you OP? The price you have attached is a certain amount of gratitude. Perhaps some difference and an acknowledgement that you are a good person. You should work in the charities sector, you'd fit right in.

Not gratitude. Basic respect for other people. I pity anyone who thinks that's a problem quite frankly.

I like “Please.” And “Thank you” but I am much more keen on people who read the listing, accept any terms and will turn up and take it away at my convenience. All the pleases and thank you sin the world don’t make up for wanting a bit of it but not the rest, wanting it delivered, rearranging times for days on end, etc.

So someone who isn’t quibbling and is willing to come round and get it today is, to me, more appreciative in many ways than someone who uses all the right words but still asks me to jump through hoops for them.

It does seem.a bit odd though that there are conditions attached to something that's free amd supposedly first come first served.

I use Trash nothing to advertise fee items, and they encourage people to use their 'fair offer' policy. This means NOT first come first served. You are supposed to wait a while so that people who might not have easy access to computer, internet, or are working etc get a chance to see the advert and reply. You can then decide who you want to give it to.

I think that this is better, otherwise you just get greedy grabby people who check the site constantly and ask for everything.

If someone rude like this woman replied to me then they definitely wouldn't get the item.