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TonTonMacoute · 22/12/2021 16:57

I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic

Well, you will, and you will need to make plans for that! Your SIL is not being unreasonable wanting you to test to protect her olds.

Personally I would prefer to plan my own Christmas lunch and catch up with the rest of the family later, if the tests are ok rather than risk the disappointment of missing out at the last minute on the day.
It might not matter so much to you though.

CuddlyDudley · 22/12/2021 17:05

To be honest I'm the one requesting firmly that people test before visiting this year. I work with the public so can't guarantee that I'm clear unless I test and most of our visitors are quite high risk of catching it due to jobs. Yes we are all fully vaccinated apart from the kids but at the same time it's best to be safe. I've been testing daily anyway over past three weeks as been in contact with two cases, PCR was clear but carried on with the lft tests to be certain.

neverbeenskiing · 22/12/2021 17:08

Options:
“No we’re not doing it”. I would be tempted by this. Put the ball in her court.
or
“Yes we’ve tested and we’re negative”

Or option 3, be a decent human being with a modicum of respect and consideration for others and take a painless, 30 second test that she's used to doing as she does it twice weekly for work anyway!

OnlyAFleshWound · 22/12/2021 17:16

@SuffolkDreams

OnlyAFleshWound & LondonJax

Sorry, I should have been clearer. The mum is super controlling about everything - not just Covid

You were perfectly clear.

You still sound horrible for rolling about laughing at the fact that she's been exposed to COVID and is extremely anxious about it.

WhereYouLeftIt · 22/12/2021 17:24

@Quarks69

Is everyone else having these? My sister in law has demanded this from my side of the family as her elderly parents are going to be at the dinner. With a family of five and three are my busy teens I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic (for the second year running obvs).

I do get that we are in bonkers times, but Was so looking Forward to seeing everyone, including my parents, that this is making me cross...isn’t this the point of the jabs!?

I realise this is at a tangent to what you actually asked @Quarks69, but you got me thinking. Lots of people are going to family, lots of people have already cried off because they've tested positive on 20th/21st/today - what fallback does everybody have in place? I'd be gutted if I were looking forward to a lovely Christmas dinner, tested positive on 25th - and had not very much in the fridge

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tartanbaker · 22/12/2021 17:26

Wow. Just wow.
Tell you what - if you're so convinced you're right, why don't you all do a LFT and then, if any of you test positive, ring the elderly parents and just check that they're OK with you still going? And if they're too polite to tell that they'd rather you didn't go, just make very sure that your 'busy teenagers' will cope with the guilt afterwards if they find out they've infected their grandparents and made them seriously ill.
I suspect that your 'relaxed' attitude towards Covid & cynicism about the tests is the exact reason your SIL has to ask you to do one....

gwenneh · 22/12/2021 17:31

what fallback does everybody have in place?
I've got Xmas dinner for 5 in the deep freeze. It's prepped out already, in case I'm too ill to cook, all someone would have to do is put things on the hob/in the oven.
If nothing happens to our plans, then great, we'll cook it for New Year.

BruceAndNosh · 22/12/2021 17:34

I realise this is at a tangent to what you actually asked @Quarks69, but you got me thinking. Lots of people are going to family, lots of people have already cried off because they've tested positive on 20th/21st/today - what fallback does everybody have in place? I'd be gutted if I were looking forward to a lovely Christmas dinner, tested positive on 25th - and had not very much in the fridgesad.

I've put a tiny stuffed turkey roast in freezer just in case, and if we can't join family as planned, we'll have that. Bottle of sherry beforehand and we won't notice the difference...

Lalliella · 22/12/2021 17:43

This is you OP:

newsthump.com/2021/12/22/man-confident-he-can-avoid-testing-positive-before-christmas-day-by-not-taking-any-tests-before-christmas/?fbclid=IwAR14ziSzpdDUAPqqYuJ9PvErYU3h9tu_NPqn-LBo9LKHcptmciZ2b-UK7FM

Alwayswonderedwhy · 22/12/2021 17:45

Perfectly reasonable request. Are you saying you'd rather not know if one of you has covid and passes it on?

jellybe · 22/12/2021 17:47

Other than one of my kids we have all had it in the last few weeks. The child who hasn't had it yet is testing on LafTs before we go anywhere just incase. We will start testing again if we get symptoms or when our 90 days is up - which ever comes first.

MsFogi · 22/12/2021 17:51

We are testing before we see anyone outside the family, so pretty much every day. Seems the sensible thing to do. You could get a chicken for the freezer and a few potatoes just in case - you can always use them another day.

Martz · 22/12/2021 18:20

This year will be DC’s first Christmas and after last year I’m really looking forward to having a more “normal” Christmas with family. However, DC and I have both started with cold symptoms this week, so we’ve had PCR’s and have been isolating despite LFT’s being negative. We’ll be disappointed if we are positive but we have elderly and clinically vulnerable relatives who we plan to see. DH did a Christmas food shop online just incase, so we’re prepared to miss out if DC or I test positive. It’d be selfish to put the health of our family in jeopardy just so we can enjoy ourselves. Why wouldn’t you want to do the same for your family?

Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas · 22/12/2021 18:32

It takes moments to to do.
It's all we have to stop the spread I'm very grateful to lateral flow tests.

allbartwo · 22/12/2021 18:32

Just wondering, is "we're all testing before we go anywhere" the new "I never stopped wearing a mask"?

Imdreamingofapeacefulxmas · 22/12/2021 18:38

Op I've been working with in vaccinated students and some staff in less than ideal conditions and yes it then feels strange to have to mask up in a supermarket because it reminds me we are still in a pandemic. However I still regularly lat flow test, I can't understand your reasoning?

tarasmalatarocks · 22/12/2021 18:39

Must say OP my father in law is 82 and currently positive but relatively asymptomatic— he only knew because he got a positive lft and tests every other day. He is also triple boostered

Mummytotwonow · 22/12/2021 19:06

Absolutely is sensible to do this. We are testing every time before we meet parents or meet up with others. We want to try and keep everyone safe - especially elderly parents. This is normal request and I’ve had other people ask if we can test before meeting too as a check.

Dimondsareforever · 22/12/2021 19:20

Would you rather you didn’t test, have it, and pass it to the elderly and they get seriously ill? Or is having a Christmas dinner more Important to you than others getting seriously ill?
I get it - it would be awful if you or someone in your house tested positive - but is that worse than someone getting seriously ill ?
We too have to test in the morning and I have no problem with that. We’d end up with frozen fish and chips for dinner, but we can do our Christmas dinner another day. I’d rather eat fish and chips than give the elderly relatives an illness that could be serious and cause death ….

worriedatthemoment · 22/12/2021 19:37

@WhereYouLeftIt i have ordered a piece of beef some frozen potatoes and Yorkshire's and have frozen veg
Plenty of chocs , crisp and wine and ordered some beers
It would be shit dinner compared to my mums lovely xmas dinner but food at least that can be cooked easily

Siameasy · 22/12/2021 19:37

@allbartwo

Just wondering, is "we're all testing before we go anywhere" the new "I never stopped wearing a mask"?

I’m permanently wired up to a LFT. It’s the only way to be safe.

5128gap · 22/12/2021 19:50

@GrannytoaUnicorn

"Demanded?!" Why do people on MN always have to use such emotive, exaggerated language?! Nobody demanded, you mean you were asked. Probably politely.

Also, if you're going to be around elderly and/or vulnerable people then you absolutely should have an LFT!!

I think the language used to the OP is far more emotive and exaggerated tbh. As it always is whenever someone questions the approach of the very cautious, or voices any desire to do anything at all that doesn't fit with their view if what is 'safe'. If taking the test is a condition of attending it's not a request it's a order. One the SIL is entitled to issue, but a demand nonetheless.

takenforgrantednana · 22/12/2021 19:52

@Quarks69

Is everyone else having these? My sister in law has demanded this from my side of the family as her elderly parents are going to be at the dinner. With a family of five and three are my busy teens I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic (for the second year running obvs).

I do get that we are in bonkers times, but Was so looking Forward to seeing everyone, including my parents, that this is making me cross...isn’t this the point of the jabs!?

no, the point of the 3 jabs is to keep us all out of the hospitals, some might have no symptoms, some might be "just a cold" some might feel like they have flu, and then there are the smaller number of vaccinated people that need to be in hospital, most of the beds are currently taken up with the unvaccinated

so you would rather not do a test? is this more important than your sil's family? how self centered that actually is!

AdoptDontShop · 22/12/2021 19:58

She’s sounds absolutely fanatical.

whyarentiskinnyet · 22/12/2021 20:01

We are asking everyone to test, I'm hosting and very anxious in case we turn out positive and have to cancel leaving all out guests with no Xmas meal!!!!