Christmas morning Covid test being demanded

[Quarks69]

Is everyone else having these? My sister in law has demanded this from my side of the family as her elderly parents are going to be at the dinner. With a family of five and three are my busy teens I am worried that we could end up with no xmas day if one of us is asymptomatic (for the second year running obvs).

I do get that we are in bonkers times, but Was so looking Forward to seeing everyone, including my parents, that this is making me cross...isn’t this the point of the jabs!?

@TuftyMarmoset ^ this. I'm amazed that some people are so gutless they'd happily lie rather than stand up and say 'not for me sorry'. But there you go.

I’m not really clear what the issue is? An lft is hardly an inconvenience. My DD 4yrs school ask us to lft her daily to reduce the risk of asymptomatic spread.

The vaccine is less effective on the elderly or immunocompromised so it’s just polite to lft.

We've been asked to do a LTF it's pretty standard for a meet-up now I'd have thought

I wouldn't lie like some people suggest but then I am more than happy to say I won't test and won't attend if anyone demanded it.

This is down to personal opinions and preferences. Triple jabbed is enough for me and I have no intention to be testing every day on top of that.

@Siameasy

LondonJax

OP isn’t legally obliged to test as she has no symptoms. SiL is inventing rules based on her own moral standards, not the law and getting upset when people don’t want to follow them. That’s a SIL problem not an OP problem so put the ball in SIL’s court.

Give over. The SIL isn't legally obliged to host the Op for Christmas Day. The Op isn't legally obliged to attend.

I have been asked ever so sensitively if I mind doing one. Of course I don't. I do one every day any way. Why would I not?

So you don’t want to test in case one of your DC is asymptomatic and positive, and you’d rather not know and have them spread it to their grandparents?? That is mad.

I have no intention to be testing every day on top of that.

No one is being asked to test every day.

(Unless they are doing it because of being with someone who's tested positive)

LFT is a small thing to do which saves lives.
The fact that you are worried this may inconvenience you says A LOT about you as a person @Quarks69

If I knew my SIL had your attitude after being asked to perform a minor test before being around my vulnerable relatives, SIL would find herself very swiftly uninvited

SIL isn’t necessarily the host Notonthestairs as the OP hasn’t specified who is the host.

Of course, hosts can refuse entry on any grounds they want. I would consider refusing entry to people who are obsessed with using hand gel for instance as I hate the stuff. Bet the SIL bathes in the stuff

Everyone I know is testing Xmas eve/Xmas morning before visiting t for family. Seems sensible

Whats the alternative? Don’t test and potentially have a super spreader Christmas in your own family?

we can't test as we have no more tests and no where near us has any, neither can you order from NHS to post.

(last 2 used at weekend to show we are now negative after being positive week before)

@InspiralCarpets

Can't even get LFTs round here! Haven't been able to for weeks

You can order them online

Regardless of how effective vaccines are at preventing severe illness, covid can still make you feel pretty unwell and if you pass it on to someone they will be required to isolate for 7-10 days. This might mess up their other plans and/or leave them feeling very isolated. I don't understand why you wouldn't want to minimise the chance of passing covid on if you can?

I wouldn’t go if I had it, but am curious if everyone out there is testing.

Unless you do the test, you won't know if you have it!

My neighbour's dad was a non vulnerable 60 year old last Christmas when he caught covid (pre vaccine) and sadly died a week later. I wouldn't risk it tbh.

I do trust the vaccine, but some people still need hospitalising. Just test and be on the safe side!

If someone is comfier with people doing a LfT before they host then that’s fair enough. You can either agree or make other plans.

Personally if I am going somewhere I will test before going so I know I am at minimal risk to others. It’s no hardship

@SuffolkDreams

😆 My DD attended a party last Sun, they all had negative LF tests however two of them now have it only three days later. I only find this funny because the mum is a horrendously controlling woman yet just she couldn’t control this 😂🤣

SuffolkDreams I don't think I've ever said this to anyone on this but you sound like a weirdo. You don't know what's going on but think it's hilarious that despite trying to be as safe as possible people got infected? She's probably scared having that party has ruined all those families plans and that doesn't take in what hers situation/health is. How odd....do you laugh when 90 year olds slip on ice in winter too?

I have a feeling OP isn’t going to tell SIL if any of her family do test positive.

SIL is hosting 10+ for dinner, the least OP could do is show some gratitude and comply good naturedly with her very reasonable request.

We are using lfts when we are meeting up woth people over Christmas yes, as its more people than we would normally see and don't want to pass it on to anyone, as are most people we know. It depends on what everyone is comfortable with, naturally your SIL wants to protect her parents.

Aside from whether catching covid makes the fully vaccinated household ill or not some of them may not have 2 weeks off work like the OP and if they test positive after the visit then they won't be able to go into work possibly causing staffing issues - which is one of the major problems the virus is causing atm.

I’m quite surprised OP that you seem to understand the need for LFT’s weekly for your job but seem agog at someone wanting you to do one to keep their family safe?

They’re annoying yes ( I do ones daily!) but it’s a necessity just now and surely it will make you feel better too knowing your all safe and sound and can enjoy the day properly?

@Thatsplentyjack

Hang on, you don't want to test incase one of you is asymptomatic? So you want to live in ignorant bliss and go spread covid to her elderly parents so you can all have a lovely christmas day?

Yes this is exactly what she's saying which is batshit

Agreed totally 🦇💩

Maybe she doesn’t like them very much??