To actually look forward to Xmas with the inlaws?

WasgijGods · 2021-12-21T23:57:40+00:00

I know I'm probably a minority in MN land but I love my in laws (probably more than I love my husband!) and can't wait to spend Christmas with them! Just hoping to share some positivity amongst all the inlaw/MIL hate this season with stories of the good ones!

Luredbyapomegranate · 21/12/2021 23:59

I like mine

They are very warm and generous and they like seeing me!

Frankcat19 · 22/12/2021 00:03

I love mine too. Just genuinely lovely people, good fun and incredibly relaxed. They get on brilliantly with my side of the family too. Definitely lucked out in the in law department.

Haggisfish3 · 22/12/2021 00:05

I really like my in laws too!

Redshoeblueshoe · 22/12/2021 00:06

I have the most fabulous DIL. I love her to bits.

seriouslyenoughalready · 22/12/2021 00:14

Same x I have a a narcissistic mother and enabler father who has a history or sexual
Abuse against his granddaughter and my in laws are lovely people who we do not see now, for obvious reasons . We did not get to see my I laws last year and I r we lot hope
We get to see them this year- mainly for
My children because I know the love them
but I love to see them Too

seriouslyenoughalready · 22/12/2021 00:15

*Do not see my father, for obvious reasons

PersonaNonGarter · 22/12/2021 00:18

Me too. In fact, I was worried they might not come for Christmas because of Covid. But they are all coming.

Quirkyme · 22/12/2021 04:16

@seriouslyenoughalready

Same x I have a a narcissistic mother and enabler father who has a history or sexual Abuse against his granddaughter and my in laws are lovely people who we do not see now, for obvious reasons . We did not get to see my I laws last year and I r we lot hope We get to see them this year- mainly for My children because I know the love them but I love to see them Too

Hello, can I ask what it was like telling your partner about your parental situation? Some people can be nosy, do your in-laws know and have they ever asked you about it?

I'm estranged and wondered, thank you

MrsTimRiggins · 22/12/2021 04:24

If you are, I am. They’re grand. This year, bless them, they rearranged all their plans for us. We were supposed to be with my mother (don’t see my father and haven’t for nearly 15 years) but my side of the family have been struck down with covid so my in laws cancelled the plans they already had and mil is now doing Christmas dinner for DH, baby DS and I 🥰

Defeatedbylife · 22/12/2021 04:29

My in laws are vile, ignore us all year and put on a fake act on Christmas day,out of some crazy sense of misplaced duty we attend each year ,but not this year,weve had a horrendous year and faking it for them i can no longer do.they ignore my disabled child and look at him like an inconvenience ,they ignore how hard our life is and constantly throw their easy lives in our faces. They have Never helped us despite being asked many times.they are selfish,and have no compassion or conscience. They are self obsessed, materialistic shallow people who judge soley on appearances and get great satisfaction in the misery of others especially that of immediate family.so no id be happy to never actually see them again.

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WasgijGods · 22/12/2021 11:29

@MrsTimRiggins

If you are, I am. They’re grand. This year, bless them, they rearranged all their plans for us. We were supposed to be with my mother (don’t see my father and haven’t for nearly 15 years) but my side of the family have been struck down with covid so my in laws cancelled the plans they already had and mil is now doing Christmas dinner for DH, baby DS and I 🥰

Aww that's lovely!

Glad there's a few other good ones out there!

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AnnaBegins · 22/12/2021 20:08

Me tooooo! Christmas at their house is so relaxed and chilled, I love it.

Shouldhavebutdidnt · 22/12/2021 20:11

Christmas at in laws (well FiL) for the first time in 20+ years. Getting everything organized to go is a nightmare but I can’t wait to see him.

He is a wonderful man, as was his wife, who have welcomed me like a daughter. He adores his GC and they are the light of his life.

Also FiL does the prep & clearing up & DH does the cooking & I will do very little! Heaven 🎄

Doidontimmm · 22/12/2021 20:11

Love mine too, can’t wait to see them!

TurdCrapley · 22/12/2021 20:14

Me too! They put on a brilliant day for 10 of us and it's my favourite day of the year really 😊can't wait!🥳🥂

Holly60 · 22/12/2021 20:15

Always LOVED christmas with my amazing wonderful PILs. Now I have the BEST DIL (and SIL), who are both coming to ours for Xmas day and I can’t wait.

Nowisthemonthofmaying · 22/12/2021 20:17

I'm already at my in-laws and it's great - free childcare, food and laundry on tap. It's much nicer than being at home!

Hankunamatata · 22/12/2021 20:17

@Defeatedbylife

My in laws are vile, ignore us all year and put on a fake act on Christmas day,out of some crazy sense of misplaced duty we attend each year ,but not this year,weve had a horrendous year and faking it for them i can no longer do.they ignore my disabled child and look at him like an inconvenience ,they ignore how hard our life is and constantly throw their easy lives in our faces. They have Never helped us despite being asked many times.they are selfish,and have no compassion or conscience. They are self obsessed, materialistic shallow people who judge soley on appearances and get great satisfaction in the misery of others especially that of immediate family.so no id be happy to never actually see them again.

Guessing you missed op part about postive inlaw stories

Merryoldgoat · 22/12/2021 20:17

Mine are wonderful - they’ll be arriving around midday on Christmas Day and it will be lovely.

They are the best family I could hope for.

Hankunamatata · 22/12/2021 20:18

I love mine OP. They live 5 min down the road but we all stay so we can enjoy with copious amounts of booze and food with the inlaws

Holly60 · 22/12/2021 20:18

I should say all coming to ours. It will be DS, DDIL and their two DC, and DD and DSIL and their two DC. Full house but I absolutely love it.

Both our adult DC alternate Christmas Day with us and their other in-laws. This year they are coming to us for Xmas day and Boxing Day, then off to the other side the day after. We all get on so well and there is absolutely no bad blood. Just as it should be 🥰

Blueuggboots · 22/12/2021 20:20

My mother in law is amazing. Unfortunately. My FIL died 8 years ago.
She's so supportive and kind. My mother is also coming for Christmas at my MIL's....she's a PIA!!!

FTEngineerM · 22/12/2021 20:21

I like mine (well soon to be mil anyway).
She cooks outstanding food.
She knows how hard 2u2 is.
She offers help all the time! I mean all the time!
She treats me like another child of hers.
They spoil our dc.

Honestly, it couldn’t be any better in that respect.

britespark1 · 22/12/2021 20:22

I love mine! They are wonderfully kind and generous, have always helped out if we need them too, adore our 3 DC and are fab company too.

AliceW89 · 22/12/2021 20:22

My MIL will single handily manage the grandchildren while SIL and I drink Prosecco and my FIL is a sensational cook, so I personally can’t wait! I think I struck gold with them!