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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To actually look forward to Xmas with the inlaws?

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WasgijGods · 21/12/2021 23:57

I know I'm probably a minority in MN land but I love my in laws (probably more than I love my husband!) and can't wait to spend Christmas with them!

Just hoping to share some positivity amongst all the inlaw/MIL hate this season with stories of the good ones!

OP posts:

Wishiwasrunning2 · 22/12/2021 20:25

Me too, my MIL is wonderful and is a huge part of who my DH is. It's just great. I hope I can be as good a MIL as she is.

Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow · 22/12/2021 20:25

Going to mine tomorrow.
Really really looking forward to it.
Will be greeted with a hug, handed a gin and tonic and welcomed really warmly.

Flingingmelon · 22/12/2021 20:25

I will be with my in-laws in twenty four hours and very much looking forward to it.

We lost FIL this year and I'm expecting it to be tough when I get there and he isn't waiting with the bar open, ready to cater to even then most obscure request.

Dontgetyerknicksinatwist · 22/12/2021 20:25

I wish I had nice in-laws and posts like this make me realise what I’m missing out on. Unfortunately I can’t change my mil or her partner so rather than be dutiful, put up and not complain, I have chosen not to spend time with them anymore. If that makes me negative and a bad person then so be it but life is too short.

Opus17 · 22/12/2021 20:25

Love my in-laws too. Since DS was born there has been a few disagreements and clashes with mil, but in general, we get on really well, she's very thoughtful and we can chat for ages. Christmas at the in-laws is a quieter holiday, with board games and sweeties and chocolate and long walks. It's a big contrast to my large crazy loud family Christmas and I actually love experiencing both!

LivingNextDoorToNorma · 22/12/2021 20:25

We had an early Christmas with my in-laws on Sunday. It was brilliant. They put so much effort in to the planning and the food (I’m a vegan and always so well catered for). They’re lovely people and we all had a great time. I see some real horror stories on mumsnet, so know I’m lucky to genuinely love my in-laws.

Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow · 22/12/2021 20:26

Meant to add, they raised my husband, who is the love of my life. How grateful am i??

user159 · 22/12/2021 20:26

I really love mine too! Xmas day is my favourite day of the year and we always spend it with them.

bubblebath62636 · 22/12/2021 20:30

Aw what a lovely thread!

I adore my IL's they're always avaliable and go the extra mile for us. I have a strained relationship with my own parents so it makes a nice change.

Orangesox · 22/12/2021 20:31

I bloody LOVE my inlaws, far more than most of my own family. They’re staying at home this Christmas as we’ve just lost our 100 year old matriarch and they want to be close to home, but younger BIL is coming to us on the 27th and will be staying into the New Year fingers crossed.

I actually detest spending Christmas with my own mother, she’s a fun sucking narcissist who overstays her welcome and makes everyone miserable with her shitty behaviour. I can’t wait to kick her out on the 26th

alwayswrighty · 22/12/2021 20:33

I love my in-laws too, we see them 2/3 x per week anyway but apart from mil not decorating her house because she's grinch we get on incredibly well and am really looking forward to Xmas day with them without dh that brother

ivfbabymomma1 · 22/12/2021 20:34

I love mine too! They are joining me & Dh, DS & my parents for xmas day and I can't wait!

harriethoyle · 22/12/2021 20:34

I adore mine and since my mum died, and my dad got dementia, they've adopted me a bit... our Christmas card was signed "Mum and Dad (husband's surname)" which brought a lump to my throat and made me laugh at the same time

CantStartaFireWithoutaSpark · 22/12/2021 20:34

I have nice pleasant in-laws but they bore me to death.
There isn’t a lot to talk about, no interest in anything other than the news or the weather. So, while they are nice people, I am gladly not spending it with them as I want to enjoy my day.

JustLyra · 22/12/2021 20:38

I'm really looking forward to Christmas with mine.

There are 22 coming for dinner (hopefully!) and they've all isolated this last week and taken multiple LFTs to protect both Dh's Granny and my DD4 (Granny is vulnerable by age, but determined to just get on. My DD is vulnerable because of health conditions).

MIL is currently reading a story to said DD for the fourth time tonight because it's her current obsession.

Other-MIL is DH's first MIL. He was widowed very young before I met him. Despite the fact seeing me with her grandson, and DH, must be hideously painful she has always been kind and supportive.
In fact it was her who took me aside when DS wanted to call me Mum and told me that her DD loved being DS1's Mummy, but when she was ill her biggest fear was leaving him alone and OMIL felt sure she'd be pleased he has a Mum to look after him.

My parents were abusive, neglectful drug addicts. My grandparents were wonderful when they took me in at 7, but my in-laws are utterly amazing.

NigellaBangBangTurkey · 22/12/2021 20:40

My DPs parents are lovely. They have a great relationship with my DS even though they live very far away and have only seen him about 4 times. And after their visits I'm always doubly sad now. Sad for me and sad for my DS whose too young to understand where they've gone.

ladyvimes · 22/12/2021 20:40

Me too! Very lucky. Currently spending a week with them, including Christmas and it’s so lovely!

SquigglePigs · 22/12/2021 20:43

Mine are arriving tomorrow night (PIL and SIL). Really looking forward to it. We all get on really well and they adore DD. It should be a really lovely Christmas.

My parents are then coming on Boxing Day for a few days. We're lucky, we have a great relationship with both sets of parents!

Teenagetrouble · 22/12/2021 20:48

Adore my in laws and love spending Christmas Day with them. Hated that we couldn’t do it last year. Going to do the same again on New Year’s Day. We have a right laugh and they adore the grandchildren (who are grown now but love having them here on Christmas Day).

Justcallmebebes · 22/12/2021 20:58

My in laws were absolutely amazing. Much kinder than my parents and I loved Christmas with them. Unfortunately FIL now dead and MIL in residential care with dementia. Will be spending Christmas with next generation of in laws and they're all lovely too. Am blessed

WildStallyn · 22/12/2021 21:01

We're off to MIL's for 5 days tomorrow and will go to SIL and BIL for Christmas Dinner. They're all lovely, I can't wait.

I have a great relationship with my own parents too. I'm very lucky.

galacticpixels · 22/12/2021 21:03

I really enjoy spending time with DP's parents, they're really kind and nice people. We aren't spending Christmas with them this year (we're going to my mum's on the other side of the country) but we did have our own "little Christmas" with them at the weekend which was really lovely and we also meet up with them regularly.

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 22/12/2021 21:14

I like mine too. They are amazing with our DS!

CounsellorTroi · 22/12/2021 21:17

I loved my PIL too. They could be difficult but kind and funny too. I’m grateful to them for raising my DH to be the man he is

AlwaysNapTime · 22/12/2021 21:19

I love my in-laws and I love spending Christmas with them every year.

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