My husband is going to a concert and I’ve found out he’s going to meet an ex there as they both like the band. They dated when they were teenagers and are mates and I’m fine with that, I don’t like her very much but she’s not my mate and I don’t have to spend time with her so it’s fine.
However my husband hasn’t told me about it, i saw a message from the ex on his phone pop up and had a nose at the conversation (because I’m nosy AF).
I’m pretty sure he hasn’t told me as he knows I’m not a fan of hers and also he thinks the concert will probably get cancelled because of Covid.
In the conversation he’s offered to take her and pick her up, she does not live on the way there, it’ll be about two hours drive out of his way to get to hers before a long drive to the concert. He’d also been saying to me he was going to hire a car rather than taking our big vehicle, claiming it would be cheaper on a long journey, I couldn’t understand why he didn’t want to take our (my) vehicle.
Rather than ask him about it I decided to book a hotel for him and have offered to go with him (night away from the kids, it’ll be good for both of us). He agreed to this and still hasn’t told me but has said it will probably be cancelled.
Am I being unreasonable for being annoyed about this? I genuinely don’t mind him going with her, I can’t stand the band and it’ll be nice for him to go with someone. But I’m seriously pissed off that he hasn’t told me about their plans to meet up. I feel like the grown up thing would be to talk to him about it, but I kind of just want to mess with him 😂