To ask when you told close family and friends you were pregnant?

[Pearldrops04]

Did you wait til past the 12 week mark?

I don't know how people do it. I've only known I'm pregnant for a few days and I'm already fed up of keeping it a secret/ lonely/ wanting to TALK to people about it, well, female friends and close family members that have had children.

I have no idea how I'm going to go another 8 weeks not saying anything, or without anyone twigging when I'm not drinking over the festive period (I never not drink when out socially)

Told a couple of friends (who I'd been discussing trying with) and my sister straight away! Told parents a week or so later.

Six weeks in I told my immediate family, which was Christmas Day, as we had announced our engagement on Christmas Day the previous year, then some friends.
Second baby I was 42 , had a bit of spotting and a bit more cautious so we waited until I was 12 weeks. In one sense I don't know why because if I had miscarried I would have told them.

I told my sister before my husband as I was away with her for the weekend. Him as soon as I got back.

You do what’s right for you. I waited until 12 weeks because it had been a long journey and I didn’t feel that I would be able to cope with their disappointment if something went wrong before 12 weeks. I did tell my best friend though, as I saw her the day after I took my test, and she can read me
Like a book!

12 weeks. No regrets as it gave me something to look forward to part way through the pregnancy and made the pregnancy go faster as I wasn't talking about it with everyone for so long.

I told people quite early on. I wanted to keep it our secret for a little bit, as it was nice being the only ones not knowing, but by about 6-8 weeks I started telling the people I would need support from if it didn't go as planned. But it did as long as you're happy with people knowing then it's nice to share!

@DrinkFeckArseBrick

16 weeks for family and a few weeks later for work. I wanted to be treated as a normal person with opinions about normal things rather than just talking baby things all the time. Totally understand that others can't wait to talk about it though

This, though I told my line manager earlier because the nature of my work meant he had to start the process of hiring maternity cover sooner. My pregnancy didn’t take up a huge amount of my attention for most of the time, to be honest.

Both pregnancies told parents and PIL at 7 weeks after the first early scan. Told everyone else after 12 week scan. If you want to tell everyone as soon as you find out then that’s absolutely fine, do it.
I literally wanted to shout it from the rooftops so I get you! But husband wanted to wait till 12 weeks so I respected that

DC1 - 12 weeks for everyone, DC2 - 12 weeks for family, about 16 weeks for friends/work etc & DC3 19 weeks family & friends, 21 weeks for work.

We waited so long with DC3 to make sure abnormality scan was clear as we wanted to tell DC1&2 first (big age gap between them & DC3) and not worry them incase there was something wrong.

Everyone is individual- tell who you want when it suits you, you don't have to wait if you don't want too.

Good luck

First time, my mum knew the day I got my BFP as I was doing IVF, so she was expecting a result. Everyone else (siblings included) found out at 13 week scan due to previous losses

Second time around, I didn't tell a soul I was doing IVF again (not even my mum) so everyone found out at 13 week scan

Immediately with family and close friends. There is no rule that you have to wait until 12 weeks, the only reason many do is because that’s when they have a scan.

For me, good news should be shared so we told those we wanted to know early.

We told everyone pretty much straight away all 3 times.
I work with some drugs that I wasn’t allowed to handle in pregnancy so I had to tell my boss so I could have a risk assessment and then I also had 3 HG pregnancies so I couldn’t of hidden it even if I wanted too.
I was being sick so much some days I could barely function, work were very understanding about it.

I only told my parents, sister and her partner last Christmas (was only 8 weeks) only because I was having dinner with them and knew it would be obvious as I probably couldn’t get away with the driving excuse at Christmas. Told DH’s parents after an early scan a week later and made it extremely clear it was a secret, not convinced his mum didn’t tell her family though 🙄 My mum went on and on about how I had to tell my aunt (her sister) because she’d be SO excited. I told her she wasn’t getting told til 12 weeks. At 12 weeks she was the first person I messaged and told (along with my two cousins- her daughters). They replied hours later with the least enthusiastic congratulations you can imagine. I instantly regretted telling them because I had originally planned to tell no one til 16 weeks but felt sort of forced into it by my mum. The pregnancy went on and they didn’t send me one single message or ask how I was doing, if I was excited etc, not a word. I really wish I hadn’t told them so early as if they were going to care. They didn’t come to visit when he was born and only gave us a present when we bumped into them.

So in future with another I won’t be telling anyone til 16 weeks. I didn’t put anything on Facebook til 16 as I was finding out the gender then so I just posted the gender on Facebook and didn’t ever share a scan picture as I felt it was quite private to share with random people on Facebook. Only tell who you trust and actually know will be happy for you/worth telling. People aren’t as excited as you expect, in my opinion 🤦🏼‍♀️ But you also get the opposite thing happening too and some friends with no kids were absolutely buzzing for me and have made so much effort to ask about us since he’s been born

Close friends and family straight away, so 4 weeks. Work soon after, im a nurse and my job involves manual handling and looking after patients with infectious diseases like shingles etc. I posted on Facebook 12 days before my due date.