To ask when you told close family and friends you were pregnant?

[Pearldrops04]

Did you wait til past the 12 week mark?

I don't know how people do it. I've only known I'm pregnant for a few days and I'm already fed up of keeping it a secret/ lonely/ wanting to TALK to people about it, well, female friends and close family members that have had children.

I have no idea how I'm going to go another 8 weeks not saying anything, or without anyone twigging when I'm not drinking over the festive period (I never not drink when out socially)

I told close family and friends immediately. Whoever you feel you’d turn to if something went wrong, you can tell them. Anyone you wouldn’t, don’t.

Friends/family 13 weeks. Work and colleagues 20+ weeks. Didn't tell some clients until I was 30 weeks.

Honestly, I didn't want to tell anyone. DH was sick of keeping it a secret and cajoled me in to it. As soon as I told people the opinions and unsolicited advice started and it was annoying as fuck.

I chose to wait until after the 12 week scan but only because I knew once I told a few members of family it would inevitably go further and I wanted to be the one to share the news.
When friends have told me early their pregnancies seem to last ages so I quite liked waiting (told close family at 12 weeks and other people around 16-20 weeks)

But it's up to you, no right or wrong.

January 1982.
12 weeks.

The pee wasn’t dry on the stick before I called parents and PILs.

You don’t need to wait til 12 weeks unless you want to. If you want them to know now, tell them! It’s absolutely up to you.

Congratulations!

After 12 week scan

Straight away with our parents and close friends. We'd need their support if there were any complications. After the 12 week scan for the rest of the family.

I recommend holding a nice glass 9f wine and switching it with your husbands nore empty glass every now and again! Nobody will notice if you say yes to alcohol but don't actually drink it

I ended up having to tell close family and my work early on around 6/7 weeks as I had hyperemesis and vomited all day long so it was extremely difficult to hide x

DS1, after the 12 weeks scan.
DS2, 8 weeks, he died at 21+4.
DD, couldn't even say the words "I'm pregnant", told close family at 14 weeks when we knew we were going to lose her too. Told everyone else who needed to know after she'd been born and died.

You tell who you want, be excited, enjoy being pregnant (if you can), don't take on any advice that you don't like, just be. Pregnancy can be wonderful and it can be absolutely shit too. Do what gets you through, and if that means shouting it from the roof tops then go for it. If it means keeping it to yourself then that's OK too.

There are due date threads on here which may be useful to you as it's women at the same stage as you.

Told parents, siblings and my best friend the day I found out. I knew no matter what happened id want their support. Everyone else at 13 weeks following our 12 week scan

@HeyFloof

We told both sets of our parents and my sister as soon as we found out. However having had 2 previous miscarriages which they also knew about I can't imagine having gone through that without them knowing. I also told 2 close friends who were aware of the previous miscarriages as I knew I would want their support if it all went wrong again.
Due to the nature of my work I had to tell them straight away so I could keep myself and baby safe.

I found out when I was 6 weeks, we told both sets of parents right away. Then I told my best friend. Then I started being sick because I had HG and I didn't bother telling anyone else, I just let my mother tell everyone. I was pretty miserable!

She's honestly the most wonderful person and I would do it all again to have her though - she is worth it easily! But I was very unhappy at the time and didn't feel like celebrating.

After my 20 week scan

Told them immediately.

These are the same people I'd tell if I have a miscarriage so it didn't matter at what gestation I'd tell them.

Straight away. I wouldn't have been any less sad if I lost it and didn't have anyone to lean on.

Immediately

Told my parents and PiL around 6-8 weeks both times. A few people at work on a need-to-know basis for occupational health reasons (avoiding x-rays etc). One or two friends guessed before 12 weeks, then we gradually told people after that scan

@HeyFloof much love xx
As @Heruka said, I told the people who I’d turn to straight away and everyone else after 12 weeks. Although with DD2 a lot of people ended up finding out when I was obviously pregnant because I just kept forgetting to update 🤦‍♀️

Also, congratulations!!

@HeyFloof I am so sorry

DS1, told parents, PIL and siblings at 8 weeks and everyone else after the 12 week scan... we lost him at almost 24 weeks though.

DS2, close family at 8 weeks, work at 20 weeks and everyone else after he had arrived

Early the first time, before eight weeks. Just my sibling the second time as I was in my thirties and more cautious but my mother half overheard me and bullied me into telling her, then told other family. I miscarried that baby. I'd planned on waiting until 12 weeks.

Same as @MrsSugar. Awful HG and had to tell people as I was hospitalized. But just a small group. I found that everyone understands that early pregnancy is risky and didn't pass it on and I needed a support network of people to tell me it was going to be worth it!! Only had one person who made a questioning comment about why we were sharing it so early and said they would have just lied about why they were in hospital

Congratulations on your pregnancy btw @Svara