To want DH to take kids out?

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I’m a teacher. I want to prepare for online learning if it happens, and I asked him if he’d take our under 2s out for the day.

I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable, or would your DH be happy to do this?

I do understand what it's like. I only have the one DC but she has ADHD and ASD and absolutely doesn't respond to 'don't disturb Mummy she's working'. Hence the lock! But DH isn't crap and doesn't constantly interrupt to ask me stuff.

There are loads of places to take small DCs for a few hours. Park, swimming, friend's house, garden centre, grandparents' house (as suggested).

But it sounds like you asked, he thought nah not doing that and didn't confirm. You might be better to involve PIL directly?

If you need a space outside the house, I recommend something like a Costa in a big supermarket. They don't seem to care how long you stay.

I don’t think schools will be closing this time. It’s been said they won’t close, and with the detriment effect it had during the first lockdown I don’t think they will again if I’m honest. Couldn’t you just leave it for now and see what happens?

But just to add, I fully understand why you’d need quiet time. I have a 2.3 yr old and an 8 month old and whenever I’ve needed some time alone to concentrate on something, as soon as I hear screaming I can’t concentrate, I have an inner instinct to focus on the screaming and rush to my kids… something I think most mothers with babies have.

I don’t think they will, but I wouldn’t be surprised if there are at least some closures. We’ve got some year groups online now. Not necessarily the whole school but some. Just want to be prepared

Depends, sounds like you're secondary, OP? I recently had to isolate for 10 school days (DD got Covid, then DH, then me). I wasn't particularly ill so I had to teach ally lessons on Teams. It was good to have suitable stuff already from Jan-Mar this year. Plus there's the dreaded blended learning to consider (some DC in classroom, some at home isolating).

It depends how your school is doing it. Mine is private and expects seamlessness!

Regardless of why and what your job is YANBU to want him to take them out. Mine would do it if I asked for space to something even if that something was a nap. As I would do for him if he asked...

No idea why you’re getting all this grief OP.

Of course their dad can look after them for a few hours, especially so you can work. My DH would do this in a heartbeat and I’d do the same. It’s called an equal relationship

If you have a separate work space in your home and you have slightly older children who understand ‘no, mummy / daddy is working’ and can be entertained with a TV or screens then that’s fine but none of those things apply here

I do have older children - 8 & 3. Both are autistic. The three year old is a cross between a rhino and a wrecking ball.

My DH works from our bedroom and during my wfh time I work from the kitchen table with headphones in if kids are there.

I get it. But what my children - who have never been easy - have taught me, is that it’s easy to get caught up in the smaller things. But if there’s a solution that works for everyone, that’s the one I take.

So I’m your position I would think ‘two small children, DH won’t keep them quiet enough, I’m fucking off’.

You’re not unreasonable to want him to go out, but I understand why he might not want to.

I posted a few times about my youngest moving furniture. It was making me cry. He’s like baby hulk. So I changed furniture. His room is bare.

Path of least resistance. Every. Time.