To expect a courtesy text about going out out

[Liopleuradon]

DH went on a work meal tonight at about 7pm said he wasnt sure what the plans were whether they were having a couple of drinks etc. I went to bed as normal, woke up abruptly at 3am as he wasnt home. Texted and called to see where he was. Eventually texted back to say that hes gone out out with his work mates. I'm now wide awake because when I feel anxious I get stomach aches and have to be up in 3 hours to do the school run. He has to be at work at 8.30am tomorrow, I asked him to please in future just give me a courtesy text to let me know he wont be back and hes told me that I'm being unreasonable because he told me he wasnt sure what his plans were for the meal. Aibu to be annoyed?

Get him gone op.

You sound better off without him.

Stop paying for everything. Increase your hours at work and start putting money aside. Stop funding him. You need to prepare yourself to go it alone. And he needs to sort his shit out. If he wants to live the single life then that's fine but at the minute he has the best of both worlds and you're enabling it.

You sound like you have your head screwed on correctly and are making plans. It's scary going it alone but you will be fine. (And when you do he needs to pay CMS if you don't split childcare 50/50..)

YANBU did you see those statistics the other day about the dates where most men go missing (connected to Xmas do's and the time between Xmas and New year, and further connected to being drunk near canals, rivers and lakes)

@Liopleuradon that is such great news to hear. And shows how much power you do actually have, if he came back after you split. Our confidence and strength of character is usually what attracts a partner in the first place, so hold on to that and it’ll get you out of this situation and into a better one! If you find yourself worrying that you can’t handle this, just remind yourself that you absolutely can. It’s just about needing time to adjust.
Sounds like you’re carrying him at the moment and having that weight lifted off you, could make all the difference. I’d say best of luck to you, but it’s clear that you’re capable of making your own!