Mortified by gift from boss

[didyouscoredarling]

I had two KIT days that fell for secret Santa, so I was included in it

I got my boss, he got me. He forgot my present on the actual day of secret Santa so he gave me mine the day after

I got him an aftershave he likes. It's a fairly cheap one (£20), and a small box of chocolates. Just Cadbury's, he loves chocolate

I was gifted today a 'I ❤️ Sports direct' mug with a pack of pens in and some sticky notes
Wtf.

AIBU to feel sad? Limit was £20...

I only know he was my secret Santa because he was late to the fisting...

@StrangerThanSpring At £20 gift limit, you're taking the piss by getting something shit

Which he has

At least he can use the aftershave, and says it's his favourite. Have a spare somewhere, even regift the chocolates (but they're his favourites and he ate them!)

Sorry, I didn't mean it nastily. Just I think Secret Santa is hard because you can never really know if the person you are buying for will really like the present or not, which is the main reason I don't participate. I just find the stress of trying to choose a present for someone I don't know well too much. I actually would be happy with a mug, pens and sticky notes, but I am a bit weird. The other day, one of my co-workers gave me some sweets and they were disgusting. I didn't tell her so though but I didn't get her a present back, so hopefully she won't get anything for me in the future.

I guess my point was that I wouldn't personally complain to him that it was a bad gift as a PP advised.

When you are back in work together keep the mug nearby and each time anyone is nearby insist they admire your beautiful new mug and pens that you were lucky enough to get in the SS. Make sure your eyes shine with sincerity. Be certain he hears.

I once worked with a surgeon who was retiring after working with the same assistant for 20odd years. She’d gone many many extra miles for him and he wasn’t very pleasant at all. On his last day he bought her a can of coke.

I don't think he was "being cheap".
It's more likely he assumed having missed the..uh....fisting that he wouldn't still be part of it.
When you presented your stuff he had to grab whatever came to hand right away to make a return gift.

Looks like he completely forgot about the secret Santa and just fished around in his office cupboard for some stuff to throw together as a "gift" in other words some crap promotional stuff that was lying around.

@didyouscoredarling

*LATE TO THE GIFTING!

Sorry

Damn it I was laugh out loud hysterics at that! Honestly I wouldn't get upset about it, he's your boss not your DH and its £20. I was really hoping for a juicey story. A friend of mine worked in Victoria Secrets and her (very married) old uncle came in and picked up a sexy nightie thingy and asked her if she thought this was a good gift for his PA in secret santa. My friend was horrified and his explanation just that he knew young women liked the shop and thought she'd help . I think she directed him to buy some cheap perfume/chocs. But even sports direct mug would I'm sure be preferable to sexy undies from your boss! Ewh

How about regifting it to him next year ( beautifully wrapped of course) but include a toy boomerang in the package.

😭😭 wonder why fisting is in your phone's autocorrect lol

I reckon it was a late.. shit i forgot present and he literally went in the store cupboard in work and picked them...

Late to the fisting 😂😂😂

Funniest auto correct EVER. I am properly laughing at this thread. Has made my day!

@whynotwhatknot

what a tightarse im sure theyre free

Tightarse and fisting are probably not happy bedfellows...

He totally could have stopped at the hospital shop and got you a beautiful floral arrangement for £20. So entitled of him.

I also think you need to look at that present and acknowledge that this is how he sees you/what he thinks of you. You’re the “Tea Lady” and the “Stationery Chick.” - also being a surgeon, he may very well be on the spectrum (a lot of them are) and that could explain his attitude towards people.

How incredibly rude of him!

You should never be late for the fisting.

He was late to the fisting hahabahhahaha

Sorry. That's is funny

But op. Secret Santa (kk) is just that. Sometimes you get lucky mostly you get junk

And @Sparklybanana don't go saying men are bad in these kinda things. Why are we in 2021 and still go with the "boys will be boys attitude".
No wonder some men still act like this. Time to grow up for some of these men. And time for women to enabling their behaviour by saying "oh they are men. They are just bad at insert anything here"

Rant over. Haha

Best typo ever!

You can be thankful you're not married to his grumpy tight arse!

Sorry (not sorry) to bounce, but I just saw this tweet OP and it made me laugh and think of you! Hope it makes you laugh too!
twitter.com/mickdavis5/status/1471171531023831042?s=21

[quote Yuleniquealast]Sorry (not sorry) to bounce, but I just saw this tweet OP and it made me laugh and think of you! Hope it makes you laugh too!
twitter.com/mickdavis5/status/1471171531023831042?s=21[/quote]

Oh god that is the best typo in a long time.

Well I agree with others that he probably forgot and grabbed what he could find. It is crap and actually, if you knew who had bought who's gift anyway perhaps he could have bought you something else later on to make up for it since you got him something decent. But he's probably oblivious that it was rubbish. Surgeons often have poor people/social skills hence why they choose an area of medice where their patients are usually unconscious!

Hate work secret Santa's we thankfully haven't bothered the past couple of years, has been lovely!

Why are you mortified when surely disappointed would suffice?

I had this years ago, but my boss never gave me anything. He claimed to have left it at home. I had organised the secret santa and had handed out all the gifts at the work party only to be left sitting there while everyone opened theirs. He got a generic gift and still didn't offer any part of it to me. He joked the next year that he would try to remember this year but as the boss expected double regardless. It gave me a very good read on who he was as a person and a boss and I quickly changed jobs after. He was subsequently proven to be the dick I judged him as when things were discovered later.

Another year in the same company I was gifted some bath bombs but as I "took too long to take it home" the gifter reclaimed it. I left it at work during the work do and forgot it the first day I was at work again, Wednesday, by Thursday morning it was gone.

Oh man, I’m laughing so hard at “fisting” 🤣🤭

A couple of years ago in a previous role, we did an office wide secret Santa.
I was the only one with an awful present… condoms (I was pregnant!), lube (at least marginally useful!), nail scissors, used nose hair trimmer and a weird kids light up alien thing.

I was devastated. Everyone thought it was hilarious and was laughing but I was crushed because I’d put so much effort into mine.

It’s shit. I feel your pain OP!

I uses to love secret at my work place. I'd always join in. They had one for the agents and one for management. I'd only ever been included in the agent one before but one year they invited my small team and another to join the management one so I switched and went with that. The budget was more. £15 I think it was. I got my friend which was good so I could get some funny novelty gifts.
On the day of gift swap they didn't have the decency to tell me my gift wasn't there. I stood waiting to be passed something but was told only when all the gifts were handed out. Fair enough whatever. I broke up for Christmas and didn't think on it.
When I came back after Christmas I walked to my desk and there was a small gift on my desk. No bigger than the palm of my hand. I opened it to find a heart key ring. No tag. Looked a little warn. Some sort of fake diamanté design on it. Some of them missing. I decided to Google it and found the offending item. £3.49 from River Island. Someone later told me it was my secret santa from the management one. I laughed. Vowed never to do one again. And have always been honest with people about what happened. Found out who it was as well. Didn't suprise me let's put it that way. Some people ruin the whole experience for other people. It's a real shame.

I think you spent too much unfortunately and yes, his offering was very disappointing.
I thought from your title that you were going to say that he had given you lingerie or similar - that would be mortifying, a mug is just thoughtless.
How did you know what aftershave he wears?