AIBU to give presents away?

[Antsinmypantsneedtodance]

So for various reasons my inlaws have turned up today with presents for christmas.

In October I gave them a list of present ideas for DD (18 months) to ensure she'd get toys she'd use and no duplicated. Including things in a mix of prices that they could easily get. So no online retailers. They bought 3 items off it and told us about these. Great. She has too many toys anyway and the 3 they got were more than enough. In late November i asked if they were done with the list and they said yes they were and I could buy anything else off it they hadn't bought.

Today they have turned up with a sack of presents and i mean a sack. Quick look there's about 12 reasonable size gifts in there.

Now here comes the crunch. WIBU to go through it when they've gone and donate at least some to our local baby bank who are collecting christmas gifts? We do not need loads of presents and I'll probably end up giving some away after christmas anyway.

They won't be here on christmas day itself. But may come over new year instead. But I don't think they'll actually notice.

Giving away your child's gifts before she has even seen them is disgusting quite frankly

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LOL.

She's 18 months. Hardly at an optimal decision making age

Not unreasonable to give stuff away (and annoying that they’ve bought so much more than requested) but I’d wait until after new year.

@immersivereader

I did this last year. The same magic set 3 times. Gave 2 away

Some people see themselves as these generous givers and they don't even give a shit do they?

I think whatever you do, DH has to be happy with it and happy to explain it to his parents.

My ILs ask for a list and then buy additional items –that's fine, it's nice to choose some presents yourself. However, the additional items inevitably include half a dozen cuddly toys, which quickly adds up (and DD is not even that into most cuddly toys).

We've always gone for letting her open them all and seeing what she fancies, and then culling a bit later. We always keep something (at least for the first cull; I don't keep track after that), and I'll sometimes put away a particularly nice or unusual one in hopes she might like it when she's older – which also means they can be pulled out for visits, even if DD still ignores them.

Definitely give them away, a while before Christmas if possible.

Personally, unless you live in a one bed flat, I think YABU.

You could always ask them to keep some of them at their house, or as some other posters said, you could put them in a cupboard and slowly hand them out over the coming months.

@Capricopia

YANBU. At 1& months she will be overwhelmed by too many gifts. It would be kind for you to share some of them with kids who are less fortunate.

Yup, agree with this 100% but just be sure your husband is on board with it too.