Page 15 | Parent from the school opposite parking on my drive

LemonJelly76 · 2021-12-10T00:34:07+00:00

I'm not letting on my actual opinion on this, but I am curious to know what others think. I live opposite a primary school. I knew the school was there when I bought the house. Most days my car is not on my drive because I am at work, but I have on a couple of occasions come home to find a car there. I haven't approached the parent on these occasions and have just parked elsewhere until they leave This parent regularly uses the drive (must assume I'm not in) for 10-15 mins each morning and afternoon. There is usually other parking available, but further away Driveway is a shared drive for 4 cars, I own one of the spaces and there is a Private Parking sign up across all four spaces which was there before I moved in. YABU - it's fine because you're not using it most of the time YANBU - they're CFs

amoreamore28 · 12/12/2021 10:29

It is your driveway and you are paying for it used or unused. It is there for your convenience and not for anyone else’s. You are being inconvenienced when you arrive home and it is occupied by this totally selfish person. You should not have to park elsewhere when the parking space is yours. There are notices saying private parking so they know full well they should not be there. Park behind the car next time and block it in so that they have to come to you to ask you to move your car. You can tell them when they find you that is is not acceptable as it is private property and ask them not to park there again. What cheek!!

Plumbuddle · 12/12/2021 10:29

@FrenchBulldogsareFab

Print an A4 size sign 'PRIVATE PROPERTY' and attach to driver side windowscreen. I find a Pritt Stick is the ideal product to ensure notice does not blow away.

MissCrowley · 12/12/2021 10:31

Agreed with taking down reg of the car and notifying school if you're not keen on confronting the parent face to face.

moonriverandme · 12/12/2021 10:31

Is this a reverse thread & op is actually the cf? 🤔😏 😉

Qwertykeys · 12/12/2021 10:42

I would pop a note on , please stop parking on my drive .

shadypines · 12/12/2021 11:06

They shouldn't be parking on your drive without your permission. I presume your kitchen is empty all day if you out, does that mean they can come in and brew up too? Absolute CFs.

Haroldhadrada · 12/12/2021 11:34

One warning under the wipers and if they do it again, block them in with no indication of who owns the car that is blocking them in. Make them sweat for a while!

Treegarden · 12/12/2021 11:49

The best and most effective thing to do is to email the school and complain and they will send an email out to all parents.

Gamezup · 12/12/2021 14:32

If it was me in your shoes, I wouldn't mind if they'd had the courtesy to ask first, but they didn't - the cheeky buggar! What would happen if they damaged some property whilst being on your driveway where they have no right to be? Or if someone else damaged their vehicle? I would be tempted to park behind them and block them in. Then they will have to wait for you to move YOUR car in YOUR time to park in YOUR spot!

GrannytoaUnicorn · 12/12/2021 14:37

@spotsbeforetheeyes

YANBU.

I'd put a note on their windscreen saying, "Please stop parking here. This is private property. We have noted your license plate number and if you continue to use this space, we will take further action."

Then if it continues you can speak with the school & give them the car number.

You cannot do anything with someone's licence plate info! Police cannot & wi not act on it nor will they give you the owners contact details!

GrannytoaUnicorn · 12/12/2021 14:45

@Usernamerequired

They pay road tax (hopefully) so they can park on the road like normal people not your private driveway. Totally taking the piss by doing this. I would ask school to send a message to parents in their newsletter or whatever to specifically ask people not to park on or obstructing driveways

Car tax is not road tax! 🤣 Council tax pays for roads. Car tax pays for motorways!

GrannytoaUnicorn · 12/12/2021 14:47

@IsobelElsie123 Hang on, you want the school to write & print notes to put in potentially hundreds & hundreds of pupils' book bags because of one single entitled CF mum?!?!

woodhill · 12/12/2021 14:49

I think a note on the windscreen would work wonders unless they have no conscience

andtherewere2 · 12/12/2021 15:45

@TheFeistyFeminist

You can contact the DVLA to get the ownership details for the car, see list of reasonable reasons here: www.gov.uk/request-information-from-dvla

"You can ask for details of another vehicle’s registered keeper. You’ll need a ‘reasonable cause’, for example:
• finding out who was responsible for an accident
• tracing the registered keeper of an abandoned vehicle
• tracing the registered keeper of a vehicle parked on private land" and the list goes on.

And earlier on it said what legal recourse is

"... (civil) .. option is to pursue a legal claim for nuisance behaviour on the grounds that the driver is interfering with your use and enjoyment of your property."

That's why a cease and desist letter will be helpful

But really I think you should wait and catch the driver in act have a word and point out you have cctv evidence of her constantly trespassing with date stamps and clear record of her car Reg.

There was a thread some time ago where a PP had this a lot and had put up a notice by her garage on driveway where cars kept parking stating "private property and anyone parking illegally would be charged £50 each time and costs to recover. Civil action will be taken."

Easiest option for you after telling the CF mum to stop parking in your drive is to put up a barrier of some kind

I don't understand why you don't get gates OP? Most houses that live near schools end up with gates precisely as there's a minority of parents who behave terribly.

andtherewere2 · 12/12/2021 15:56

I hate people even reversing onto my driveway (I don't live at end of a close at all), and would go mad to find car or van parking regularly on my driveway.

My cats and DCs play on our front driveway, when we'dsuddenly have some idiot white van who couldn't see past our bushes, start reversing halfway onto the driveway to do a turn in the middle of the road! But that's another story...

ShabbyRobedNun · 12/12/2021 18:20

I did wonder myself 😄

Sammyclaire22 · 12/12/2021 18:56

I regularly get parents blocking my dropped curb driveway parking for the school, it's a long road and there is ample parking further down they are just lazy. Plus it's only a 0.2mile catchment so they could easily walk.

I've complained to the school but they can't do anything, once I was very heavily pregnant and was blocked in unable to leave to attend my midwife appt. Had to walk all the way to the school (not far, but plenty far enough with pgp!) to get them to announce for the parent to move it. It's just bloody selfish. The same mindset as the adults who park in parent bays without kids. As long as I'm alright who cares about anyone else.
And before anyone moans, I've lived here 11 years and it's only been an issue the last 2 as they made the road the school is actually on no parking, so wasn't a consideration when we bought.
At my most tired and hormonal I was tempted to leave one of our dogs dirty poo bags as a suitable present!

BoffinMum · 12/12/2021 20:26

Start charging £10 a day. Nice little earner.

MandyP66 · 12/12/2021 23:14

Just wondering, has any of the other 3 given them permission for their space? 🤔

BlueMongoose · 13/12/2021 09:10

It wouldn't be unreasonable to allow someone to park in your space if they asked first and you knew you weren't going to be there. Then 'no harm' would be being done. But that would have been your choice to allow it, which it clearly is not. It is completely unreasonable for them to park there without asking. And harm has been done, is being done, because another of the CFs of this world is getting away with bad and selfish behaviour, which just makes them behave even worse and be more 'entitled' which harms other people.

Just one possible excuse I can think of- is it possible they had an arrangement with whoever owned the house before you and they think it still stands? If the house sold in the school holidays they might- just might- not know about the sale.

GrannytoaUnicorn · 13/12/2021 09:28

@LemonJelly76 Any update?

LauEli · 13/12/2021 13:35

I'd block them in 😛 they have to ask you to move then and then you can tell them how inconvenient it is they block your drive 😂

WeatherwaxOn · 14/12/2021 13:02

@Yaya26

Could they possibly park there because if proximity to school and have one or more babies in the car that they leave there while dropping older child/children? Don't go mental Mumsnet! I'm only asking if that's a possibility. If not and if they aren't dissabled they are complete CFs.

That still doesn't entitle them to park on someone's private property. If they are disabled they can park on single yellow lines with their badge on display/make an arrangement with the school.

Rosscameasdoody · 14/12/2021 20:19

@Sammyclaire22

I regularly get parents blocking my dropped curb driveway parking for the school, it's a long road and there is ample parking further down they are just lazy. Plus it's only a 0.2mile catchment so they could easily walk.

I've complained to the school but they can't do anything, once I was very heavily pregnant and was blocked in unable to leave to attend my midwife appt. Had to walk all the way to the school (not far, but plenty far enough with pgp!) to get them to announce for the parent to move it. It's just bloody selfish. The same mindset as the adults who park in parent bays without kids. As long as I'm alright who cares about anyone else.
And before anyone moans, I've lived here 11 years and it's only been an issue the last 2 as they made the road the school is actually on no parking, so wasn't a consideration when we bought.
At my most tired and hormonal I was tempted to leave one of our dogs dirty poo bags as a suitable present!

I had this. Found out it’s illegal for them to park across a dropped kerb if there is a car on the driveway, but not if it’s empty. I contacted the police on 101 non emergency number and they sent community officer to patrol at school pick up and drop off times. It soon stopped, as did the bloody inconsiderate parent who parked on the road every day with the engine running, spewing fumes everywhere.

Mygirlruby · 15/12/2021 09:35

@vastgrandupgrade

If they came to you and asked if it was ok, and gave you wine or chocolates now and again, and you genuinely didn’t mind - then it’s ok.

It’s obviously not ok to just help themselves to someone else’s property.

I agree. They obviously think they're getting away with it because no-one has said anything. There might be some mitigation but they're being cheeky not to at least pop a note through your door.