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Just found out my dad threw away all of our school pictures

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Christmasbirdchristmasherd · 07/12/2021 14:22

School pictures, cards we made, photos of us stuck in taken at school, our school work we saved over the years, postcards from my dead nans holidays sent to us cards, handprints, self portraits. the lot. All of it I wanted to take, put in folders to look through easily.
I wasn't allowed to take it though.
Now the whole lot has been binned. I feel sick. I know some people aren't sentimental but I am and my parents know it. Me and my siblings look through it fairly frequently. Every few years or so
I was looking for something specific, a little book I had made when I was a child about the romans because my son is learning about it now and I wanted to show him. Its in a dump somewhere after being saved for decades.

I don't understand if he wanted to free up space why not ask me to come and get it. I wanted to take it before so he knew I wanted it.
And we go through it all often enough for it to not be deemed junk.
I feel sick.

The hpuse is cluttered up with all kinds of shit but they want to make room by dumping all of my childhood treasures.
I wouldn't have minded if they were thrown at the time but they have been kept for years and I'm an adult now. I have asked for it and been denied but it has been thrown away without my knowledge and without giving me a chance to take it to my own house.

I actually feel like never talking to my dad again, he has form for this.
When nan died we spent a few weeks going through her things, again I was told I couldn't take the lot to sort at my house, and so half was dumped without me knowing. AGAIN, I had asked for it all, AGAIN I was refused, AGAIN it was dumped.

ps I know it sounds like it but I'm not actually a hoarder.

OP posts:
Megan2018 · 07/12/2021 17:46

My husband is NC with some of his family over similar. He has never got over it. His narcissistic grandmother binned loads of his things in malice amongst much more besides.

He had the last laugh though as the nasty old woman died alone in the first lockdown and had no funeral as noone wanted to be one of the 6 allowed to go, so no-one did. Karma.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 07/12/2021 17:58

I'm sorry this happened to you, but why didn't you take your stuff with you when you left home instead of expecting your parents to store it?

Gretaburley · 07/12/2021 18:04

My friend grew up in Liverpool when the Beatles were just starting out.
She had tickets, photos and letters. All sorts of amazing memorabilia.
Her dm threw it all out.

BeaMends · 07/12/2021 18:20

That's really shit. I'm so sorry.

He seems to have forgotten that all those things actually belonged to you and not him, and they were not his to throw away.

Sad
IncompleteSenten · 07/12/2021 18:55

@Sugarplumfairy65

I'm sorry this happened to you, but why didn't you take your stuff with you when you left home instead of expecting your parents to store it?
As she says in the second paragraph of her OP "I wasn't allowed to take it though."
billy1966 · 07/12/2021 19:52

I think this is a particular type of nastiness.

I cannot imagine a single person being blasé about having their memories binned.

So sorry @lunar1, so dreadful.

OP, you asked repeatedly to take them.
This feels like a deliberate effort to hurt.

I would suggest you step away.

Mind yourself Flowers

user1491404899 · 07/12/2021 21:11

I'd probably never talk to him again tbh

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 07/12/2021 22:09

I’m so sorry, I would feel exactly the same as you OP.

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