Dp and I have been together to around 7 months, we were having a chilled out relaxing morning yesterday when out of the blue dp asked who one of my friends was on social media. I answered by saying they were someone I’d met on tinder long before we were together. Admittedly there was an initial attraction between us and we had FaceTimed a couple of times through lockdown 1. Nothing came of it but we added each other on social media, we would occasionally chat on messenger or Instagram prior to meeting dp but nothing more than niceties, nothing flirtatious or anything like that, I guess I would class this person as a friend, nothing more. So, when I was asked who this person was I confirmed all this to dp, this led to a heated discussion that continued for the next 3-4 hours and in my eyes I believed we had resolved the issues, out of respect to dp and our current relationship I removed/deleted connections I had with this ‘friend’. I had spent the previous night at dps house and headed home to my place after our earlier discussion, we’d planned to meet up again that evening. When I arrived at dps house for the evening I was greeted with a rather frosty reception, there was very little physical connection between us at all last night to which I confronted dp, this in turn reignited the discussions we had ‘resolved’ earlier. We had been talking openly about things and tried to see things from the others’ pov if the shoe was on the other foot. Anyway, we were slowly getting things back on track between us but we were far from sorted. We were listening to some music when some dance tunes came on and dp said they ‘really needed a good night out’ at the local nightclub so I said they should go out and let their hair down. I said I would stay at dps house and look after their kids, I had bought dd over for a sleepover and dps kids were in bed already asleep. Admittedly, maybe slightly underhanded, I wanted to see whether dp thought we should resolve things or whether they would rather go out, get drunk and have a good night. Dp had gotten ready in like 5 minutes flat and was ready to call a cab, I asked ‘are you seriously heading out to the club?’ (btw, the time was now around 2am) to which the reply was ‘yes, but if you’d prefer me not to go I’ll stay home’. I know that I had ‘tricked’ dp by saying ‘yeah, go out’ but aibu in thinking they would rather go out and get drunk than sort out our problems. Dp agreed not to go out but to stay home and sort things out. This didn’t happen unfortunately but just created more friction between us leading to me and dd heading home at 3am. I am left wondering if this is the relationship for me or whether to cut my losses and walk away.
What are your thoughts please?