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To wear a bikini now I am a mum

89 replies

2piecetrouble · 02/12/2021 18:31

I am at Centre Parcs and it's my first time visiting since becoming a mum. I have noticed that about 95% of mums in the swimming pool are wearing a 1 piece swimming costume. I am in the minority as a mum wearing a bikini. Have I broken an unwritten mum rule?

OP posts:
TeethingBabyHelp · 02/12/2021 20:54

I just wear a one suit when I'm with my DS because he has a lovely habit of yanking on my clothes and I wouldn't trust that bikini bottoms or tops would be secure enough to withstand it!
Plus at centre Parcs a bikini is dangerous on the rapids as my poor mother learned to her horror (accidental flasher)

BIWI · 02/12/2021 20:56

Is it really that unreasonable to check if you missed a fashion trend?

Putting to one side the fact that missing a fashion trend really doesn't matter, that isn't what the OP was asking about!

GetTheFlockOutOfHere · 02/12/2021 20:57

Ha ha no! Anyone can wear a bikini!!!

DeadoftheMoon · 02/12/2021 20:59

Never let anyone - even unintentionally - put you off wearing what you want to wear. This is your own life and it might be the only one you get. Bloody well enjoy it.

Sportsnight · 02/12/2021 21:04

Is it a time of year thing 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dunno. You do you OP.

NC6789012 · 02/12/2021 21:05

Im proper fat at a size 20, I wear high waisted bottoms and a proper strap'em down bikini top with 2 primary age DDs. I deffo missed the memo!

divface · 02/12/2021 21:49

Hi h?

divface · 02/12/2021 21:50

I used to wear bikinis but now i have a big fat blobby stretchy, lumpy stomach i prefer to hide

Cocomarine · 02/12/2021 21:52

@2piecetrouble

Thank you for the sensible replies. Certainly not a stealth boast just a new mum struggling to navigate a new world desperately trying to fit in.
It’s still the same world. Stop trying to fit in, especially desperately. Life is too fucking short for that crap!
kitkatsky · 02/12/2021 21:52

Erm it's December... who would want to wear a bikini in the UK? Mum bod or not?

Fomofo · 02/12/2021 21:54

Indoor swimming pool

museumum · 02/12/2021 21:55

Carrying an older baby / toddler about in a bikini is just asking to flash boobs/nipples. Fair enough if you don’t care but despite bf for a year I preferred to be in control of how and when I exposed myself.

JurgensCakeBabyJesus · 02/12/2021 21:56

I wear a short sleeve rash vest and bottoms boy short or normal pant type, mainly because last time I wore a swimsuit my very grabby DS flashed my boobs for the world to see...

GertrudeBElion · 02/12/2021 21:56

@kitkatsky

Erm it's December... who would want to wear a bikini in the UK? Mum bod or not?
It's not cold in a Centreparcs pool area!

Aren't they all called tropical world or something?

eurochick · 02/12/2021 21:59

Slides, rapids, small grabby children, body consciousness post children...

Surely it is not that difficult to figure out?

BrocolliFloret · 02/12/2021 22:03

I wear a bikini but it’s very ‘upholstered’ and underwired, with quite a lot of coverage, including a folded over waistband.

Definitely not the triangles and string type!

liveforsummer · 02/12/2021 22:13

@kitkatsky

Erm it's December... who would want to wear a bikini in the UK? Mum bod or not?
I figure the less cold, wet fabric clinging to you the better. I never understand why parents put beach sun suits on kids in an indoor pool. No wonder they end up freezing!
Her657844 · 02/12/2021 22:16

The people saying she’s stealth boasting are actually just jealous I think 🤔
I know what you mean I felt like I had to wear a swimming costume when I became a mum because most other mums did🙈 last week I thought fuck it & wore a bikini in the kids pool.. I think it’s in our heads I don’t think anyone even notices or cares xx

Udouhun · 02/12/2021 22:17

Huh? Wear what you want. No one gives a shit.

PurpleDaisies · 02/12/2021 22:17

The people saying she’s stealth boasting are actually just jealous I think 🤔

Why would I be jealous? I often wear a bikini myself.

Her657844 · 02/12/2021 22:19

Centre parcs there’s a lot of slides and rapids that might be why no one wears a bikini incase of minge flashing..

Dillydilly01 · 02/12/2021 22:24

I am a mum of three teens and I've never worn a bikini at Centreparcs, but I always wear a bikini on holiday's abroad where it's sunny. The same using a pool anywhere with weather similar to the UK, always a swimsuit. Hot, sunny weather abroad - a bikini.

iusedtoloveopalfruits1 · 02/12/2021 22:27

I prefer a bikini but only cos I have massive
boobs so I can get a top and bottom that both fit well.
Just with they didn’t cost a small fortune mind you!

doodleygirl · 02/12/2021 22:29

Even as a new mum you have to be you, wear what you feel most comfortable in and have a lovely time.

Sharletonz · 02/12/2021 22:31

If you've got it, flaunt it. Why are you so concerned about what others think. Get on with your business and enjoy your post partum bikini bod.