To spend this much on ds 21st

[Tevion28]

His dad is giving me grief about it.
Ds birthday is Christmas day so combined I've spent £900 plus a holiday costing £1100 as a special 21st treat going on the 2nd of January.
Aibu his dad is giving me a hard time.

TBH, I think it's too much but if you can afford it and he will appreciate it then that's all that matters.

I think the amount if money is fine if you can afford it. However:

• A holiday with mum for a 21st birthday present?
• And what's going on with his dad?

@Tevion28

Thanks do you think what I've spent is generous enough for his 21st birthday plus Christmas

Bloody hell, £2k is more than enough, yes

£1450 for a house deposit? What is this? 1965?

It's a perfectly good contribution towards a house deposit and my parents bought their entire house in 1969 for £1500.

@AndMatt anything's a perfectly good contribution but it's nowhere near a house deposit, is it.

but that's just me lol

@AndMatt

£1450 for a house deposit? What is this? 1965?

It's a perfectly good contribution towards a house deposit and my parents bought their entire house in 1969 for £1500.

🤣 what on Earth relevance is a random 50 odd year old house price?

PP was suggesting the sum was a house deposit from 1965, when in fact it would have bought a house (in the South East) in 1965.

Are you with his dad?
Is it your money or his dads money?

Does ds want to go on holiday with his mum?

What’s the 900 spent on? If it’s a one-off, like a car or something, that’s more understandable.

Son is at university and me and his dad are separated. I must add that his dad has paid £400 of the £900

Ds is up for anything

Just spend what you can comfortably spend and enjoy !

@Tevion28

Son is at university and me and his dad are separated. I must add that his dad has paid £400 of the £900

In that case it has absolutely nothing to do with him?

I don’t know where the question mark came from.

Teens/young adults have had a really shit few years, we all have, but given the moving into adulthood milestones that they have been denied due to covid, if you can afford it & he'll appreciate it, then of course you should spend whatever amount you want to. His DF needs to think about how he would have coped with a pandemic at DSs age & cut him/you some slack

Ds dad is a miserable awkward bugger.

I think we'd worked that out, OP!

My parents did nothing for my 21st, and next to nothing for my 18th. I think your plans sound great.

For a 21st, you need to multiply the weight of your son in kilos by the sum total of his GCSE grades then multiply by 2 if he was born in an even number year or 3 if it was an odd number year.

Subtract 10 if you have a pet (unless it is a guinea pig, in which case subtract 17)

Multiply this bythe last 2 digits of your mobile phone number and that will be the amount that it is acceptable to spend.

Hope that clears things up.

percythewitch Well thank you I'm surprised nobody else came up with that solution.

It was genuinely lighthearted.

I hope you both have a lovely holiday.

Clearly a stealth boast 🥱

So what did you get him with the £900 .

I would say its extremely generous.

@Tevion28

Son is at university and me and his dad are separated. I must add that his dad has paid £400 of the £900

So you have spent £500, not £900?

And £550, not £1100?

Do people really celebrate 21sts these days? I am 64 and was so happy that when I reached 18, I became ‘of age’ and my parents could not tell me what to do!
Spend what you like and can afford. Entirely your business but to make a big fuss over becoming 21 is nowadays, a bit over the top. We didn’t even give it a thought when our kids reached 21. 17 yes, as they could then start learning to drive and then of course, 18.

17 yes, as they could then start learning to drive and then of course, 18.

Never heard of anyone celebrating 17. I don’t know anyone who starts learning to drive age 17 now. And there’s no “of course” about 18.