To ask about people's stories when loved ones passed. Did they experience anything.

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I hope its OK to post this. I've heard a few stories about when people have passed and they believe a loved one came for them just before.
My dad is near the end. I know it's coming and I guess it's nice that I have time to prepare and I've said goodbye but it's horrible seeing him slide away. He was still talking to me a couple of days ago but no energy to open his eyes. Today he was just shouting out but he kept saying his sisters name who passed last year. They said I could stay longer. Beyond the hour slot but it was just distressing. My dad didn't settle when I tried to sooth him just became more agitated and pushing me away.

So sorry about your dad. Hope you are OK.

I was with my mum when she passed with cancer and no sign of anything. It was peaceful.

God bless you and your dad xx

I’m so sorry this is happening, the drugs they give to help can have different effects on people

Sometimes people see those that have passed and it’s a comfort, sometimes they try to get out of bed

Will they let you stay if you wish? Do you have other family with you?

Yes my Dad was conscious and said his best friend who’d died 40 years before was there.
It was as if his friend had come to help or reassure him.
It did help to think he wasn’t alone, I miss him so very much, he was simply wonderful 😢

Yes we found dog hair specifically Jack Russell dog hair logically it could have moved house with her except she moved house hadn't had a dog for years and it was in random places like the potpourri bowl she didn't even own when she had a dog! She kept talking about my grandad saying he had stopped by with the dog in-between visits he had died almost 20 years prior his dog had died a few years after I know she had dementia but she seemed so clear! When she went to hospital for the last time I knew she wasn't coming out I still cleaned her flat just in case but we knew really they dosed her with morphine so she wasn't in pain im convinced grandad bought the dog and eased her over I cleaned her house weekly there was no dog hair till her last weeks

My dad was addled by the drugs so its hard to say when he shouted mum if he meant his own mum or my mum who they always referred to as mum and dad to each other . Id like to think someone was there who we couldnt see but i guess we wknt ever know

However he did tell my cousin (who came to the hospice ) that she needed to get home as she had a bird in her attic. She did indeed have a bird in her attic. No idea if that was sheer drug induced coincidence .

Both of my parents went into a drug induced unconscious state towards the end and nothing like that happened.
With my mum though, I just missed her slipping away as I had left to home for the night so I was very upset when I saw her body after rushing back, as she had clearly "gone"...but I heard her voice clear as a bell in my head saying "I'm still here Jolly". She always said she would be there with us in spirit so I wasn't surprised at all.

I was with my Mum in her last few days (though not when she died) and she definitely felt my Dad was there. On one occasion I asked her what he'd said to make her smile and she said 'He's telling me to just get in with it, he's not got all night' which was actually just the kind of thing he would say.
A good friend of my Mum's who is very fey told me that my auntie and another lady came to fetch my Mum on the day she died. She then described the other lady in detail and it was exactly as my Mum described her beloved grandmother. A few years later I found a photo of her and asked my mum's friend if it was someone she recognised and straight away she said, 'That's the lady who came to fetch your Mum'.

Thank you for sharing your personal stories I appreciate it, and it's comforting. He keeps talking about his mum and dad. Today he was saying jenny. She was his youngest sister and passed last year. He was still talking to me on Sunday and was calm. My brother said he had a good natter with him yesterday before he fell asleep. It's so hard. I hate seeing my dad so far gone. It's just heartbreaking.

I'm so sorry you're going through this @RedFlagsAllOver, it's a heartbreaking and exhausting time. I'm sure your dad is very glad you're there though

I was with my dh when he passed from cancer 6 years ago. He started talking and smiling to someone at the end of the bed which was odd as it was just him and me in the room. Then he looked at me and said do you mind if I sleep for a little while? Within minutes his breathing changed and he was unconscious. He passed away a little later.
I found it a great comfort to think someone he loved had come to travel with him to wherever he went.

I've been told when my nana died (I was only 6, so obviously wasn't there), that she had been mostly asleep as it was known she was going to pass but at the end she opened her eyes and said 'Patrick, you always were late'. Patrick was her husband, my Grandad but he died when my Mum was only 9. If it was really him or the medication making her see things, I'm still glad that she felt that she went with her LH waiting for her.

I've looked after people at the end of life for the past 20 years. These bedside visitors are very common when people are in the last days/hours of life. I find it very comforting to think that deceased loved ones come to collect us. Dr Peter Fenwick has done a lot of work around this, there are some fascinating interviews on you tube: Sending love op.

I was with my daughter when she died and there wasn’t anything noticeable. However, it usually snows on her birthday and anniversary of her death (both close together) which I take as a sign for her since sometimes they are the only days of the year that we have snow which seems such a coincidence.

Wow, this thread is so very comforting.

I was with my DF when he died and he definitely called out his mum's name and smiled. It comforted both of us I think to think she'd come to guide his soul over.

My grandad was very poorly and my nana had died a few months before. It was his birthday and we knew the end was near. He hadn't really recognised us for a day or so but woke up and said "mams not ready for me yet". 2 days later he passed. On Nanas birthday. We like to think that she came for him xx

Hi OP, so sorry you are going through this, it's truly the worst thing I have ever experienced

Without being vulgar, what is your Dad dying from? Is it cancer (or some other heavily morphined condition) or old age/dementia?

My Mum died of cancer and the last days were fucking horrible to witness, she just sort of shrivelled up to a skeleton for the last few weeks. My Nan died of dementia and hers involved a lot of sleep. Both panted a lot in the final week (I sat with both for long periods of time) but neither could talk, so if he can still talk that's at least a crumb of comfort.

I don't believe in any sort of paranormal stuff so I can't comment on being fetched/taken, but also believe that you are entitled to get whatever comfort you can in this sort of scenario. If you like to think someone has come to get him and it helps you with it, then so be it. I'll also advise when it does happen there's the most weird feeling of relief you'll ever have but it's a bit taboo to say so - please don't feel guilty in feeling that way, take solace that you did all you could and maximised the time available.

My dad had just been admitted to hospital when he died. He was very ill but was unexpected. My sister stayed overnight with him and at one point he tried to get out of bed and said he needed to go and see my mum. She had passed away about a year earlier. He was settled back in bed and then later pointed to a corner of the room and said he needed to see my mum. He passed away a short time later. We think that she came to get him and they are now together. Sorry to hear about your dad. I miss both my parents very much.

My now-DH(he was a very recent boyfriend at the time), was waiting just outside my mums hospital room for me while I sat with her as she passed. It was 1am and very quiet. She was unconscious and barely breathing for a few hours beforehand.

When I came out to tell him she’d gone and have a good cry on him, he asked me if I’d called out ‘mum’ at any time? He’d heard someone calling out. I wondered if he’d heard my mum looking for her mum as she passed?

My mum was with both her DM and DF when they passed and she said it was peaceful.

My DF died in the summer and mum originally told me it was peaceful - but I recently found out when she was upset (and a bit pissed) that he was very distressed. He had been in a coma for two weeks. I hope he wasn't aware.

My mum was a nurse for 40 years, and she does have a bit of a psychic ability. She has a lovely story of seeing the spirit of an elderly lady come to help one of her patients pass on. Earlier that day the patient, who didn't know she was dying but all the nurses suspected it, had randomly had a moment of clarity and told my young mum 'dont you worry about me, I'll be ok'. Later that night mum sees a kind looking old lady at the foot of patients bed, goes over to see if old lady needs help, and old lady disappears. Patient is dead in bed, smiling. Mum always had good vibes from the experience.

I know there are those that don't believe in this stuff at all but it's because of my mum's experiences that I do.

Such comforting stories. My Mum lapsed in and out of consciousness for nearly ten days before dying. She would open her eyes and watch something intently, then sigh in wonder, as if she had seen something lovely. She said that my Aunt was there and it was almost as if she was explaining to my mum how to die. I know it sounds strange but she would look and then touch her eyes or her forehead. Once, she said she didn't know how to get out. When she finally passed away, she had been unconscious for some time. Her eyes flew open and she said my dad's name twice and then she was gone. There was such a sense of her soul leaving - it sounds strange but it felt quite triumphant. I almost felt elated that I had seen something so profound. I feel very lucky that we experienced it together. Immediately after she died, I had such a vivid picture in my mind of my parents standing together again and my dad looking utterly delighted to be with her again. Just incredibly powerful and the carers in the nursing home all commented on the atmosphere in the room.

I was with my mum 3 mo ths ago when she died. It was covid so she was comatose and on a ventilator. About 15 minutes before her heart stopped she very gently opened her eyes and looked at me, then my sister to my right, then her husband on her left.
It was the most movement she had managed in 1 month, we pulled off our masks and said 'mum its us' as we we're fully gone up etc and held her hands and reassured her she was safe and it would all be okay, that she was going to see her dad and her grandma soon, and we would be okay too. She closed her eyes and the feeling in the air was as though god was there. It felt very very special.
I'm not a very religious person but I prayed like fuck for Mary to come and meet my mum as we were sat there and I do believe it was a miracle that she got to open her eyes one last time, against all odds.

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