Satisfaction at ex husband suffering

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To feel a kind of satisfaction that everything in the garden is now incredibly un-rosy for my STBXH? Funny how visiting prostitutes loses its appeal once you don't have a wife. Just makes you a sad loser instead. Part of me feels sorry for him.

@S2617

What’s sadder is you sit on MN and post about someone else’s sadness.

Perhaps time to grow up a bit?

I still don't understand this comment.

S2617 are you trying to be one of them posters that people remember as being opinionated but a bit cool? Boring 🙂

YABVVU - but only for this bit " Part of me feels sorry for him "

No part of you needs to feel sorry for someone who has made their own choices and is reaping the "rewards"

If its part of your healing process, then enjoy it. He's obviously hurt you with his actions.

@S2617

What’s sadder is you sit on MN and post about someone else’s sadness.

Perhaps time to grow up a bit?

Oooh I think we’ve found your ex husband OP 😂🤣... On another note enjoy the karma that has come to bite him on the arse safe in the knowledge you’re now free from the asshole 😌 xx

@FanGirlX hold on in there things may feel tough at the moment but you’ll come through all the shit he left you in then karma will strike him & you’ll be able to sit back & watch x

Snipey crowd in here.

I don't blame you, OP.
Now he's just a sad punter who funds the obscene sale of vulnerable women.

@beastlyslumber

Thank you! Glad I could pass it along.

[quote DavidSPumpkins]@TowandaForever is your username from Fried Green Tomatoes?[/quote]
Yes!

[quote DebbieHarrysCheekbones]@S2617

Her husband was shagging prostitutes
Not just a betrayal but an affirmative action of the most revolting misogyny

I’m happy for the OP that it’s gone tits up for him
Not only unfaithful but enabling misery and exploitation of other woman by men. He can throw his pity party

Meanwhile you lodge your head back up your arse[/quote]
Maybe she led him to it? Remember that no one is ever blameless. What goes on behind closed doors and all that.

No just a honest comment, not being cool if that’s what you see as cool. Maybe you need to cool off a bit.

@S2617 my god what a nasty comment. Fuck off with your 'maybe she led him to it'. You absolute odious cunt.

Maybe she led him to it? Remember that no one is ever blameless. What goes on behind closed doors and all that.
Odfod!
I rather think you are the one needing to grow up.

i totally understand

ive never been vindictive or bitter but understand the satisfaction at seeing they life going wrong when you have personally been wronged.

im a massive believer in karma, im actually a atheist but very into karma

my ex left us overnight (after 21 years of being together)because he couldnt cope with the 24/7 caring duties as we have 2 disabled kids
we were happy, never cheated on each other never rowed just a happy family dealing with 2 disabled kids so his actions floored us all

hes had his comeuppance and karmas hit them majorly.
not only did he leave the same day he moved in with our families best friend
this woman was like a sister to me so both screwed me over

with in the last 18 months all her 5 kids have now been diagnosed each with a different disability some multiple and she is now wheel chair bound and hes her carer
my ex is small for a man as he is only 5ft 5/ 5ft 6 and roughly 10 st odd she is 6ft 1 and 23 stone

his back and knees have given out by carrying her around, running the home and being the only driver and looking after 5 (very difficult)kids
she home educates so its not if they have a break with the kids is school
we were well off financially and didnt want for anything
hes now pinching for pennies and it was such a lifestyle shock to him as he has coffee addiction he had to pack in as she couldn't afford it.
he was greedy considering his size and would have enough on his plate for 3 men, hes now surviving on a small portions as they just cant afford to live like i did(still do)

he left 2 disabled kids as he cant cope to now dealing (alone as i was also a carer)with 5 kids and a physically disabled girlfriend he cant physically help

its very satisfying when karma hits bad people

@S2617

No just a honest comment, not being cool if that’s what you see as cool. Maybe you need to cool off a bit.

You are a twat

@S2617

“ Maybe she led him to it? Remember that no one is ever blameless. What goes on behind closed doors and all that.”

Fuck off

@DrSbaitso

Karma isn't the idea that good things happen to good people, bad things happen to bad people and life is fair.

It's a nuanced concept, but in essence it really just means that your actions now will shape your future. And while a person who's horrible to everyone might not immediately get their comeuppance, long term it's quite likely they'll piss off the wrong person and then have no supporters when they need them.

I thought karma was actually that your actions in this life shape the next life you will have after reincarnation?

Anyway...my Father was a horrible violent bully. Also drank a lot.

He died a very painful and drawn out death declining over a period of a year or more with no support from anyone. He had to pay in advance for his own cremation and told them to do no service and just scatter his ashes on the public site as there was no-one who would want to be at his funeral.

His death was pancreatic cancer from drinking.

That was karma in his own lifetime. All brought on by his own actions.

No doubt his next life will be pretty difficult too since Karma is about going through similar life circumstances over and over until you learn the lesson (in this case, having an abusive childhood doesn't mean you should become an abuser).

I fully believe in Karma and reincarnation though accept it's considered very woo.

I thought karma was actually that your actions in this life shape the next life you will have after reincarnation?

That would be a form of your actions shaping your future, I think...

My satisfaction this week was even though i was treated horrifically in a court hearing by the judge.. My ex was given minimal supervised contact.. The satisfaction was watching his face drop and eyes water when he heard cafcass were being appointed to undertake the section 7..ordinarily this wouldn't mean a thing... However. Cafcass have written to the judge 4 times to tell them our daughter is at risk and how dangerous my ex is.. Albeit those letters have been ignored.. I expect the bigger picture to come together when the report is finished.

OP,
Ignore anyone who tries to tell you how you should feel. There is no should about it.

You have been treated appallingly badly and are rightfully angry. You want him to suffer like you did. That's being human and having feelings.

You have a right to your feelings and to express them appropriately.

So as long as you aren't slashing his tyres or posting dog muck through his letterbox it doesn't matter.

In time these feelings will fade and you life will be better and I'm not being patronising, because I've been there.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

@oakleaffy

It is supposedly mainly married men who visit sex workers. Our GP did, married, 4 young kids, loved massage parlours in seedy parts of town. Not rare, amazingly. He was jailed after being blackmailed.

What was he actually jailed for? Or alternatively, where was this? The information in your post only makes him a victim of crime, if this was in England.