Satisfaction at ex husband suffering

[ddotty]

To feel a kind of satisfaction that everything in the garden is now incredibly un-rosy for my STBXH? Funny how visiting prostitutes loses its appeal once you don't have a wife. Just makes you a sad loser instead. Part of me feels sorry for him.

@S2617

What’s sadder is you sit on MN and post about someone else’s sadness.

Perhaps time to grow up a bit?

Yeah! Maybe now @ddotty has managed to see the depressing, sad, lonely upshot of the behaviours that presumably wrecked her life, maybe she should set aside her feelings of hurt, of trauma, of anger and sadness and, heaven forfend, of amusement , and just woman up

FFS!

@me4real

The curse of *@Steelesauce*

If it wasn't so outing I'd give examples apparently I have a very karmic energy! Bad things happen to me all the time too though so maybe I am just bad luck

@S2617

What’s sadder is you sit on MN and post about someone else’s sadness.

Perhaps time to grow up a bit?

Oh sod off. No one likes a sanctimonious twat

It is supposedly mainly married men who visit sex workers.
Our GP did, married, 4 young kids, loved massage parlours in seedy parts of town.
Not rare, amazingly.
He was jailed after being blackmailed.

@Steelesauce Might be worth getting into magick or chatting to a witch/magickian. Get rid of your own bad luck, but keep the natural hexing bit.

YANBU OP.

My Ex left me for another woman he was having an EA with. It then all fell out of bed because the idea of the relationship with a woman nearly 20 years his junior and the reality was very, very different.

He now lives alone and seems to be quite lonely. He is moving abroad in the new year because he doesnt have any connections to the UK. His Mum was really disappointed in his actions and they don't really speak (so he says).

@me4real the past 12 months have been pretty good for me since my mindset changed. I spoke to someone who is into all that and she said I am spiritually powerful but I've just never got into it. I thoroughly enjoy my natural hexing powers though. Currently awaiting karma to hit a few others but I'm being patient

@HeartsAndClubs

Surely it depends on what kind of suffering we’re talking about here.

Someone leaving for an OW maybe ending up alone is one thing, but I’ve seen some bloody horrible gleeful posts about genuine suffering on here, including one from a poster who was glad her eXH’s baby had died. .

So no, I don’t think it’s necessarily ok to celebrate the suffering of someone else.

My goodness, That’s horrendous. Thinking bad thoughts about others rarely ends well. I was glad when my Ex’s second marriage ended, but I feel zero ill will towards him now he’s on his third, and we get on fine.

It's been observed in children as young as two.

I did a double take there - I thought you meant visiting prostitutes

clarified now

It’s so funny how life turned out for my ex, it’s made me chuckle on numerous occasions and some of the situations are so ironic, they could be made up if you tried.
Meanwhile I’m the happiest and most successful I’ve been xx

Oh sod off. No one likes a sanctimonious twat
no, but it's fun reading the responses

Oh yes. Call me a heartless soul, but I found out that my ex boyfriend has been admitted to a mental health hospital. He was horrible to me so I'm glad his life isn't all roses. I have a lovely boyfriend instead now.

[quote me4real]@Steelesauce Might be worth getting into magick or chatting to a witch/magickian. Get rid of your own bad luck, but keep the natural hexing bit. [/quote]
Do you know any magick that stops a person from spending their life acquiring enemies and wanker exes? Wouldn't that class as getting rid of bad luck?

@HeartsAndClubs

Surely it depends on what kind of suffering we’re talking about here.

Someone leaving for an OW maybe ending up alone is one thing, but I’ve seen some bloody horrible gleeful posts about genuine suffering on here, including one from a poster who was glad her eXH’s baby had died. .

So no, I don’t think it’s necessarily ok to celebrate the suffering of someone else.

OMG gloating about a dead baby is about as low as anyone could go.

@beastlyslumber I see your Taylor Swifty*, and raise you a Lacuna Coil song.

*Yes I do call her Taylor Swifty, I saw someone call her that online and found it so funny it's stuck.

OP, it's perfectly normal to feel satisfaction when someone who's hurt us is miserable.

@oakleaffy

It is supposedly mainly married men who visit sex workers. Our GP did, married, 4 young kids, loved massage parlours in seedy parts of town. Not rare, amazingly. He was jailed after being blackmailed.

I used to work for a big police force, not a police officer. I spent a couple of years working with the vice squad. Biggest shock was finding out that rush hour was chucking out time at the local maternity hospital. Yes in the days when visiting ended at 8 pm the local working girls would be doing a roaring trade. I still can't get my head round it.

The other was finding out one of the kerb crawlers was someone who lived round the corner from me, his kids went to school with mine and I used to chat to his wife.

The saddest was finding out a girl I went to school with was now a street prostitute although processing paperwork for a teenager who was with a customer when she was in the early stages of labour was also tragic. I rushed her paperwork.

We did have some laughs though, some of the tales I've heard when processing paperwork gave me a different outlook on some celebrities.

I think I spent the first 12 months blushing.

@S2617

What’s sadder is you sit on MN and post about someone else’s sadness.

Perhaps time to grow up a bit?

THIS

@S2617

What’s sadder is you sit on MN and post about someone else’s sadness.

Perhaps time to grow up a bit?

What's even sadder is you sitting on MN making stupid comments.

@S2617

What’s sadder is you sit on MN and post about someone else’s sadness.

Perhaps time to grow up a bit?

Whats sadder is that you don’t see the point of the post from the posters point of view.

I agree that the opposite of love is indifference.

There are a few people I know/ am related to who have done me harm in the past and when something bad happens to them I feel nothing. No glee, no empathy or concern. I just don't care.

@S2617

Her husband was shagging prostitutes
Not just a betrayal but an affirmative action of the most revolting misogyny

I’m happy for the OP that it’s gone tits up for him
Not only unfaithful but enabling misery and exploitation of other woman by men. He can throw his pity party

Meanwhile you lodge your head back up your arse

I think these feelings are very natural, however I would try to be the bigger person for my own sanity here. At the end of the end I believe it doesn't do us any good to rejoice in other people's misfortunes, no matter how much deserving of them we think they are. It's just bad energy!

While your feelings are absolutely normal (and I've been there too), do try to focus on other people's joys instead (and your own!) and try not to think too much about your ex. It sounds like he really isn't worth your time, thoughts or energy, anyway!

@ancientgran
It seems that newly born babies can indeed send men off to sex workers and other women.

It is unbelievable, but true.
Maybe it’s the lack of sex?
A male gay friend said straight- so say straight- married men also go to saunas and cruising sites.

Some men are definitely driven by their sex drives, all sense goes out of the window.

So glad I’m not a man.

I agree that if you get to indifference it's an excellent thing, but hardly surprising to feel the way you do OP.

I haven't voted.

It's a personal thing to you ddotty if that made your day, you don't need forum consensus to say whether you are right or wrong to feel the way you do.

But yes it's nice to have a chuckle when something goes tits up for someone who deserves it!

I had one yesterday. My former Boss (him = voluntarily position who came into the role mid-way through my paid employment with a not for profit organisation) caused myself and an auditor a lot of grief as he did his best to hide his and his friend's free alcohol consumption from the organization's supplies. Another staff member sabotaged the computer stock take system as well, so we lost the backup support from the software company.

I ended up walking out from my job with a week's notice and I was told he made a lot of insinuations about me in the small country town. He was eventually forced out of the position by others.

He then moved south to run his own motel from an inheritance. It's had four years of absolute damning reviews on tripadvisor since he took it over. Yay!