Regarding the 'indifference' I am supposed to feel. This isn't just about me. I'm thinking of all the other married women who experience this and go through hell, trying to rebuild their self-esteem and their lives, along with any children who also suffer the shame and humiliation of knowing their father not only hurt their mother but also is the type of man who views women as objects. Imagine being the daughter of such a man. It's utterly horrendous.
And thinking of all those 'girls' (this is how he refers to them in his reviews) who go into prostitution because they have no other options in life. Particularly those young Romanians who get moved around the UK by the gangs who earn thousands each week just because men like my STBXH are prepared to pay to have sex with young women. What happens to these women when they pass their sell-by date?
The consequence of him visiting prostitutes are wide and far-reaching and I for one thank karma for any suffering he must now experience because it is nothing compared to the suffering he has caused.
Yep, I think some things are impossible to forgive or feel indifferent about, at least depending on an individual's nature. Some things we shouldn't be indifferent about, like those who are violent towards us or other women.
We could have EMDR or other therapy to stop the intensity of the sting of what happened for our own comfort. But some people I'll still hope will...well I don't want to get my post deleted lol.
It's actually bad karma to delight in someone else's misfortune.
@DillDanding Karma doesn't exist, or the massive numbers of men who commit violence and get away with it wouldn't happen. And it's not bad to think thoughts, and doesn't incur any punishment (though people could seek therapy if they are in excessive discomfort, for their own happiness.)
It's not a good thing to say something bad might happen to victims if they're angry at their abusers. That's completely natural and healthy, not being angry (at least for a while) when you've been abused can be unhealthy and lead to it turning inwards as depression and self-harm etc. Wishing ones abuser was struck down for the pain and trauma they inflicted is fairly normal and natural, at least for a while. And everyone's different. The gods aren't going to inflict karma on us for wrongthink against those that hurt us.