AIBU to think that most adults don't have enemies?

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The context is that I was writing prayers for my church, so obviously the scriptural message is quite a lot about forgiving enemies, praying for enemies etc. A (non-practising) family member was reading through the prayers and noticed that I had one praying for better relationships with friends, family, colleagues, and neighbours. She said I should have included enemies in the list and my answer was that most people don't really have enemies once they leave primary school.

We weren't talking about people who have been through civil wars or similar and genuinely have experienced terrible trauma at the hands of other people, but just average people in western democracies. And we weren't talking about whole groups of people, just individual relationships. Do you have anyone you would class as an enemy?

The context is that I was writing prayers for my church, so obviously the scriptural message is quite a lot about forgiving enemies, praying for enemies etc.

Remember the Bible and Scriptures were written thousands of years ago, and the style of writing and words chosen in that context were quite different to how they are taken to mean nowadays. So the word "enemy" was used generically to describe someone who nowadays is anyone from a NDN in your street who inconsiderately parks their car across your driveway, to a cyber criminal who steals money from your bank account, an adversary you're never likely to meet. Back then your enemy is going to be someone you see in the flesh, they're real to you.

The key message surely is more about forgiveness of anyone who does you wrong on whatever scale, and less about the word "enemy", which is symbolic and contextual to the time it was written.

Your needs/rights may clash with somebody else's as an adult.

What would you call this person?