AIBU to wonder when the baby pictures stop?!

[violetskiss]

I want to preface this by saying this is mostly lighthearted …

My sister had her first baby in September. She’s the first baby in the family and is completely wonderful, we all obviously love her to bits. HOWEVER - since then the family WhatsApp group has been flooded constantly by baby pics!!! I honestly mean we get 5 or 6 every day, and because they’re on a group chat there’s such a pressure to respond to all of them - there’s only so many emojis I can send or times I can type that she’s the cutest baby in the world (which of course she is!!)

I don’t mind this really and understand it won’t be forever, but can anyone tell me when I can expect my dsis to calm down with the pictures and let the group chat regain some normality?! I miss the memes and chatting about what we’re off to do at the weekend!! I know my dbro is feeling the same, although obviously we would never say anything and will of course always respond with the appropriate coos!

My niece is 5 and no sign of the pictures receding yet…

Could you not set up a separate WhatsApp group purely for baby pics/updates? What I did for my daughter with my mum/sibs.

@Mindareno

My niece is 5 and no sign of the pictures receding yet…

I was just about to say exactly this!

It won't ever end. Sorry.
I'm surprised she doesn't realise how rude it is.

Yup, DN & DN are 5 and 10....no sign yet. It’s fucking tiresome YANBU

Oh god!! My new baby is beautiful but I don’t spam the family Whattsap 😅 i remember how annoying I used to find it 😂 I then remind myself when I’m tempted to send a pick of the cutest pictures I’ve taken that day…and send maybe one a week 😂😂

Why can't the memes and chatting happen anyway?

It stops when the baby becomes a child and doesn't comply with having pictures constantly. 5+ perhaps.

Im sure you can get apps that they can post pictures onto and you are all members of and see the pictures. Like a private sharing album app i suppose but im sure there are ones specifically for baby pics. Maybe suggest something like that to them, frame it positively rather than not wanting the photos to take over whatsapp (im sure you can get ones that then put slideshows etc together of the photos)

Oh god - not the replies I was hoping for!! It’s funny because she always used to be very disparaging of being “that mum”, but I guess it’s so different when you get your own…

@MeltedButter

Why can't the memes and chatting happen anyway?

They kind of do, but then another picture gets sent of the baby and we all have to pause to respond. It feels rude to ignore them!

My dbro and sil have been considering setting up a breakout rebel WhatsApp group for the fun chat to still happen

Mute it and check in a couple of times a day. Throw in the odd ‘Awwh, so cute 🥰’ to make it look like you’re paying attention.

I tend to respond to these types of thing by setting the dog up in a similar pose and posting it. Takes a few pictures but people tend to cotton on after a while.

Our family group was mainly set up for sharing pics of my baby neice, and that was four years ago! Now there's been two more grandkids and about 90% of the photos are of them. Now they're all a bit older there isn't the same level of frequency, but it's still pretty kid heavy.

Sorry, you're in for the long haul 

Mute it and don't reply regularly. If they ask, say you've muted all group chats because you have too many of them and they're distracting / annoying / too pingy / word of your choice!

I could see granddaughter pictures every day and still be overjoyed.

I think most people feel differently.

Slowly phase out responding. Plan it so your brother does too. Aim to respond to e.g 4/5 then 3/5 etc until you're basically just ignoring them. If she says anything just say 'oh I didn't think it needed a response'. But I am a bit uncommunicative anyway so accept this might not fly in everyone's family!

Haha, my baby is the first in the family and I get in trouble for not sending enough photos 🤣, and for not sending them by email to wider family who don't use social media...

@DinkyDiggies

I tend to respond to these types of thing by setting the dog up in a similar pose and posting it. Takes a few pictures but people tend to cotton on after a while.

OMG, I'd love it if my siblings did that with their pets 😆

It’s total overkill and I would stop commenting on every single picture if I were you, it will only encourage her.

Start sending memes again
Or respond to the baby photos with meme
Ignore a few posts and slowly face out of reacting to all the photos. 6 a day? Jezus 6 a week would be too much. I dont wanna even see 6 photos a month of my niece and she is cute as can be.

The amount of people on Facebook I’ve had to mute because I’m so feed up of their feed being swamped with pictures of their kids. And nothing else.

It doesn’t stop.

Well I have the opposite problem, if I don't send at least 1 photo a day of my baby I get asked why I haven't and to send some!

I can remember when you had to take the roll of exposed film to be developed, and waited a few days until you could collect the snaps. They are such a joy to look through nowadays.

Actually feel much better now - I was worried I was being a bit of misery but it seems like most people would find this a bit much.