AIBU to wonder who is right in this scenario?

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AIBU to wonder who is right in this scenario? I’m okay to be told that neither person is but can’t talk to anyone about it in real life and need an external perspective.

Don’t want to give too many details as worried it could create a biased view in favour of one over the other.

Person A: voiced their opinion and stated what they want to happen regarding a situation. This was stated as fact, as in, it will happen their way because it’s what they need.

Person B: has their own opinion on the situation. Would like to share their view with A. A states that they are not in the headspace to hear it, but B is worried if they don’t say it they’ll forget. A says B can speak but will not be giving them a verbal response. B states their opinion and A remains silent as they stated they would.

I would welcome any thoughts/an external perspective.

YANBU

A sounds a bit of a dick tbh. Not in the headspace to hear it and will not answer? If they are in a relationship then B needs to go and find someone else if this sort of communication is usual.

I'm guessing you're B. Without more details it's impossible to give an opinion

Can you at least tell us what the conversation was about, and who A and B are to each other?
If it's about A's job for example, then A probably has the right to not particularly need to hear B's perspective if B is their, I dunno, sisters boyfriend.
If A and B are talking about their children, for example, then A is being unreasonable.

Sorry follow .

Sorry I don’t follow.

It really depends what it's about. It could be a couple discussing anything from what to order from Deliveroo to them discussing a potential abortion of their baby.

A sounds unreasonable, but it depends what they want, whether it's really needed and whether B is offering an appropriate opinion or just saying 'that's stupid'.

Goodness, I wonder which person you are.

Impossible to say without actually knowing what's going on.

It really depends what the issue is and who it affects - is it personal to A (mental health, job etc) or to do with their family? If so then I can see why person A might not have the head space to hear any more views at this stage.

Everyone who picks a side will pick B because you are on B's side and have given it from B's point of view. Doesn't mean B is right.

Given you are B, you have told the tale completely slanted.

I think it depends on the topic and the situation. If A is Bs boss, and they are discussing a work situation, it is very different to if they are supposed to be equal partners in a relationship

Context is everything.

Real life example for you.

Person A: My dad cannot safely drive due to degenerative disease. It's upsetting me, I don't have the headspace to talk about it but this is happening.

Person B: But what about if he's supervised, what do you think about that? This is all very cruel don't you think?

Person A:.........

It's impossible to say who's unreasonable without context. In this example I really think person B is unreasonable because person A has already been through every possible scenario and is emotionally and physically exhausted by the outcome, which is clear to person B but they have to have their say no matter the impact on person A.

So OP. What's the context?

Impossible to say without knowing the relationship between them and the situation.

A casual friends relationship and the issue is something personal to A then B should maybe mind their own business.
A close relationship and the issue is both of theirs equally, A can’t dictate it.

I agree with pp that the context is needed.

Why couldn’t B accept what A was doing and that that was the way it needed to be for A? Did it matter if it was done A’s way?

Oh come on now, B, at least make up a similar scenario to try to explain what on earth it is we're meant to be judging!

For more context. A and B have both recently lost a family member (they are siblings).

Person A: wants to turn said family member who has died bedroom into a guest room for themselves when they come to stay. This would involve the home owner (C) purchasing a double bed and desk (both what A needs but can not afford to pay for themselves).

Person B: has asked whether A would consider getting a full sized double air bed to use in the room when they stay as it can be put away when A is not staying and it means C (who lives in the house) can use the room for their own thing.

Does C own the house or not?
Does A have a share in it?

Does B live in the house? If not, nothing to do with them.

A is the selfish dick.

It sounds like it’s entirely C’s decision as it’s their house.

If I were C (presumably the parent), I would probably get a sofa bed for when either of the siblings come to stay and stick a desk and chair in there too if A will really need them when s/he comes over.

A and B can chat (or not) all they like, if it’s CS house then how they furnish the newly spare room is entirely their choice.

The only conversation that needs to be had is between A and C. Not sure why B feels the need to pipe up, especially as A understandably doesn't want to dwell on their family member's death.

Why is B involved? What does C say? Who owns the house?