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AIBU to wonder who is right in this scenario?

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Navigatingtheunknown · 24/11/2021 18:49

AIBU to wonder who is right in this scenario? I’m okay to be told that neither person is but can’t talk to anyone about it in real life and need an external perspective.

Don’t want to give too many details as worried it could create a biased view in favour of one over the other.

Person A: voiced their opinion and stated what they want to happen regarding a situation. This was stated as fact, as in, it will happen their way because it’s what they need.

Person B: has their own opinion on the situation. Would like to share their view with A. A states that they are not in the headspace to hear it, but B is worried if they don’t say it they’ll forget. A says B can speak but will not be giving them a verbal response. B states their opinion and A remains silent as they stated they would.

I would welcome any thoughts/an external perspective.

OP posts:
SickAndTiredAgain · 24/11/2021 21:35

There’s still not enough context.
What does C think? Are they asking A to stay round more and perfectly happy to pay for the bed? Or are they being browbeaten into it?

Unless C is being taken advantage of or bullied, I’m not sure what this has to do with B. It seems to be an arrangement entirely between A and C.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 24/11/2021 21:36

No idea what this is even about...

MichelleScarn · 24/11/2021 21:52

And why is B so against A getting an actual bed to sleep in, and insisting on the faff and discomfort of a blow up bed? You could get a bed and mattress quite cheaply!

SockFluffInTheBath · 24/11/2021 21:56

Unless A is a massive CF who is going to move in and freeload, and C is unable to stand up for themself, then B needs to chip out.

RiverSkater · 24/11/2021 23:02

So B owns the house and A wants a room in it because it has sentimental meaning but not buy the furniture??

Take the emotions out and this would be a no brainer.

JamAutistically · 24/11/2021 23:04

C owns the house and will be paying for any furniture.

This would involve the home owner (C) purchasing a double bed and desk (both what A needs but can not afford to pay for themselves).

Xiaoxiong · 24/11/2021 23:15

This is between A and C. Unless C is vulnerable in some way then B should keep their beak out.

5foot5 · 24/11/2021 23:36

@FestiveMayo

Or is C really vulnerable and B thinks A is taking advantage?
This was my thought too. Presumably C is the surviving parent and has therefore just lost their OH and is still grieving. Perhaps B (OP) thinks C will be a pushover to unreasonable demands from A
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