AIBU to wonder who is right in this scenario?

[Navigatingtheunknown]

AIBU to wonder who is right in this scenario? I’m okay to be told that neither person is but can’t talk to anyone about it in real life and need an external perspective.

Don’t want to give too many details as worried it could create a biased view in favour of one over the other.

Person A: voiced their opinion and stated what they want to happen regarding a situation. This was stated as fact, as in, it will happen their way because it’s what they need.

Person B: has their own opinion on the situation. Would like to share their view with A. A states that they are not in the headspace to hear it, but B is worried if they don’t say it they’ll forget. A says B can speak but will not be giving them a verbal response. B states their opinion and A remains silent as they stated they would.

I would welcome any thoughts/an external perspective.

Surely this is up to C? Why are you, I mean B, involved in the discussion?

A sounds like a very passive aggressive person, and bloody rude to boot.

Why is B getting involved? Surely this is only between A & C?

Where does b stay when they come? Is c asking a to visit?

Person B needs to pipe down unless Person C has a problem AND has asked them to deal with the situation.

Its Cs choice, A and B can put their suggestions forward but it isn't up to either of them so shouldn't be falling out about it.

I can’t see what it has to do with B tbh. It’s between A and C.

Is B getting involved because C isn't very good at standing up for themselves and needs to be protected? Or because they are a rather bossy person who can't leave A and C to sort it out between them?

A sounds like a dick.

A needs to have a conversation with C. Nothing to do with B

B is worried that if she doesn’t suggest an air bed right now, then she’ll forget it?

Then B is a bit of a drama llama. And if B is going to counter that they have whatever cognitive disorder, then B needs to learn to use Notes in their phone.

B sounds very tiresome, insisting on sharing an opinion what isn’t their business and isn’t wanted, because they’ll forget it.

Surely it would be faster for B to have just conversationally dropped in, “or you could get an air bed?”

Not responding to B may have seemed more polite to A than saying, “will you keep your bloody nose out?!”

Surely it depends on whether c has and wants them to stay and I they have been invited , how often they will be staying and what else c would like to do with the bedroom.

Seems to me that B has as much right to make suggestions about what happens to the room as A ie none or as much as C allows.

Poor C.
Relative close enough to live with them has died and A and B are squabbling over something completely ridiculous.

You said C is the homeowner. Therefore, neither A nor B gets to offer an opinion.

A and b should go with what c wants.

A is a twat. They should ask C what they think and certainly not expect their wishes ot just happen, with C paying for the costs! (Even though I imagine C is the parent and has probably done that for years…)
As for being in the right head space to answer to B….

B on paper shouldn’t be involved but I’m wondering if they didn’t try and stick up for C…
Wondering why they thought they had to say there and then and why the risk of forgetting.

See the context matters. Nothing happens in a vacuum. Why is B getting so involved. It's between A and C. If B would forget that they wanted to suggest an air bed then they could always have written it down.

Or is C really vulnerable and B thinks A is taking advantage?

Not responding to B may have seemed more polite to A than saying, “will you keep your bloody nose out?!”

Having been on the receiving end of some silence like this, it is extremely aggressive. And harder to deal with because what do you answer to that sort if aggression??

If it's C's house then C decided, surely?

@PerfectlyUnsuitable

Not responding to B may have seemed more polite to A than saying, “will you keep your bloody nose out?!”

Having been on the receiving end of some silence like this, it is extremely aggressive. And harder to deal with because what do you answer to that sort if aggression??

I’m not saying it’s a nice way to behave, @PerfectlyUnsuitable And simply blanking someone is certainly aggressive. But A was clear with B before she spoke, that she didn’t want to hear it and wasn’t going to talk about it. So B chose the silent reception. B should have said, “OK” and left it.

A is a CF
B needs to butt out
C needs to stand up for themself

What is person C saying, given it's their house and would need to spend the money required?

That's all that matters.

I’m not sure that A really is that cheeky.
If @Navigatingtheunknown isn’t B herself, then she’s certainly more sympathetic to B. So I think the portrayal of A and their “needs” might need a pinch of salt.

If C wants A to stay over frequently because D has died, and if all know that C has plenty of money and A has not, then it’s not unreasonable to say, “I’ll need to have a double bed in there”. Preferably with a please!

But we don’t know who has the money, who actually wants them to stay…

But I get the impression OP is biased against A and wouldn’t put the beet spin on their view 🤷🏻‍♀️