Dating when female and tallish is hard

[AprilKepner1987]

I'm 5ft9. Not super tall but not short either. I don't ask men about their height before I go on a date with them because I don't really care, but weirdly I've developed my own insecurities around being fairly tall. I always find it awkward going on a date with a guy even slightly smaller than me, not because I give a shit (really, I don't) but because I feel like they might not be attracted to ME. I feel like men tend to like shorter women and I'm suddenly all insecure about it. AIBU? I should just embrace my height. Essentially, I have a date on weds with a guy I've never met before and I KNOW he's shorter than me and I feel unattractive and nervous about it. Help!!!

I'm 5'9" and broadshouldered, plus carrying a bit of extra weight these days. I can't think of a single man I've met who has looked like he gives a crap about my height. And I have dated a fair bit.

For this perhaps I thank my dad, who taught me to walk and sit like a queen and who liked my height - his sister was a 6' glamourpuss back in the day. Stand up straight, put your shoulders back and project love for your own body and appreciation of the men you meet and their bodies - nothing else is needed.

It’s a load of nonsense. Ignore all tall short crap and carry on. Honest, funny, empathetic, generous, sexy, satisfying…height is not an indication of anything important

Completely understand you OP. I remember when young and going put to bars I'd just look around to spot the few men in the crowd whose heads stuck up above the rest!

I'm 5'10. When I was dating, I found men 5'6 and under were quite attracted to me. I don't know if it was a subconscious way of proving their masculinity ( see, I'm such a man I can even handle this woman!). A few of them I clicked with but it was me that could never get past feeling huge next to them. A few were clearly fetishizing my height as well.

Conversely, the really tall men 6'1 + that I thought would be perfect for me were never, ever interested. Every man I know 6'1+ is partnered with a petite woman under 5'5.

I've had my best success with men same height or an inch or two taller. DH is 1 inch taller and it's perfect.

Every man I know 6'1+ is partnered with a petite woman under 5'5.

I shall have to have my wife’s legs shortened by six or seven inches. It’ll be a faff getting all the cupbards lowered though.

I think most men tend to have a weak preference for women who are a few inches shorter than then, but it's not exactly top of their list of criteria.

@puffyisgood

I think most men tend to have a weak preference for women who are a few inches shorter than then, but it's not exactly top of their list of criteria.

I agree. I think the female preference for a taller man is much, much stronger than any male preference for a shorter woman.

You need to go on holiday to the Netherlands or Sweden, it’s normal to be tall so not an issue!

I'm a 5ft 7in man and I've had long term relationships with two women who were taller than me. One only slightly and one a good couple of inches.

It has never bothered me in the slightest if women are taller than me. I occasionally had comments from other (usually female) 'friends', but they're water off a ducks back. I thought the woman I was with gorgeous, who cares what other people think.

If a bloke is insecure about the fact a woman is taller than him, he's probably insecure about other things as well. At least this way you get to weed them out quickly

I would exclusively date guys taller than you. I did, shorter men made me feel unattractive, so I stopped dating them

You should try being short and fat OP. Dating is nonexistent.